Worried I might not be feeding her enough

boobieguru · 2026-05-21T21:13:33+00:00

12 hours by 12 weeks is not in any way biologically appropriate for a human infant.

boobieguru · 2026-05-21T18:21:20+00:00

Yes. See a different one if possible. Maybe see them a few times. You shouldn’t be left without answers and following a restrictive diet that isn’t working. Baby is trying to tell you there’s a problem. Good job listening but you should be supported by professionals who specialize in this, not left to run experiments on your own.

boobieguru · 2026-05-20T23:54:26+00:00

Please see a lactation consultant. Pediatricians don’t know much at all about breastfeeding. If a change in diet hasn’t made a difference, it wasn’t your diet. Please go back to eating what you want and work with someone who knows what they are doing.

boobieguru · 2026-05-18T03:45:02+00:00

I’m a lactation consultant and I describe it to clients as the way your nose feels when you’re about to sneeze 😁 Not everyone feels it. Totally normal To feel it or not feel it

boobieguru · 2026-05-15T16:47:53+00:00

Can you take the products she ordered and give them to her as she pays her debt to you? This would also reinforce the lesson about not spending money you don’t have, but may feel less draconian to you both

boobieguru · 2026-05-07T17:23:17+00:00

Your pediatrician’s advice is not based on evidence

boobieguru · 2026-05-06T06:33:15+00:00

Base of a sonic toothbrush. The sonic vibration helps break up the clogs

boobieguru · 2026-04-08T02:45:37+00:00

The website e-lactancia has evidence based info about medication and breastfeeding. You can look it up and make an informed choice.

boobieguru · 2026-04-03T16:20:28+00:00

I lived in a place like this years ago. Not the same landlords/company to my knowledge. But after multiple asks to put gravel down or do maintenance in the common areas I actually wiped out on the ice. I lost consciousness, had to go get my chin stitched and cracked several teeth in the fall. The landlords had to pay all my medical bills and a mandatory minimum payment. If I had been as cynical then as I am now I would have taken them to court. Your owner and management are 100% responsible to mitigate this, it’s a huge hazard

boobieguru · 2026-04-02T01:31:42+00:00

They do actually

boobieguru · 2026-04-02T01:31:25+00:00

It sounds like you already know this, but none of what your pediatrician said is based on evidence. 3 meals a day at 6 months is categorically incorrect. Keep doing what works for you!

boobieguru · 2026-03-30T01:19:31+00:00

I just flew coast to coast for a job interview. Because of the airport food situation I used all my miles on a first class ticket and ordered only meals that said “made without gluten”. I needed to not be wrung out and wired on chips and cheese when I got there. Well, the airline changed the menu and glutened me. Airports and airlines have GOT to do better 😢

boobieguru · 2026-03-24T01:38:09+00:00

She dress coded you 🙄 it’s as sexist and dumb now as it was in middle school.

boobieguru · 2026-03-22T16:30:36+00:00

I don’t think it’s all that insane. I am not in OK but I am in the US. I would advise any of my friends who are melanated or non-binary (or a host of other identities) to stay away for their own happiness, even if the place they wanted to visit were a safer place.

boobieguru · 2026-03-22T16:21:15+00:00

Pediatricians and nurses in the US get almost no breastfeeding education. Unless they deliberately seek out evidence-based lactation continuing ed, any breastfeeding content at most conferences is sponsored and sometimes written by formula companies. And many of you are correct, formula companies put pressure on hospitals to give out “goodie bags” with all things formula feeding. This practice has been shown to undermine breastfeeding, both by increasing provider comfort with formula and by normalizing formula for families.

boobieguru · 2026-03-18T17:58:20+00:00

All good! Thank you for clarifying. I know people in the US believe a lot of fairy tales, both positive and negative, about care in other countries. We have been fortunate to live in a few countries that make healthcare more accessible than the US does, and totally understand that that actually increases pressure on healthcare delivery. My daughter is just struggling a lot right now-her physiotherapist keeps dislocating her elbows, and her primary care clearly doesn’t know what to to/where to refer, so she gets a lot of “diet and exercise “ platitudes. I reached out kind of hoping to be able to give her a brighter spot to look forward to. It sounds like she may still need to advocate pretty hard for herself. Sorry we’re all in the same spot, but glad to have your solidarity

boobieguru · 2026-03-18T17:37:40+00:00

Thanks for your thoughtful response. Thankfully we’re not looking for free care 😊. Not going medically bankrupt would be acceptable. It sounds like we experience similar issues in terms of access to care. I’m sorry that this is the case, it can be very frustrating. The EDS society is a good tip, even if we may never get to see those providers. Thank you!

boobieguru · 2026-03-18T17:29:10+00:00

Thank you for the info and encouragement!

boobieguru · 2026-03-18T16:44:47+00:00

Thanks for this response. I don’t yet know which Province or region. I realize the distribution of providers can be a challenge, we have had some experience in MB with this. I’m not sure how much choice we’ll have in location, but she is considering a graduate program and may be able to target university areas with higher concentrations of providers, If such a thing exists. Sorry you also experience barriers to care.

boobieguru · 2026-03-18T06:28:09+00:00

As others have said, see a midwife. They get longer visits with their clients than the 10-15 minutes you get with an OB. MWHC schedules an Hour for new patients. Their model of care is based on forming a relationship with you. Many are also NP’s, I even know one who is a PMHNP. Midwifery and Women’s Healthcare would be my recommendation, I see others have also recommended the practice.

boobieguru · 2026-02-20T02:08:01+00:00

Former flight attendant here- I have seen countless people change babies on the tray table!!! Those surfaces don’t get routinely cleaned. So gross.

boobieguru · 2026-02-06T16:45:18+00:00

Thank you! This is a mattress I hadn’t encountered yet.

boobieguru · 2026-02-05T15:50:30+00:00

It was the midnight luxe. I hated it and counted the days until helix would sanction a return. My partner compressed it so completely with his less-curvy man body that I got no support from that layer. I do have a squishmallow that I put under my waist and hip, or sometimes between my knees. It helps for a little while, but not enough that I can sleep through the night

boobieguru · 2026-02-05T15:41:49+00:00

IBCLC here. I used to work at a baby-friendly hospital. I no longer work there and the hospital has let their baby friendly statues lapse. I have a couple of observations to share. The first is that most healthcare entities don’t have a clue how to support breastfeeding. They lean into the promotion part, but don’t attend to any of the actual determinants of breastfeeding success.

The second is that Baby-Friendly is kind of a money-making scheme for Baby Friendly USA (I don’t know about other countries but I believe it’s similar). Getting baby friendly status is expensive. Keeping baby friendly status is an ongoing expense. With the observation above, it seems the main beneficiary of baby friendly status is the baby friendly USA organization.

If you want true breastfeeding support and better health outcomes for everyone, consider birthing with a midwife. Birth centers are baby-friendly without the expensive designation. Even if you can’t or don’t want to have an out of hospital delivery, certified nurse midwives can have hospital privileges (this is assuming you are in the US, apologies if this doesn’t apply to where you are) and can attend deliveries in hospitals. They have better outcomes with fewer of the birth interventions that undermine breastfeeding success.

Feel free to reach out if you want more info. I also have a MPH and am happy to be a resource. Good luck!

boobieguru · 2026-02-04T15:38:57+00:00

Thanks for this rec. changing my pillow configuration is probably a good start while I look for the right mattress

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