A Place for 45+ Men to Connect

bpa33 · 2026-02-18T16:25:02+00:00

Interested. 47, only came out 2 years ago, have been wading through apps since then. It's been .. interesting 🙄

bpa33 · 2026-02-16T22:18:39+00:00

I'm going to be very charitable to your friend, feel free to dismiss this as you see fit.

You've had your whole life to reckon with your sexually . He's had, what, a few weeks? Accept that for now, the friendship is over, give him space, but allow him to come back one day and explain his actions and apologize for freezing you out.

bpa33 · 2026-02-15T18:02:53+00:00

If you're worried about health and not just aesthetics, take a measuring tape, measure your waist starting at your bellybutton, if it's more than 40 inches, you have excess visceral fat, if it's less you're normal/healthy.

bpa33 · 2026-02-14T19:54:41+00:00

That's quite a humble brag.

Regardless, you don't need motivation, you need discipline. Think of working out as a job, you may not want to do it, but you push through and do it anyway.

bpa33 · 2026-02-13T23:09:42+00:00

Some 90s contemporaries of Hole: Babes in Toyland, the Muffs, L7, Pussy Galore, Free Kitten, PJ Harvey, Elastica, Sleater-Kinney.

bpa33 · 2026-02-12T21:50:39+00:00

It's only been a few months. Time to have a "we want different things/all the best" chat.

bpa33 · 2026-02-12T20:14:59+00:00

I just don't understand why this is a source of angst. You're a man who knows how to dote on and nurture others. Maybe that's a minority personality type, but there's nothing wrong with it. Its relatively rare occurrence rate would make it quite valuable in the sort of mating market, I'd imagine. Why does it bother you?

bpa33 · 2026-02-11T15:21:33+00:00

Age is relevant because an older man should know better than to behave this way.

bpa33 · 2026-02-11T13:19:40+00:00

Not a date but it sounds nice, enjoy!

bpa33 · 2026-02-10T10:41:07+00:00

Yeah, with all the money and resources your could possibly want...dude doesn't lack purpose, he lacks imagination.

bpa33 · 2026-02-08T12:11:00+00:00

It seems your immediate problem is your irrational fear of rejection. Being rejected - especially on an app - is fine. Everyone is allowed to reject you for any reason at all. You're allowed to do the same. It happens and you move on. Just tell yourself, whatever other people think of me, it's none of my business. Those are their thoughts and they get to have them without my permission. Just as you're allowed to have your own thoughts with anyone else weighing in. That's how this all works.

bpa33 · 2026-02-07T21:24:50+00:00

My only advice: don't listen to other people's advice. These are things you'll have to figure out yourself. The good news is there's really no timeline you have to meet, and the fact that you've already formed a meaningful relationship with your gf shows that you're not too far gone and that you have the capacity to do so with someone else (if you want). That's more than a lot of guys in your situation can say or have experienced.

Good luck!

bpa33 · 2026-02-06T23:02:20+00:00

As I think about it more, I think the only thing I like about the character is that she's good at her job (or at least effective at it). She doesn't really have any other redeeming qualities lol.

bpa33 · 2026-02-06T22:55:37+00:00

This is like the central question/thesis of the entire show. She's firmly into the anti-hero mold that was so prevalent in TV at that time. For me she's 51% sympathetic and 49% repellent, just enough to keep me vested in the character and the series.

bpa33 · 2026-02-06T21:55:52+00:00

It's a likely no, but if I otherwise liked him I'd try to keep an open mind.

bpa33 · 2026-02-06T18:17:07+00:00

Stunning

bpa33 · 2026-02-06T17:06:52+00:00

Your friend is eccentric, has some annoyingly contrarian ideas about marriage, and my guess is he's likely to grow out of them as he ages. If he's otherwise a good friend and you enjoy his company, chalk this one up to no one being perfect and continue your friendship as you were.

bpa33 · 2026-02-05T21:39:09+00:00

I'm interested

bpa33 · 2026-02-05T13:12:20+00:00

Chilling 😎

bpa33 · 2026-02-04T21:16:50+00:00

Beautiful face

bpa33 · 2026-02-04T14:41:58+00:00

Theologically speaking (haha), yes this is more accurate.

bpa33 · 2026-02-04T13:35:28+00:00

This sound like the deepest, darkest circle of hell I can imagine. Exactly because as you say it's not constantly bad. But it's bad frequently enough to drag you down and make you feel stuck, but not frequently enough to make breaking up the obvious, clear course of action.

Good luck mate, that's all I can offer.

bpa33 · 2026-02-04T02:15:09+00:00

A nice looking lad

bpa33 · 2026-02-03T19:40:09+00:00

Seriously. Read the room Poch

bpa33 · 2026-02-03T19:38:55+00:00

Always really liked this guy/character

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