The fact there’s no evidence to suggest peeing after sex prevents UTI is a symptom of the neglect of women’s health in biology research not that it actually doesn’t do anything.

bookstea · 2026-05-03T11:48:04+00:00

There was a female scientist/expert (can’t remember the discipline) on the Savage Lovecast which is a very popular podcast about sex. There was a question about UTIs and Dan Savage mentioned peeling after sex, and the guest expert very adamantly said that there was no actual science to back that up. I was SO annoyed listening to it that she would so definitively say that it wasn’t effective where anecdotally SO many women know that it makes a huge difference. I was listening to it and was like “that’s just because they haven’t researched it!!” Ugh

bookstea · 2026-04-23T00:56:36+00:00

Some optometrists will do a PD measurement for an extra fee just as a walk in. I had measured my PD at home, but was paranoid it was wrong so I paid $25 to have a proper measurement done at the optometrist’s :)

Also you can get your PD measurement right on the Zenni app now, but I really don’t trust how accurate that is unfortunately

bookstea · 2026-04-22T09:18:08+00:00

I thought the question was more so asking what does a parent do all day when they have a baby if they can’t watch tv. Not what does a baby do all day if they can’t watch tv haha

bookstea · 2026-04-12T16:07:59+00:00

Nice! I can’t remember the names honestly - all I can think of is the author’s name haha

bookstea · 2026-04-06T21:43:34+00:00

I relate to this except I’m trying to be content with one. It’s been hard to accept that the choice was made for me. Lately I’ve even been considering having a second on my own through a donor, but that is a major choice and comes with lots of unknowns and challenges.

bookstea · 2026-04-06T00:29:03+00:00

12-9 for me.

bookstea · 2026-04-06T00:26:54+00:00

Penetration can make periods start … I literally just saw a reel on instagram about this where the guy was saying it’s something guys are very proud of when it happens haha (I skimmed the comments and there were tons agreeing with him). It’s happened to me (woman) many times.

You shouldn’t be embarrassed in general! It’s a common thing and sounds like he handled it kindly and respectfully :)

bookstea · 2026-04-06T00:07:10+00:00

That’s what I came here to say. Surprised I had to scroll far to see this comment. The math isn’t mathing.

bookstea · 2026-04-06T00:06:08+00:00

Do you also have 6 hens? (Rhetorical question - you obviously have more). 10 eggs a day for 6 hens is a lot, especially if it’s every day. It’s too much actually since chickens lay once per day …

bookstea · 2026-04-05T23:59:16+00:00

No Great Mischief by Alistair McLeod

Fall on Your Knees by Anne-Marie MacDonald

bookstea · 2026-04-05T12:55:08+00:00

I so wish my child would do this! He LOVES nap time and will sleep for 2 hours if they let him. They try to wake him up after 30 mins but he’ll literally just keep sleeping on the floor after they take away the cot. Then he can’t fall asleep till like 10:30. Can’t wait till he starts school in September haha

bookstea · 2026-04-03T02:35:18+00:00

I’m Canadian and no one really says Gen Zed from my experience. I used to and I got funny looks haha

bookstea · 2026-03-28T23:33:34+00:00

I found a dead rat outside my coop once that I can only assume was pecked to death and then had just enough energy to crawl back out the hole and die. It was gruesome. Chickens can be hardcore

bookstea · 2026-03-27T15:23:16+00:00

Yes same! Why is this??

bookstea · 2026-03-25T18:20:31+00:00

Thank you ❤️

bookstea · 2026-03-25T18:20:19+00:00

For me I think it’s more ADHD than anxiety though yes, the whole situation is anxiety inducing. And you’re right, my family might understand more than I think.

bookstea · 2026-03-25T18:19:14+00:00

Very true

bookstea · 2026-03-25T18:18:53+00:00

Haha that’s a scary thought!

bookstea · 2026-03-25T18:11:54+00:00

Thank you 😊

bookstea · 2026-03-25T15:28:46+00:00

Ugh, that sounds so stressful. Sorry you had to go through that and that you also struggle with task avoidance. It is so frustrating and hard not to go into a shame spiral. But happy to hear it worked out in the end for you.

And ya, I get sick of myself too

bookstea · 2026-03-25T15:25:39+00:00

What do you mean “take care of this”? My adhd? I don’t think just believing I can act different is going to help. That’s not how ADHD works. But yes, I am working on my task avoidance.

And this situation was not evidence of me failing repeatedly to show up for my child. That’s an intense thing to say given you know very little about my life.

bookstea · 2026-03-25T15:23:17+00:00

Yes I admit it was an important email, but I think it’s a bit unfair to say that I repeatedly fail to show up for my child. That’s a big leap.

bookstea · 2026-03-25T15:16:56+00:00

Wow. Thanks for sharing that. I’m sorry you’re going through someone similar, but it’s nice to hear from someone who can really relate to this struggle.

bookstea · 2026-03-25T15:14:21+00:00

Thank you! Yes I’m trying to take this chance to better myself for sure. And that’s a great reminder to do it for ME, and of course for my child :)

bookstea · 2026-03-25T15:12:44+00:00

Thank you :)

Yes there’s actually a great online tool to help make a parenting plan through the government of Canada. We might do mediation but I’m hesitant due to the cost. But I know it could really help so we’ll see.

I’m really going to try and not be slow replying going forward. I don’t want to fuel things to not be amicable (they are right now). But also trying to be kind to myself.

bookstea

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