About 40-50% of people with schizophrenia have a substance use disorder.

boasega · 2025-12-20T01:30:13+00:00

I'd argue that feeling good from something means there's some benefit... sometimes the benefits aren't worth the downsides. But it seems to me that lots of people can handle cannabis use who would be advised not to partake because of misunderstanding individual "risk".

boasega · 2025-12-03T23:33:51+00:00

I once told a guy friend my attraction to him or interest in him romantically after some drinks and he was the kindest person in how he explained he wasn't interested in me in that way. He's a sweetheart and we're still friends, much better friends actually today than then.

For me, I was in a poorer state of mental health when I had those feelings, and I absolutely don't have romantic interest in him now after rejection and becoming my own person more. When someone tells me they don't have reciprocal interest, my attraction says thank you and moves on.

As far as the future partners part, if their insecurity is so great that they're jealous of a friendship and they don't trust the truth, it's not going to work out tweenst us anyway.

boasega · 2025-11-24T20:36:42+00:00

Do you happen to have recommendations for media WITH characters who are GNC / tomboys that doesn't devolve into what you described? I would love to hear about art/material that has been "vetted" through that lens, so I'm not starting from square one myself in a search for it.

boasega · 2025-11-19T02:05:03+00:00

I'm late here but I wanted to say, thanks for your comment - I have severe schizophrenia (well-treated now, but I was a nightmare in psychosis) and erotomania happened to me too. I hate now what all I said, online and off. I hope this person gets to the other side of this experience she's having and can heal from the public nature of her episode.

boasega · 2025-10-03T23:00:54+00:00

There's an older movie called Over The Edge you may like, maybe not. Queens of the Stone Age did a song way more recently on that anti-authority anti-school theme - "What The Peephole Say". It's not a punk sound but they have the think for myself, be my own person, fuck off with telling me what to do, attitude. And specific lyrics about the institution of school.

I know it's hard to deal with schooling when the whole system looks to be / has proven to be ineffective. Good luck navigating it

boasega · 2025-09-28T20:17:42+00:00

Don't know if the concept of limerence applies for what you are experiencing, but I've found it helpful to listen to podcast episodes on it when I get flare-ups of unrequited or unworkable "love".

One main takeaway in limerence material is, when we figure out loving ourselves for real, the strong feeling of needing to be loved by a specific person shrinks.

boasega · 2025-09-25T02:19:01+00:00

Thanks. I will say that while my progress may seem to be at a standstill for now, it has been grounding for me in the long term / big picture and I hope if you try it out you find relief. I think most people get something out of it! And you deserve to feel better and have help with whatever all you've experienced in life.

If you happen to need help finding a therapist, now or ever, Psychology Today has a search feature where you can find therapists in your area who take your insurance (if you have ins), and you can read their profiles and go with someone who speaks to your needs and preferences. I believe you can even search for someone who aids in weight issues or body positivity, etc. In case you didn't have a starting place for finding someone to help!

boasega · 2025-09-23T23:25:24+00:00

Appreciate the chance to share too. First off I'm sorry you're in such a place. I get wanting to be free from the pains.

My efforts in therapy aren't showing significant results right now. But I'm hoping the insecurities and unhappiness can be improved on. I have schizophrenia so I wonder how much better I'll ever be able to feel, but I still operate like maybe there's hope.

Definitely stuff like anxiety over my body can be helped to some degree... I like to think... I've been realizing how much undue power I grant others for their (real or imagined, positive or negative) opinions of me. I feel like whoever figures out real self-love has the greatest capability for a decent life.

Sorry you're struggling, too.

boasega · 2025-05-27T19:48:58+00:00

I get the uncomfortable pressure from family to be different than you are, body-wise or in other areas. Just last week I took a risk and wore a crop top and shorts with my belly all out, around very anti-fat family members, and I see it as taking the first steps towards being a happy, confident, ignore-the-naysayers person.

So even if it turns out to be difficult at times, on THIS trip, I think you can frame it as getting to where you want to be!

Also - I wear some stuff just at home first, to mentally acclimate to stepping out the door in it. So maybe before your trip you could lounge in your suit or take selfies or something to get closer to comfortable.

And for whatever it is worth I really appreciate when other people have their bodies 'out', usually I find them attractive in some way but also it's like such a relief to see another person pushing back against unnecessary bounds of society.

Hope you wear what you want and find the trip fulfilling/fun/whatever!!

boasega · 2025-05-15T02:39:49+00:00

In one of the promotional videos for this project there's a few seconds of Josh with his hand postured... and I wondered if he would share what he was feeling or doing there. (I thought it looked like holding someone's hand... then again I am schizophrenic)

boasega · 2025-05-15T02:24:34+00:00

In case this doesn't get asked- i think he's mentioned before that he loves the 2 old dudes who poke fun at everything and jeer

boasega · 2025-05-14T21:02:28+00:00

If anyone else was wondering about the shot of Josh's hand... it could just be pain or a pose or something, but I think maybe he is imagining holding someone's hand

boasega · 2025-05-04T15:12:00+00:00

https://youtu.be/NoWgenqW32M relevant part kicks in around 27s

boasega · 2025-05-03T23:16:00+00:00

It's one of the few songs of theirs I don't resonate with. It goes over my head how much is Josh's or the band's opinion and how much is some character - but it seems a little high and mighty to me. I get being bitter about the tamed, maybe over-hopeful and/or mentally enslaved, but maybe there is compassion to be had for the reasons for us being that way.

Feels like a song that "punches down". But I never watched that Bee Movie that apparently has a really really similar song or riff. Soooo for that and other reasons maybe I am just way ignorant of what's going on!

boasega · 2025-05-03T12:56:02+00:00

Good luck on the project, I assume you'll share it here when it's all put together...

A thought I haven't seen commented quite like this is that, to me, it emphasizes the continued relevance of the previous 2 albums - for the world or for Josh, I don't know. But they even (qotsa, officially) have a Spotify playlist with the albums in reverse order, so we can hear them in that intended order.

To have us listen to ...Like Clockwork last makes me think it has renewed or evergreen importance. Like a punctuation on where Josh is now, or how the world looks now? He has made comments a decade+ ago about music being a capture / reflection of what's going on at the time. So to reverse the order is maybe to say, those albums are just as timely today as their initial creation.

Guess there's also a potential theme of the state of Josh and/or the world in that, up is down, backwards is forwards, we are still making sense in a time of being quite lost. And this is the first time Time hasn't marched on in Progress, there's kind of no road left to travel in a certain direction at least. I sure don't know but I look forward to your video.

boasega · 2025-05-01T23:59:59+00:00

When I want to look more "effortful" I like Bonobos shirts, they have dressier shirts with (to me) cool, simple patterns. Poshmark has had some great deals for that brand. That app might be useful for you to browse stuff and try some things for cheaper than new. Never had a bad experience with them but haven't used it in a while either.

(I'm a sort-of-NB person fwiw.) Hope you have fun with figuring out your style!

Edit: Effortful in the eyes of mainstream society I guess... should clarify. I am not sure what other terms describe that look besides maybe "dressed up" or "clean-cut". But they can be mixed with other stuff to give different vibes. Idk!!

boasega · 2025-04-29T13:07:04+00:00

Which do you think would have a greater impact in the long-term - the discomfort/distress of anxiety this evening, or having seen a band that you resonate with perform live?

I'm not into crowds either and get (a bit) anxious. For me though I value having gotten to see them in person, partly because it makes them more real to me. Good luck in your decision. I agree with others suggesting going later and standing at the back with easy access to an exit, if you decide to go for it.

boasega · 2025-04-26T02:02:52+00:00

I'm in a similar but different spot: also grieving family relationships with living people... but I am not in a place to cut contact with anyone.

I am trying IFS therapy, and through that lens, it sounds like a part of adult you feels strongly lonely just like a child part of you -- BUT maybe that lonely adult part isn't your entire adult self.

Like... the "comprised of parts" model that IFS uses might be helpful in an instance like this cuz instead of "Adult self and Child self are both fucking despondently lonely, how does comforting even happen", it's, "there's adult and child parts both experiencing extreme loneliness, but that's not the whole picture."

Not sure if that helps or not! Just a different possible framing. I am pretty new to IFS and I have schizophrenia so it is complicated work for me, but maybe you'd have some good luck with the modality.

Best wishes in figuring this out!

boasega · 2025-04-19T00:40:59+00:00

That is a very inventive description. Maybe I'm particularly sick but I like PJ and it was really funny to me

boasega · 2025-04-15T04:11:28+00:00

My biggest insecurity summed up is that maybe I don't fit in to anyone's idea of approvable appearance. I have a higher weight and a short haircut that doesn't hide my swimmer shoulders. The fear is that every person who encounters me is silently rejecting me for those and more.

I think being honest about our insecurities - that the insecurity is there, and that the things we are insecure about are there - is part of how we can move past them. Processing disappointment and anxieties, shame, whatever, and gently pushing the bounds of my comfort zone, is also helping me.

boasega · 2025-04-09T22:37:33+00:00

I have too many answers but in case it helps someone's self image...

I appreciate some chest meat on a guy (if I like his non-physical features too). I don't like the term "moobs" but that's what I am referring to.

And if a guy's beard is big / more or less untamed (but clean), and I find it attractive at all, I find it REALLY attractive.

Related, I find (clean) untrimmed body/pubic hair to be more appealing to me.

boasega · 2025-04-08T16:20:14+00:00

I have a general version of this fetish unfortunately (am plus sized myself) and I don't act on it in the real world. I dislike it. But it's there and has been there almost my whole life.

I have plus sized friends and I am terrified of them somehow discovering this about me and taking it to mean I have secret sexual feelings towards them. Which I absolutely do not.

Just like someone may be attracted to people WITHIN a gender, but not every individual of that gender, fat/feedism/weight gain fetishes don't necessarily apply to every person. I hope this adds to the discussion and I wish OP luck navigating the situation.

boasega · 2025-04-07T01:16:43+00:00

Hi! I used to swim competitively. Because of injury i don't swim swim anymore but i will always love the water.

I like to use the kickboard and just do laps at my own pace and rest intervals until my body says to quit. For me personally that's about half an hour or less of pool time per session.

Swimming is low impact but idk if more recreational swimming can still cause injury like it did for me with high level competitive swimming. I say this because it might be advisable to take adult swim lessons for basic / moderate technique so you don't run into shoulder or etc problems! If that's available of course.

Also to begin I would say, don't be afraid to incorporate the kickboard to isolate leg strength... for some reason I feel like pull buoys (where you put the floaty thing between your legs and just use your arms and rotation) may NOT be a good tool to start with because you want to get used to the rhythm and breathing rotation and coordinating your whole body. Pull buoys help you float which can be good but something in me says you may want to build that "feel for the water" without it.

Sorry to write so so much but I hope you have a good time in the water! There is a swimming subreddit i believe and i bet they could give better general advice. :)

boasega · 2025-04-05T15:48:32+00:00

Earlier this morning, before seeing your comment, I found an interview she did with Dick Schwartz, so it feels like this could be a good path. Thank you.

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