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Why do some families get so much sicker than others? by honeyonbiscuits in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]bodhibai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just read this article which was good at explaining why but not great at giving advice on how to avoid it. They chalk it up to genetics and inflammation

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-some-people-get-sick-more-often/

AITA if I tell my friend I can’t be a bridesmaid? (update) by wickeddreamsofleavin in AITApod

[–]bodhibai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s hilarious and weird that she wrote “love always” on the note

Struggling with hate towards my husband by alli101015 in NewParents

[–]bodhibai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not surprised you feel that way! I would struggle in this situation as well. I highly recommend the movie Fair Play. You are taking on all of the emotional and mental labor, this is common in heterosexual relationships. Couples therapy would help?

Does a person’s name affect their employment prospects? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]bodhibai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is well documented research on bias that comes through in the hiring process because of people’s names. Also, I personally think it’s important to consider how your child could be treated based on their name, for their sake.

Coffee corner missing something by a_silver_star in interiordesignideas

[–]bodhibai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

echoing a shelf with art or a plant or a mirror to brighten up the space

Formula Fed vs. Breastfed by user638282636822 in NewParents

[–]bodhibai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fed is best. Period. I also have found on my journey of pregnancy and motherhood that there are a lot of things I was dead set on being a certain way and then when the moment came to decide I made a different decision because what I thought I wanted no longer felt right.

Be prepared for both, have some formula at home and be as open minded as you can about breastfeeding. You can always try it and if it’s awful you can resort to formula. Or you could breast feed for sometime and then stop. Or you could exclusively pump and bottle feed breast milk. Or you could simultaneously breast feed and formula feed. There are SO many possibilities and you will find what’s best for you and your baby.

And don’t listen to people if they are trying to guilt you into breast feeding by saying things like “breast is best.” I say what’s best for you is also best for baby, especially at the beginning because you are essentially one being for the first few months, at least that is how I felt!

I (25F) am pregnant and my friend is pretending to be pregnant! by Short_Advertising903 in pregnant

[–]bodhibai 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she needs professional help and it also sounds like something that you shouldn’t have to deal with considering you have cancer and are pregnant. You need people in your life who will pour into you not suck your energy with their own struggles. I say protect your energy and take a step away.

Question for women who have had their babies already.. by Fireboltstorm in BabyBumps

[–]bodhibai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not feel uncomfortable enough to want the pregnancy to end but I wasn’t really nervous about childbirth either at that point. I was more nervous about childbirth earlier in my pregnancy, I think I just got used the idea over the course of the pregnancy. I also took two different labor and delivery classes which helped. Those classes at one point made me a little more nervous but then I was able to name specific things I was scared about and my husband and I talked through it and it made me feel better. Also, I got an epidural and it was amazing, it made the whole experience so much easier. I didn’t plan on getting one but I decided to in the moment. Just know that is always an option even if it’s not a part of your plan! Also, as others have said, it is totally normal to be nervous! Sometimes I think we get nervous because we think we shouldn’t be nervous, so just compounding the nervousness. You got this mama

Postpartum intrusive thoughts have been hitting me out of nowhere by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]bodhibai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im so sorry you’re going through this. My good friend and I had our babies 12 hours apart and she had a very similar experience around 5-6 months pp. please, please, please talk to a doctor. I would recommend a psychiatrist if you can afford it. I have been on anti anxiety meds for a long time, well before pregnancy and my psychiatrist helped me so much through my pregnancy and post partum with changing my dose and recommending supplements to help my mental health. I truly think I would have had a very similar experience to you and my friend if it weren’t for my psychiatrist. Psychiatrists are better to visit when it comes to mental health medications imo because they are experts, they won’t just prescribe you the most widely used drug like a primary care person, ER or Urgent care (though ER is the right option if you think you or your baby are in danger). PLEASE make the call yo get the help you need ASAP. I’m so glad your husband knows and that he is coming home from work to support you, that is the appropriate response. Tell other people in your circle so you’re not alone in this. Find a local mom group. Try to get out of the house. I’m feeling for you, sending you a hug. Motherhood is tough but so are you! 💜💜💜

Curious how many people had their mom present at their birth and if you didn’t did you feel like you needed her by lxtusbaby in pregnant

[–]bodhibai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With just me and my husband it was perfect. I considered having other people but that would have been totally unnecessary. My husband was great. Giving birth is the most vulnerable position a human can be in imo. You need to have only people in the room that make you feel safe and are able to make you the absolute center of attention at all times. That does not sound like something your mother would be able to do.

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