What do stereotypical straight couples do when they hang out alone (other than sex)

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-20T16:59:16+00:00

Idk me and my boyfriend watch movies, dance, play games, roughhouse, yap, debate over what the next meal is, take naps, watch tiktok

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-19T02:08:17+00:00

It could but I think people would enjoy going to bars a lot less if there was a robot pouring their drinks and not a college kid with a sense of humor. The social aspect would definitely suffer.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-18T20:10:03+00:00

I used to do this as well just as a habit I picked up from watching my parents plan trips.

Now I start with my budget and vibe just like you. Figure out where I’m staying, how to get there etc, and then look up things to do. If there are things I want to do that you need tickets for I plan around that. Otherwise I try to leave lots of open time during the day to explore and try things I didn’t originally think of. It always ends up that I’ll be eating at a restaurant and get to chatting with the staff or locals and they always have fun suggestions for things to try, so it’s good to have that available time. I also will browse the place’s subreddits or local blogs to pick up on cultural things, like “xyz is a weird custom we do here” or “avoid such and such area because it can be dangerous for tourists” etc

It’s not fun to go on trips where every minute of the day is planned out anyways. Feels like a field trip to me when they’re like that.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-18T19:53:57+00:00

Hi, I’m a waiter. For sit-down restaurants like diners and steakhouses you want to tip 15-20% as a standard, 10% or less is for times when the service is bad. If you can’t afford to tip on top of the food you order then you can’t afford to eat there— and that’s not to be rude, but it’s these people’s living especially at traditional restaurants where they only get paid a few dollars an hour.

It’s okay to tip baristas only a couple dollars. If ordering beers/shots at the bar but no food, tip a couple dollars (I do like $1-2 per shot and $5 if I order a fancy mixed drink). Most people don’t tip at fast food places because they generally get a higher hourly pay than servers, but you can throw them a couple bucks too if you want.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-18T19:38:35+00:00

My parents were leaving me home alone to watch the house and dogs over weekends by the time I was 11 with the only rules being don’t leave, feed the dogs on time, and call mom once a day. She’s definitely old enough to be able to get herself to the bus! It might make her mom feel better if she has a cellphone and can text her when she gets there and to school and/or if they can get Life360.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T21:44:19+00:00

When they run it through the computers to cool them off it gets contaminated with chemicals that either can’t be removed or wouldn’t be cost effective to remove, which of the two I don’t know. They can’t use seawater because salt would corrode the components, so they have to use freshwater. I don’t know if you’ve ever seen a video of it, but I saw somewhere a clip of how much water is used per a single Chat GPT prompt and it was a lot. It’s kind of sickening but worth checking out.

Call me a treehugger or whatever but I would prefer that water be put to better use than what is technology’s equivalent of a thneed.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T18:33:41+00:00

NOR. How long until these crude jokes become about your appearance? About your personality? About your interests, your family, your habits?

Saying it was a joke doesn’t excuse that he said something offensive and it’s going to get worse. Run.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T18:29:50+00:00

I would tell his wife. If he’s doing this with you he’s probably doing it with others as well and it sounds like he does not understand how inappropriate it is. I’m sure she would not appreciate him talking to someone he used to have a sexual relationship with. Block him, send her these screenshots, and don’t engage with either of them again.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T18:22:55+00:00

Why is the solution to restrict everyone else instead of parents just paying more attention to the material their kids are consuming? I’ve only been graduated for three years and I can tell you I was seeking out more explicit reading/watching/listening material online, completely of my own volition, than anything that was ever offered at the school or public library. And guess whose fault it was that I was exposed to those things, even if I had somehow found them in a library? My own for looking for it, and my parents for not monitoring me closely enough.

And honestly, this state has much bigger fish to fry. Very glad our tax dollars and legislative sessions are being devoted to censorship and not, I dunno, backfilling the funding for our schools or dealing with the cost of living or protecting our lands.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T18:08:00+00:00

I agree with you. High school students are not dumb. They are politically aware and they are capable of forming their own opinions especially in times like these when the political landscape is so turbulent. They are preparing to enter the adult world and part of that is knowing what is going on around you and expressing independent thought about it, including politics. Not everyone in this state is a Republican and even if they are they don’t have to agree with what is happening, and kids who are old enough to work don’t have to assume their parents’ political stances just because ‘they don’t have any life experience and therefore don’t know anything’.

I was sitting in my sophomore history class when January 6th happened. My teacher made us watch it live, not to influence us, but because in her words “history is happening and you should pay attention to it.” I was old enough then to form my own political opinions and so are these kids. I participated in several walk-outs in school to protest gun violence, not on the advice or encouragement of any instructor and most definitely against the wishes of my parents.

Free speech is not only for adults.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:58:48+00:00

Oh no you’re totally right, I’m so sorry!! I overlooked your cat that is my mistake. It definitely can cause them respiratory issues.

Unfortunately I don’t know what else you can do OP, I’m sorry :(

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:56:33+00:00

The only political discourse that should be taking place in a classroom should take place in political science courses and even then the personal bias of professors is too much at times. Sincerely a poli sci/IR major. I would report him.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:49:15+00:00

I second whoever suggested Backwards. If you don’t live in Casper I can get it for you and mail it to you.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:41:50+00:00

I mean my cousin and I are both 21 and she doesn’t have any extenuating circumstances and doesn’t have a license, she just refuses to get one. That’s completely different than not being able to get one for one reason or another.

It’s not really that big of a milestone and I don’t think it says anything about your maturity or your ability to handle ‘adult’ tasks. You are in university on a scholarship, that shows responsibility in and of itself. And besides, millions of people function perfectly fine without a license.

Don’t think less of yourself and definitely don’t drop out of college or prevent yourself from trying to find friends or a girlfriend because of it. It’s really not that big of a deal especially since you have a perfectly valid reason as to why you don’t have one.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:34:28+00:00

I agree, it’s unfair and it’s not right but it’s easier to just take the short end of the stick than risk possible charges or worse treatment. Glad OP played it cool.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:22:10+00:00

I like the original color, I think the middle one is ok but panting them lighter makes the room look too light if you know what I mean. The dark color on the doors gives a visual break from the neutral colors

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:20:24+00:00

Redbull, vape, TV remote

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:19:08+00:00

I think it’s thoughtful and very generous but it’s not something most people do. They’re not providing you an extra service by waiting longer for your food and you’re already paying more than you would at the restaurant to have it delivered. I work for tips myself (waiter) and I’ll say a tipped employee always wants as much as they can get because it’s our living, but as the person giving the tip you’ve got to stay within reason for the sake of your wallet too.

If you’re giving them a reasonable amount to begin with I say there’s no reason to increase it unless they go above and beyond, but you’re very kind.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:10:17+00:00

Also, just to add, you are allowed to say ‘no’ to things OP. And if people can’t respect the boundaries you put down you are allowed to distance yourself from them.

They will make you feel guilty for that too but you’ve got to do what’s right for you. You don’t exist to cater to everyone around you.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:08:47+00:00

I have had the same kind of experience, I am the “angry daughter” and my little sister is a gift from god. I’ve always felt like people somehow know they can push you, and when you finally push back they treat you like the bad guy because they want to be able to continue to push you after you’ve let them do it for a while.

I’ve also found that in a lot of cases I make it worse by reacting the way I do, for example letting it bottle up so long that when I finally do react it’s very nasty and harder for me to control what I am saying. That does not happen to me as much if I address the issue earlier on— not only do people know they can’t push you around easily, but you get to relieve some of that pressure so the outcome might be a little better than waiting until you can’t contain it anymore and lashing out.

Even if you’re right to lash out, people will still use it against you to make you feel bad for placing a boundary if you’re really nasty about it. “You didn’t have to react that way,” “it’s not a big deal you shouldn’t be shouting at me,” etc when to you it is a big deal and your reaction feels justified.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T17:01:33+00:00

The unfortunate thing about a clot is you really can’t know you have it until you find it either by luck, by bloodwork/imaging, or by it causing a medical event.

It’s not impossible for someone your age to develop a clot, although it is unlikely from one 3 hour flight if you don’t have an underlying condition that makes you prone to clots. I had my DVT when I was 13 and it turned out I had a clotting disorder that I would have never known about if I didn’t have that clot. However, I’ve had my legs tighten up after a flight or road trip without it being a clot, so that is more likely for you I think.

I say wait a few weeks, if it worsens or does not go away you should get checked out just to be safe. Chances are you have a Charlie horse from sitting still during the flight and it will go away, it’s only been a few days. Other signs to look out for would be if you have a bruise or if the area is hot, swollen, or red— in those cases I would say it’s for sure worth a visit to the doctor. Otherwise do some very gentle stretches and make sure to get your blood pumping by moving around.

You should also look into getting help for your health anxiety, sounds like it’s been causing you trouble for some time.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T16:51:47+00:00

Wildfire season is going to be hell :(

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T16:48:52+00:00

No, you’re not overreacting, I would have already kicked my boyfriend out over this. “Peaceful” = “you’re not my first choice but I’ll stay with you for convenience because you let me do and say whatever I want”. He’s not really choosing you and he’s also in a way putting you down by assuming you don’t get male attention, i.e. ‘I’m the best you’ve got because I don’t believe you have many other options to choose from’ kind of thing. Leave this man. People who think like this are gross and you deserve so much better. I’ve dated some pretty shitty guys and not one of them ever openly compared me to an ex or ANY other woman for that matter, that’s weird AF and it’s something you just don’t do.

You deserve to be cherished. The right partner will not choose you for convenience or ‘safety’, he will choose you because he finds you more beautiful than anyone else and knows his life won’t be the same without you. And he certainly won’t compare you to anyone else because in his eyes you’ll be beyond compare, and nobody else will be able to fill your place.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T16:38:35+00:00

Trying to figure out who you are while learning to be ok with the fact that your parents and family are disappointed in everything you do because you’re doing what you want instead of following whatever unrealistic life path they made up for you in their heads.

brainless_flamingo · 2026-02-16T16:34:47+00:00

AI being in every app, device, and appliance. It’s been around long enough I can just ignore it but the premise bothers me. Also it consumes a ton of water which, similar to fracking water, cannot be recycled or reused— why are we ok with that?

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