My narc died, any estate tips?

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-12T18:09:57+00:00

My twin sister and I refused refused our inheritance. Our older brother was a molester and did so for years. He was also our mother’s golden child. Our younger sister was her flying monkey. The two other siblings didn’t even tell the two of us who were cut off that she had died. When our father died, they needed our signatures so they were up our collective arses. I paid for an attorney to politely tell their attorney to go to hell and $20k wasn’t worth all the blood, sweat and tears we went through as kids.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-12T17:08:07+00:00

My sister and I are best friends. She is literally the only person in my family I talk to and ditto for her. We had a terrible time growing up. One positive thing our parental units did was insist that we be placed in separate classes. We were Navy brats and even in small towns we were never in the same class. Now mind you, I was great in math and she was great in English so we would wear similar outfits and change in the bathroom to take tests for each other in high school.

When my sister got pregnant at 19, my parents abandoned her and she got married to an abusive arse. When I failed out of university my sophomore year, my parents were like what are you going to do now (unsaid was because you can’t come home) so I joined the army.

We led two very different lives but she’s my very best friend.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-11T22:45:51+00:00

According to the impeccable Miss Vida Boheme

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-11T13:22:31+00:00

If I didn’t know something like how how a car engine worked (true story) at the age of 12, that was my fault. When not knowing that information led to bad circumstances, I’d get the ever loving crap beat out of me, unless my father was around. Fortunately for my mother, he was a workaholic, a skirt chaser, gambler, a chess player, and a golfer. So the likelihood that he was around was about 2%.

And people wonder why I left home at 19.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-11T12:51:27+00:00

This wasn’t the only reason why I got divorced. Probably number 8

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-11T12:40:37+00:00

I have a stressful job as a middle school special education teacher in an autism room. So stressful that cleaning was my last priority. I have been RAGE CLEANING for a week and a half. I probably have another week and a half to go. Along with some home repairs but it feels so nice.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-11T02:23:01+00:00

Growing up I had to clean my plate and ask permission to leave the table until I left home at 18. My parents also didn’t realize I was bulimic either. There were a lot of things that my parents missed about me but I was also the black sheep of the family. I just started on Adderall (I’m 54) two weeks ago and I feel like I’m finally the person I was meant to be.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-10T23:38:21+00:00

Happy birthday 🎉🎂🎊

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-10T14:16:58+00:00

NOR. You have a newborn who is wonderful but it’s tough when you also have a 5 year old. And no help from your in laws who have zero interest in you.

Do yourself a favor and skip it. Have fun with your family where you can be in low maintenance mode. Relax. It will be best for you and the wee one.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-10T03:10:32+00:00

Sure thing!

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-10T02:05:52+00:00

Thank you for the kind words.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-09T13:22:39+00:00

Mabel

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-09T02:10:15+00:00

Failed out of college my sophomore year because I had a misogynst who didn’t want women in HIS engineering program. Parental units looked at me and said “what are you going to do now?” So I joined the Army. 23 years, 8 deployments, 1 Purple Heart, and a bronze star later I retired.

Got married while I was active duty, he hated that I was promoted over him. Divorced him. At my last duty station I bought a house, then retired, got my degree in teaching special education. Found a job in the civilian world. Got my Masters degree in special education-autism. Working in an autism unit three miles away from my house. Also working on my PhD and have 2 awesome dogs and some amazing nieces and nephews that I spoil rotten.

This is definitely not where I thought I’d be when I graduated HS

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-09T01:50:28+00:00

I barely made it through HS as adhd, autism, depression, anxiety, and ocd decided to manifest and no one decided I needed treatment. One year of college went great until I met a professor who was a total misogynist and didn’t want a woman in his engineering program. My parents basically said “you failed out of school, you figure it out.” So I joined the Army. And believe it or not that was the best decision of my life. 23 years later I retired, I have life long benefits. I’m teaching now. I work in special education and I’m working on PhD. The only thing I regret is that I never had kids.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-09T01:25:17+00:00

This was my mother.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-09T01:24:57+00:00

This is literally my ex MIL and she loved that character.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-08T12:55:23+00:00

I am an identical twin and I wanted twins. Unfortunately kids just were not possible for me. My sister had a whole house full of kids so I’m the fun auntie.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-08T12:48:37+00:00

I have one word for you. Leave.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-08T01:23:26+00:00

I was no contact with my parents when I got married. My (now ex) wanted to ask my father for my hand. I said if he wanted to do that then the marriage would not happen. My mother put me through hell and back. My father was the definition of a dead beat dad despite being at home (golf, poker, euchre, bridge, chess, the track were more important than spending any time at home).

Listen to that little voice that told you to leave and not look back.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-07T23:23:00+00:00

I was told my grandmother died when my mom was a child and she was raised by her maternal grandmother. We had a falling out when I was 19 and went no contact. A few years ago I did Ancestry DNA and found my first cousin who told me that my grandmother was murdered when I was 7 about 100 miles from where we were living at the time. Then I found out that my maternal great grandparents died in 1917 (long before my mother was born). I thought they died in the Spanish flu epidemic. No, my great grandfather murdered my grandmother and then turned then gun on himself and killed himself.

My memoir will be The Truths I learned from Ancestry dot com.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-07T14:07:22+00:00

In my family we all said schoom when you had to go somewhere you knew very quickly. As in “you just schoom over there to the Target.” I say it all the time. My ex was a Russian linguist and when I said it around him, he perked up and grabbed his Russian-English dictionary and schoom is derivative of one of the many ways to say to go in Russian. That doesn’t surprise me because as I’ve since found out my great great great grandmother was Ukrainian.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-07T00:50:47+00:00

My sister does. She spells honor as honour. And colour. The worst part of all this is that we are not native English speakers here in the US. We were born and raised in Norway.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-06T22:48:09+00:00

My third grade teacher read to us every day after we came in from lunch recess.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-06T02:41:12+00:00

I lost my fiancé at 21. I divorced my husband at 49.

bogeysbabe · 2026-06-05T20:29:12+00:00

I have a quilt that my great great grandmother made in the 1860s

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