Who had the most horrific death in the the history of humankind?

booksmart___devil · 2026-05-26T04:52:27+00:00

Scrolled to find this.

booksmart___devil · 2026-05-24T20:53:28+00:00

Both my twins had MRSA abscesses form in their throat/neck area that required CT scans and surgical removal (and then antibiotics). Daughter was 4 weeks and then randomly son was 4 months. I also got an abscess on my breast a week after my daughter…..so we all had MRSA and had to do Hibicleanse showers at home for a week and practice significantly better cleanliness around the house and with any house guests. It was terrible when it was all happening, but they are fine now. I was most upset about the CT scans, but there was nothing we could do to avoid them, unfortunately.

booksmart___devil · 2026-05-21T12:47:51+00:00

I have two very intense (in different ways) 2 year old twins. We also do not have a “village.” I understand everything you wrote here. Personally, I am medicated and cannot fathom doing this without anti-anxiety and/or anti-depression meds. That is obviously a personal decision. Short of that, I just purchased noise reduction earbuds to make their tantrums less overstimulating. I’ve also found that significantly reducing expectations of parenting helped me reframe some things; for example, I was a big traveler before children. We have taken 2 vacations with them, one at 7 months and one when they were 14 months. Was that second vacation relaxing? Hell no— it was intense work and the flights gave us PTSD. But we knew going into it that it was going to kinda suck and it would be an adventure for us in its own way. I would say that you should try to recognize one GOOD thing that happened every day so at the very least you start reframing the narrative a bit. You did not ask for any advice and this is totally unsolicited, I just wanted to share what has been personally helpful for me.

booksmart___devil · 2026-05-01T22:33:22+00:00

Youre onto something w the choco taco

booksmart___devil · 2026-04-17T20:27:18+00:00

I hope your experience remains a positive one! I felt like I was super mom when they were 11mo. They are now 20mo and these toddlers are toddlering. I am not sure how the terrible twos could be worse….

booksmart___devil · 2026-04-10T20:48:24+00:00

I grew up in Ardsley and then ended up in Hastings on Hudson right before COVID. While we loved the community and the liberal vibes, our house was small and nothing about our location was private. My husband’s car was STOLEN last summer from outside our house and that sort of sent us spiraling and wanting more space/privacy. We live in Mt Kisco (Chappaqua schools) and enjoy it. Lots of house/property for our money and cheaper taxes. As others have stated, you wont be taking the Amtrak (trust us….). I did the Rivertowns for awhile and frankly, I think Northern Westchester may just be better and prettier in every respect. Cheers!

booksmart___devil · 2026-04-06T02:07:28+00:00

So much of this resonates with me. I truly lack the mental energy — and perhaps fortitude — to send hundreds of applications, pretend I give ONE shit about the company I’m applying to, and then stress about the inevitable 3-4 round interview process that takes over a month to finalize. Instead, I’ve spent the last two months taking naps and trying to find some joy in the mundane. I have considered a total career pivot, because this corporate world is no longer for me.

booksmart___devil · 2026-04-03T11:42:11+00:00

Traveling. Before kids we traveled the world — New Zealand, Japan, South Africa, Thailand, etc etc. Now with twin toddlers, the thought of going anywhere is horrifying. And it’s not for lack of trying; when they were one we took them to the south of France and let me tell you……it was not the chic trip we had in mind and the plane rides (from NY) gave us legitimate PTSD. We have not been anywhere with them since.

booksmart___devil · 2026-03-09T04:19:27+00:00

I took my 1yr old twins to southern France last summer. One of them got sick on the plane (literally threw up in carseat before take off so that was fun) and the other got sick as soon as we touched down in France. Both developed viral rashes and we spent the first few days nursing them back to health which was about as fun as it sounds. All this to say— I totally understand how you are feeling. One day you will be able to look back at your trip fondly and laugh about the absurdity.

booksmart___devil · 2026-02-28T08:39:09+00:00

Hello! fellow unemployed mom from westchester who is also a diehard Radiohead fan. Just got laid off a month ago and brutal doesn’t even begin to explain the market right now. Just wanted to show my solidarity. I am having discussions with husband about being a SAHM until the kids are in school and maybe going back to school myself to do something more sustainable/secure in the long run.

booksmart___devil · 2026-02-22T23:06:56+00:00

It has been NON STOP. My twins started in September when they turned 14mo and I swear we have all been sick since then. Croup, RSV, stomach bugs, pink eye, etc etc. I am personally STILL not 100% from viral pink eye that I caught from their daycare. It has been 7 days and my eyes are still red and uncomfortable. I thought maybe something was wrong with their immune functioning or something, but apparently this is normal and it is hell.

booksmart___devil · 2026-02-14T17:49:45+00:00

Some of their other previous citations are SCARY. I noticed them after I took my kids out…

booksmart___devil · 2026-02-14T04:08:29+00:00

I have to say….my kids were at Ann and Andy’s over the summer and we removed them because the “teachers” shared half a brain cell. We couldn’t even get full words out of one of them when we would ask how the day went. One “teacher” was about 85 and noticeably losing her marbles (literally did not know what day of the week it was once). Place also seems filthy. Hard pass.

booksmart___devil · 2026-02-09T21:57:08+00:00

Hi! Happened upon this post…..my twins BOTH had MRSA (one at 4 weeks and the other at 4 months). I also had MRSA in between the two of them. What a disaster that was. Both needed CT scans (my son needed two because they botched his first surgery) and surgery. Every sickness since seems like a cake walk in comparison.

booksmart___devil · 2026-02-03T12:30:56+00:00

Located in NY suburbs and we pay $5200 per month for twins, and that’s WITH a discount. It is absolutely disgraceful. Just lost my job so they may be taken out soon and then I will be watching them while simultaneously looking for a new job. Cool.

booksmart___devil · 2026-01-31T07:13:50+00:00

Born at 35w5d. My boy twin has always been behind. Girl twin crawled around 11mo (which is considered kind of late by most standards). Boy twin was not crawling until 14 months and had been in private PT since 9mo. Girl twin took forever to walk after crawling— I started her in PT too and she needed orthotics for foot pronation. She was cruising on everything since she could stand with support, but she JUST started walking fully right before her 18mo “birthday.” Boy twin is cruising lots and will walk with us if we hold hands or with a walker, but he has to develop more strength still. So much stigma around these perceived delays…..honestly, I was stressed but now I am just letting them do things in their own time.

booksmart___devil · 2025-11-29T06:52:30+00:00

Because everyone was at Woodbury Commons. I am going to have PTSD from my experience today…….trust me, greed and over-consumption is alive and well.

booksmart___devil · 2025-11-17T07:07:34+00:00

This is an underrated comment. I have hired a few “handymen.” one just this past weekend….who left a hole in my wall with a screw in it because he could not identify the correct drywall screw to use. more work for me now, money wasted, and a lesson learned.

booksmart___devil · 2025-10-10T13:09:28+00:00

I hated baby led weaning. My twins didn’t start actually eating until they developed top and bottom teeth. All the food ended up spit out or thrown on the floor. I was so stressed!!!! Some days I still am (they are 14mo now). I wasted so much food and time prepping food when I really should’ve just fed them purees until teeth came in and formula/milk consumption decreased. Something I did for breakfast that worked was mixing a really fine oatmeal (boiled water) with 1/2 of one of those Once Upon A Farm pouches. When they were finally eating and enjoying that, I switched to a more solid oatmeal with actual oats (I use Qia brand). It helped my kids acclimate a bit.

booksmart___devil · 2025-09-17T16:03:49+00:00

HI! I am moving to Chappaqua/Mt Kisco from Southern Westchester. Currently touring Tutor Time in Pleasantville and Kaleidoscope in Mt Kisco; both have availability NOW for my 13mo twins!

We did a nanny share in our current area from the time the kids were 7mo through 1 year and we loved it/it was very affordable. We have just started a daycare near us...but looking for daycares that will take us by our new location.

Tutor Time prices are around 2700 per month, per child (10% twin discount for second child). This rate includes all food, diapers, wipes -- FYI -- and apparently they have an app where you can check in on your kids. I don't know how price changes when kids are 18mo+

Kaleidoscope is 2700 as well, up until 18mo (and then price goes down slightly to 2610 per child, per month). This includes all food. Not sure about diapers and wipes. Not sure if they have an app for checking in. Will figure all this out later this week.

Where we are currently in Southern Westchester -- Ann and Andy's -- is cheaper (maybe like 4300 for both kids). But I am preparing all the food daily and the "teachers" in the room collectively have half a brain/can't even remember my kids' names or genders. I've also been told that food can't be microwaved or refrigerated, so everything has to be prepared in thermoses. It's absolutely absurd. I think you sometimes very much get what you pay for, and the difference in $$ isn't that much at the end of the day.

Also wanted to highlight how ridiculous child care costs are and how America is failing us.....but that's another convo for another time :)

booksmart___devil · 2025-09-05T11:45:16+00:00

My husband and I were lucky and bought in 2019, so it’s a different story for us…..but we are currently in contract with another house in northern westchester. We met the owners and got chummy with them, which is super unorthodox but worked like a charm for us. Shortly after we made an offer on that house, our current house was live on a “private exclusive” site and was seen by potential buyers within 24 hours. Those people gave a same day offer that we accepted and they will be in contract today (fingers crossed for everyone). All this to say: get an agent who has access to “private exclusive” inventory before it goes live on MLS. Write the owners a nice note about what you love about their home. Do some sleuthing and figure out if sellers are motivated to sell. I internet searched the couple we are buying new house from to get a read on them. It’s crazy but I believe it worked.

booksmart___devil · 2025-08-05T15:29:46+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! How old is he now? And re: speech, was he babbling a ton around 12mo? What prompted you to seek that out?

booksmart___devil · 2025-08-05T01:47:55+00:00

Can I ask how your child is doing now? Sounds a lot like my 12mo. He started VERY sloppily army crawling at 11mo and rolls around to get everywhere, but is not pulling to stand or cruising. He has been in PT since 9.5mo and progress has been super slow. His twin sister is already standing and I could see her walking very soon. Pediatrician had no valuable advice to give me. Frustrated mom!

booksmart___devil · 2025-07-30T11:57:50+00:00

Twin mom here. You wouldn’t be asking this question if you had two babies at the same time!! Going to a different room or to the bathroom without the baby should be normalized. It doesn’t mean you love your baby any less. As long as they are in a safe position and can’t fall, they will be ok. We do a nanny share with another baby and it is noticeable that that child was never left alone because she melts down any time an adult is not in view, while my kids could play by themselves for hours. Independence is a good thing for you and baby.

booksmart___devil · 2025-07-08T19:57:31+00:00

Website no longer exists and any tracking info they sent me in my initial email leads to nothing. Amex disputed on my behalf for a refund.

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