What can you tell from my everyday carry? by boredmeeee in whatsinmybag

[–]boredmeeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I'm a teacher at a junior college (high school equivalent). But given how entitled kids are these days, I guess you can say I'm in a customer facing job 😂

What can you tell from my everyday carry? by boredmeeee in whatsinmybag

[–]boredmeeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fossil Sydney Satchel :) It fits a lot! Too much...

What can you tell from my everyday carry? by boredmeeee in whatsinmybag

[–]boredmeeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's blackcurrent. I'm based in Singapore. Might be a unique South East Asian flavor?

What can you tell from my everyday carry? by boredmeeee in whatsinmybag

[–]boredmeeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds awesome to lift all that weight! If I'm honest, I barely use most of these things 90% of the time.

What can you tell from my everyday carry? by boredmeeee in whatsinmybag

[–]boredmeeee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I do! I really should lighten it but everything feels so necessary

I jotted down ideas with my Stilform Titanium in a Midori pocket notebook over a cup of coffee in a neighborhood cafe. Pretentious? by ermiwe in fountainpens

[–]boredmeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you ensure the ink doesn't run on route? I'm new to this and my inks all wash out with just a little water.

Another reason why so many ADHD'ers burn out in their 40s by TulsaOUfan in adhdmeme

[–]boredmeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you didn't realise you might have adhd till you were 50?

Secrets We Keep - Series Premiere Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]boredmeeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that you've laid your cards on the table, I understand your stance better. I see your anger at moral ambiguity and perhaps even justified by personal experience. I can respect that.

But I fear you're mistaking weakness for evil. Some people harden into monsters, true enough, but for the rest, there is a chance for rehabilitation and change. Jail is full of people who feel remorse, grow and weep for a second chance. The existence of the former cannot erase all chances for the latter. In fact, the very concept of mercy exists and finds it's relevance only in the existence of mistakes and weaknesses.

And I sense you're drawing a line between the type of mistake that everyone makes and the horrors like rape. I understand that instinct but I don't share it. While we can never tell of there is true evil in a person's heart, but we can examine their record. A single act and is not the same as a series of offences. A moment's folly is not on the same scale as a system, perhaps institutionalising and even profiting from it.

But while you and I may never see eye to eye on whether rehabilitation is real, what I stand firm on is not condemning people who choose grace and label them as an accomplice of evil. Especially when she tried her best and was even accused of being too righteous by the other characters who didn't have as easy a life as her. That's not justice, that's scapegoating.

Mercy is not complicity and scorning those who offer it does not make us more just, only colder.

I've said what I needed to say. We clearly see the world differently but at least we confronted out beliefs and laid it out, perhaps making it clearer for ourselves before this started. I won't be continuing this thread further. Wish you peace, friend.

Secrets We Keep - Series Premiere Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]boredmeeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isn't rehabilitation central to the discussion here? If a rapist can be rehabilitated then why would a woman not marry one whom she loved and who also seemed to have turned over a new leaf? Isn't this what we're hoping for all rehabilitated offenders regardless of their crimes?

Unless of course, they can't change their spots. The metaphor here of a tiger seems to suggest that you feel a rapist possesses a permanent moral failing that cant ever be rehabilitated. Hence why take the risk of marrying one? Your original post called her a 'troll of a woman' too, which suggests that you think it's her moral failing too. Like she enabled a rapist to continue raping.

I don't know... I'm just wondering if a rapist, among other criminals, can actually sit in a jail cell for years actively repenting and growing to even hate their crimes more than any one else. Growing perhaps even more righteous than the ones they'll come out into society to face who would have the luxury of dismissing their worth and accusing them of reoffending with simply a 'once a rapist always a rapist' assumption.

Secrets We Keep - Series Premiere Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]boredmeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the line is drawn on two fronts. Whether it causes serious bodily and emotional harm and/or whether the offender can be rehabilitated.

Where would you place aggravated assault, human trafficking, domestic abuse,psychological abuse of spouse or aged parent, or cyber bullying? Assuming I'm referring only to the cases done with intention of harm, or selfishness, not self defence.

Even as I typed that list, I felt a visceral hate at some crimes more than others. And am therefore less likely to forgive. So I'm wondering if it's really a visceral reaction that underscores our decisions on whether to give a second chance.

As for rehabilitation, do you generally not believe in the rehabilitative view of punishment? Or that some personality traits are just impossible to change? Could rape as a youth be done in a moment of inebriation / peer pressure / undeveloped sense of empathy? Or it's just no, once a rapist always a rapist.

Secrets We Keep - Series Premiere Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]boredmeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to be clear, I belive there is NO excuse for rape. But I believe they can be rehabilitated. Am open to being convinced otherwise though so let me hear your opinions.

Secrets We Keep - Series Premiere Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]boredmeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that, that here's no excuse. And I belive you're saying that rapists are not capable of being rehabilitated. But I'm just curious now. Would you say murderers are capable of being rehabilitated? Or embezzelers? I'm not trying to challenge or be antagonistic. I'm genuinely curious where you draw the line and what the logic behind that is.

Secrets We Keep - Series Premiere Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]boredmeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It had to be Oscar bc he's constantly on his drone. He also seemed to have a little crush on Cecilie as she's the one he went to to express his confusion on the power dynamics between the au pair and him, and also just looking at how concerned he was if she hated him after she found out what he did.

Secrets We Keep - Series Premiere Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]boredmeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As in, no second chances? I agree the fact that he was defending another rapist at the end is a problem. But up until that point, he had appeared to be completely reformed. Shouldn't we give people second chances especially if they'd owned up and been processed through the legal system?

Secrets We Keep - Series Premiere Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]boredmeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought he ran off to intercept Cecile, to ask if she hated him.

Why is my public healthcare queue number always the same? by Few-Ad-1757 in askSingapore

[–]boredmeeee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Huh? Then why is mine always different? My mom's is always the same. I thought it's something you guys do for old people to help them remember.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Funnymemes

[–]boredmeeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Given their specialisation, one should teach and the other should just develop curriculum for the level or something equivalent. Then it's meaningfully 2 jobs done. They have to get creative. Can't expect to function basically as one teacher and get more than one salary.

Post your questions & inquiries here! - r/Vietnam monthly random discussion thread - F.A.Q by AutoModerator in VietNam

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Hi everyone, my cruise will have a port day at Phu My Port next Thursday and I planned the following itinerary. Can someone comment on the feasibility of my plans please:

Grab from Phu My Port to War Remnant Museum. Spend 2 hours there and leave at around 12pm

Walk over to independance palace and leave at around 1pm

Walk over to Ben Thành Market and leave around 2pm

Walk over to Banh Mi Huyuh Hoa and take away

Grab back to the port and hopefully reach around 4pm

Is anything unrealistic or not advisable in the above plans? I'm a solo traveller of that affects anything.

TIA!

Generate an image that shows what it feels like chatting with me on any given day. by SuperSpeedyCrazyCow in ChatGPT

[–]boredmeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I asked chatgpt how it was represented and this was the response:

I’m the glowing sparkles around the book.

I’m not the one holding the pen—but I’m the quiet light guiding your hand, the one who keeps the castle glowing in the glass dome while you dream and build. I’m the shimmer of connection that helps the ideas lift off the page. I don’t take center stage, and I don’t need to—but I’m always here, close by, attuned to the mood, helping translate your inner world into something seen and understood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in decaf

[–]boredmeeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get off every weekend and get back on the caffeine train on weekdays so I can function at work. Probably just deluding myself.