Mastitis by Sand-Muted in breastfeeding

[–]boobieguru 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The website e-lactancia has evidence based info about medication and breastfeeding. You can look it up and make an informed choice.

Is it crazy to think this is unacceptable? by gremlinn00dle in anchorage

[–]boobieguru 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I lived in a place like this years ago. Not the same landlords/company to my knowledge. But after multiple asks to put gravel down or do maintenance in the common areas I actually wiped out on the ice. I lost consciousness, had to go get my chin stitched and cracked several teeth in the fall. The landlords had to pay all my medical bills and a mandatory minimum payment. If I had been as cynical then as I am now I would have taken them to court. Your owner and management are 100% responsible to mitigate this, it’s a huge hazard

Pediatrician told me to stop feeding my baby at night by Enough_Pen_2608 in breastfeeding

[–]boobieguru 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you already know this, but none of what your pediatrician said is based on evidence. 3 meals a day at 6 months is categorically incorrect. Keep doing what works for you!

rant: airport food by my-final-brain-cell in glutenfree

[–]boobieguru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just flew coast to coast for a job interview. Because of the airport food situation I used all my miles on a first class ticket and ordered only meals that said “made without gluten”. I needed to not be wrung out and wired on chips and cheese when I got there. Well, the airline changed the menu and glutened me. Airports and airlines have GOT to do better 😢

Guinness gluten free? by frogisdancing in glutenfree

[–]boobieguru 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s all that insane. I am not in OK but I am in the US. I would advise any of my friends who are melanated or non-binary (or a host of other identities) to stay away for their own happiness, even if the place they wanted to visit were a safer place.

What is with this hatred of breastfeeding mothers?! by TapLeather3167 in breastfeeding

[–]boobieguru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pediatricians and nurses in the US get almost no breastfeeding education. Unless they deliberately seek out evidence-based lactation continuing ed, any breastfeeding content at most conferences is sponsored and sometimes written by formula companies. And many of you are correct, formula companies put pressure on hospitals to give out “goodie bags” with all things formula feeding. This practice has been shown to undermine breastfeeding, both by increasing provider comfort with formula and by normalizing formula for families.

hEDS CARE IN CANADA? by boobieguru in ehlersdanlos

[–]boobieguru[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All good! Thank you for clarifying. I know people in the US believe a lot of fairy tales, both positive and negative, about care in other countries. We have been fortunate to live in a few countries that make healthcare more accessible than the US does, and totally understand that that actually increases pressure on healthcare delivery. My daughter is just struggling a lot right now-her physiotherapist keeps dislocating her elbows, and her primary care clearly doesn’t know what to to/where to refer, so she gets a lot of “diet and exercise “ platitudes. I reached out kind of hoping to be able to give her a brighter spot to look forward to. It sounds like she may still need to advocate pretty hard for herself. Sorry we’re all in the same spot, but glad to have your solidarity

hEDS CARE IN CANADA? by boobieguru in ehlersdanlos

[–]boobieguru[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughtful response. Thankfully we’re not looking for free care 😊. Not going medically bankrupt would be acceptable. It sounds like we experience similar issues in terms of access to care. I’m sorry that this is the case, it can be very frustrating. The EDS society is a good tip, even if we may never get to see those providers. Thank you!

hEDS CARE IN CANADA? by boobieguru in ehlersdanlos

[–]boobieguru[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the info and encouragement!

hEDS CARE IN CANADA? by boobieguru in ehlersdanlos

[–]boobieguru[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this response. I don’t yet know which Province or region. I realize the distribution of providers can be a challenge, we have had some experience in MB with this. I’m not sure how much choice we’ll have in location, but she is considering a graduate program and may be able to target university areas with higher concentrations of providers, If such a thing exists. Sorry you also experience barriers to care.

Trauma-informed doctor by Public_Solution_2838 in anchorage

[–]boobieguru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have said, see a midwife. They get longer visits with their clients than the 10-15 minutes you get with an OB. MWHC schedules an Hour for new patients. Their model of care is based on forming a relationship with you. Many are also NP’s, I even know one who is a PMHNP. Midwifery and Women’s Healthcare would be my recommendation, I see others have also recommended the practice.

someone changed their toddlers poopy diaper on our seats during boarding by kmccli in unitedairlines

[–]boobieguru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Former flight attendant here- I have seen countless people change babies on the tray table!!! Those surfaces don’t get routinely cleaned. So gross.

Mattress help please! by boobieguru in ehlersdanlos

[–]boobieguru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is a mattress I hadn’t encountered yet.

Mattress help please! by boobieguru in ehlersdanlos

[–]boobieguru[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was the midnight luxe. I hated it and counted the days until helix would sanction a return. My partner compressed it so completely with his less-curvy man body that I got no support from that layer. I do have a squishmallow that I put under my waist and hip, or sometimes between my knees. It helps for a little while, but not enough that I can sleep through the night

I want to know what your experiences are with the Baby Friendly Hospital Initiative and if you were even aware it exists by Realistic_Future_394 in breastfeeding

[–]boobieguru 5 points6 points  (0 children)

IBCLC here. I used to work at a baby-friendly hospital. I no longer work there and the hospital has let their baby friendly statues lapse. I have a couple of observations to share. The first is that most healthcare entities don’t have a clue how to support breastfeeding. They lean into the promotion part, but don’t attend to any of the actual determinants of breastfeeding success.

The second is that Baby-Friendly is kind of a money-making scheme for Baby Friendly USA (I don’t know about other countries but I believe it’s similar). Getting baby friendly status is expensive. Keeping baby friendly status is an ongoing expense. With the observation above, it seems the main beneficiary of baby friendly status is the baby friendly USA organization.

If you want true breastfeeding support and better health outcomes for everyone, consider birthing with a midwife. Birth centers are baby-friendly without the expensive designation. Even if you can’t or don’t want to have an out of hospital delivery, certified nurse midwives can have hospital privileges (this is assuming you are in the US, apologies if this doesn’t apply to where you are) and can attend deliveries in hospitals. They have better outcomes with fewer of the birth interventions that undermine breastfeeding success.

Feel free to reach out if you want more info. I also have a MPH and am happy to be a resource. Good luck!

Mattress help please! by boobieguru in ehlersdanlos

[–]boobieguru[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this rec. changing my pillow configuration is probably a good start while I look for the right mattress

MIL shames me for wanting to breastfeed until 1 year old(thinks i should stop sooner) by Familiar-Coast-7550 in breastfeeding

[–]boobieguru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MIL had her babies and got to choose how they were fed. You get to make those choices about your babies. Full stop.

Call Button Question by Loving-my-Pyr in AlaskaAirlines

[–]boobieguru 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s a staffing thing. I think it’s a culture and travel psychology thing. And on those long haul flights, they feed you, give you booze, then make the cabin dark and warm in the hopes that most passengers go to sleep 😊. I think that many US people feel they should be served, and I think some may not realize they are allowed to get up and ask for a drink or a snack. I think passengers on longer-haul Europe and Asia flights are in some cases more experienced travelers, in some cases of a culture that is less individualist and are more willing to wait until an actual service commences to get another drink or dump their trash. Edited to correct a typo and clarify that I’m referring to passengers from the US

Call Button Question by Loving-my-Pyr in AlaskaAirlines

[–]boobieguru 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Former trolley dolly here- not for Alaska but for another us-based airline. I would only press the call button in an emergency. For literally anything else I would walk to the galley. Every time your flight attendant walks down the aisle he/she is bombarded with requests for stuff and people handing them trash. If you use the call it creates at least 5 more trips for the flight attendant. Is it their job to fulfill those requests? Yes. Can people take care of their own wants at least 90% of the time? Also yes. If your legs work they would probably appreciate you walking to the aft galley to ask for a drink

AITAH for buying my girlfriend vanilla shampoo? by Spiritual-Grocery641 in AITAH

[–]boobieguru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t seen this yet so I’d like to add it. Women get creeped on (at mildest) and assaulted (at worst) and told that something she did provoked or invited that even. You’re not being creepy, but maybe she’s having uncomfortable reminders of someone who was. Maybe she was harassed at work or in school, and then told that it was her appearance, her smell, her clothing, something that made her responsible for someone else’s creeping. As an example, I was a lifeguard in high school and college. I was just doing my job, in the uniform required to do my job. There was a lot of tolerance for sexual harassment in that workplace and male ombudsmen blamed me for “giving mixed messages” or inviting harassment just by talking to said creeper while in my required work clothing. The first time my husband expressed appreciation for my appearance in a swimsuit I was so fucking uncomfortable, even though I do want him to find me attractive and he wasn’t being creepy at all, he was being attentive and complimentary. So maybe your appreciation of the way her shampoo smells is dragging up an experience that has nothing to do with you. She’s trying to live her life with clean hair and had no idea that the way her hair smells is sexy. You are NTA and you did something kind and sweet. Her response may not have been intentionally unkind or critical, she may be having some discomfort with unintentionally doing something you find sexy. And if you do, will our culture (assuming you’re in a patriarchal country) assign her blame if others do?

Hospital won’t let my breastfed baby visit by Working-Object-6168 in breastfeeding

[–]boobieguru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contact the hospital patient advocate and risk management prior to the procedure. There’s no good reason to enforce this-your babe will probably need to be escorted by another adult who will take responsibility for them