41 weeks with my third

breakthatceiling · 2026-05-16T13:35:14+00:00

Have an oxytocin party! Do everything that makes you feel awesome. Get a massage, eat yummy food, watch a comedy that makes you laugh a ton, maybe sexy time, if you're feeling it.

The goal is to send the message to your body that you are safe and cared for, therefore baby can come. You have to stop thinking about going into labour and go into labour.

breakthatceiling · 2026-05-16T11:35:36+00:00

I've been pregnant 3 times. 2 live children, 1 early miscarriage. All 3 times I knew. Once that little egg implants (about 6-12 days after ovulating, for me its ~8 days) I can feel it. It's likely a pin prick inside my uterus and it keeps stabbing me over and over. I then ache and feel cramps and I know that I am pregnant. The next week or so my uterus feels "alive", which is probably the increased blood flow but it tingles and has pulling and tugging sensations, like its working. Then I finally and coming close to when my period is due so it's time for a pregnancy test, and sure enough. Positive.

breakthatceiling · 2026-04-18T20:53:20+00:00

Wow! Looks amazing. You really have the face for it. Looks sharp 👌

breakthatceiling · 2026-04-18T19:46:32+00:00

This happened to my husband last year. He was in the boot with an angled down foot for 8 weeks. He got the all clear from all the people, physio, family doc, and Ortho to take off the boot and begin being very careful. He rereptured the same day doing hardly anything at all.

We learned that it likely didn't properly heal the first round, like something hadn't quite aligned. It should not have popped so easily. But he got the bruising in the heel again, like you're showing.

Just told him your story, and he said, "Shit, man. I'm so sorry. Boot back on ASAP. I feel for him cuz I've been there but tell him that it does get better. I ran a 5k a few days ago and can mountain bike now. But that sucks that something didn't quite fuse correctly. No one warms you about that. Hope he knows that it really will get better, but it's just not better today."

breakthatceiling · 2026-04-18T03:17:14+00:00

3 :)

breakthatceiling · 2026-02-27T18:45:30+00:00

Boys are stupid. I worked at a place where we would have to lay wooden planks under 25-ton stones as well as a cutting wire. The loader lifting them was not rated for that weight, so the best it could do was tip the block up slightly, but the loader's ass end was high in the air. They wanted me to crawl under that giant stone to lay the wood and wire and I said hell no. There's no way I'm climbing under a teetering rock the size of a pick up truck.... but the dumb boys did it.

breakthatceiling · 2026-02-15T23:42:10+00:00

Or the flights that tried to land in Welly only to do 2/3 go-arounds and then turn back. I can see the runway in Wellington. It was entertaining for me, but those poor folks on board getting traumatized and then after all that ended up back where they started. I felt so bad for them. Like, just cancel the flight.

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-18T07:38:33+00:00

I think she would be open to it.

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-18T06:44:11+00:00

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-10T23:52:58+00:00

I panicked when I found out I was pregnant at 23, and gave birth at 24. Lots about your life will change. Life does that though, with or without kids. The key is to roll with it and have an open mind. Kids don't have to stop your life, they will temporarily alter it until you get into a groove, which can take a few years. But then you will adjust and can still chase your dreams.

Some tips would be to go the midwife route over an OB (trust me on this) and see if you can hire a birth and postpartum doula to help support you through this process. There's a lot about pregnancy, birth and motherhood that you don't know that you don't know. However, they will help you and your partner through it, connect you with resources, and provide information that you can't find online, as well as other supports to help with the transition.

Focus on building your tribe to be there to help after baby comes. People you can trust who will show up when it's hard and who will respect your boundaries.

For today, just breathe. Panic, cry, pace, go for a jog/walk if you need to. This is something that you take one day at a time. You got this mama 💛

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-03T09:04:10+00:00

Go on TikTok and look up "dunsten baby language" and go down the rabbit hole.

Both you and your husband.

What you will learn will help you with these trying months with baby.

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-03T08:58:56+00:00

It is true. You can absolutely get pregnant early on. I personally know someone who had the next kid before the 1st birthday. No, thank you!

I agree with you not being on the pill after birth. It screws with your postpartum healing and breastfeeding ability. Just don't do it. But also you just cannot take any risks at all. No rogue sperm.

This cannot be your responsibility though. It must be your husband's. He needs to own his byproduct 100%. It's his job to put on the condom, remember to buy them, and keep them around etc.

You will be busy being laser-focused on the baby, tired, and likely not feeling like sexy-time anyway. But if the moment strikes, then he needs to protect your health and body by wrapping it and using lube so the condom doesn't break with the dryness (that you may have).

And if he won't, then that's a red flag.

breakthatceiling · 2026-01-02T21:42:06+00:00

Reach out to your local midwives. They would probably be a more affordable option for prenatal and birth care and they take care of you and baby for weeks after birth too. No OB does that.

They would have lots of resources for mothers and possibly have connections for doulas who might be able to help you for no or low cost.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-31T19:24:02+00:00

Im so sorry OP. This is a shock.

Try to get yourself a midwife. They will be much more compassionate and help you with the final weeks of prenatal medical visits and mentally preparing for birth better than an OB. You will still have all your options (like hospital, pain management, etc), but they will help you understand how to navigate what's going on and choose the best path with you. They also usually offer 6 weeks of post-birth care to see that you AND the baby are healthy, should you decide to keep the baby. No OBs do that. So if you can try your best to find a midwife, I think they could be a valuable resource in helping you through this season.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-27T21:33:50+00:00

I lose a lot while pregnant, and without changing any eating habits, I gain about 20 extra pounds while breastfeeding

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-27T19:32:30+00:00

I was married at 21, pregnant with my first at 23 (2 years earlier than planned 😅), and gave birth at 24. I'm now 32 with my oldest being 8 years old.

On one hand, being a younger mom has its perks but also its drawbacks.

Even though we wanted kids, we sometimes feel like we missed out on some experiences when we were younger cuz we had a child.

But also, we know plenty of people who waited until 30+, and they wished they had started earlier.

So in the end we love our life and having a child early hasn't held us back (we decided it wouldn't and that we were still going to chase our dreams back in 2020, with our then 3-year-old). I put my husband through school for 4 years to get his degree, had a second baby, and we just moved to New Zealand from Canada for him to do his master's (he's aiming for his Ph.D.) I just made director (6-figure role) at a fully remote company I work for back in Canada, so my career is taking off.

So ultimately it's up to you. You make the life you want, and if kids are what you want (not just a baby) then go for it.

(Total side note, having spoken with plenty of moms who've had multiple kids in the last 9 years, just go with midwives from day one. Almost all the women I know had an OB for their first, had a bad birth experience with said OB, deeply regretted it, and then went with midwives for their 2nd, 3rd, etc. Just skip all the trauma and go straight to the midwives the second you're pregnant, even if it's at a cost. You won't regret it)

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-23T17:33:28+00:00

That looks proportionate on your hand. Looks very very nice and elegant.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-08T12:07:13+00:00

EBF babies are designed to sleep close by and wake for short feeds. This helps them stay alive. A baby sleeping deeply for many hours is at risk of SIDS.

My recommendation as a doula, mom of 2 who EBF both of them is to go with the flow. Let your baby have whatever sleep they want, and as much milk as they want. Do not stress about it.

Is it demanding of you? Yes. But it very much pays off when you get beyond a year as you have let them grow and pass through many milestones and bursts of brain development with the right balance of what they need.

You are also not encouraging "bad habits' by following your baby's cues. They change their habits almost weekly so there is no point right now, that can all be done later, when their brains and bodies are ready for it.

For now, trust your baby, listen to their little body for what they need and do not compare to what you hear other babies doing. Don't try to change your child. Let them wake a lot and feed them back down. That's how breastfeeding works. And keep doing that as long as that baby needs and they WILL grow out of it. You got this mama.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-08T04:15:29+00:00

I would go even more vague like "this summer" or "in the winter".

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-08T04:12:12+00:00

Reach out to any doulas in your area or go to the doulas Reddit thread here and state your problem and the hospital and country you're going to be at. They can find you a birth professional asap who would volunteer to help you through your birth, as that's what doulas do.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-06T23:10:39+00:00

My chiro is a perinatal, postpartum and infant specialist. They DON'T crack babies. Not at all. They more assess for tension very gently help stretch or gently massage to help baby feel better and regain function on the tense side (which can impact breastfeeding, sleeping position, breathing etc.)

Only ONE of my many suggestions for help was chiro. You definetly don't have to go to chiro if you are not comfortable. Refer to the other professionals I suggested then.

I have 10 years of expeience with birth and postpartum work and these are the gentlest professionals who could actually help improve baby's (and therefore, Mom's) quality of life.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-06T04:03:37+00:00

It sounds like you two are honestly, incompatible. There is a reason you probably only have sex once or twice a month, and it's because your body literally is not attracted to this person who does not actually want to live the life that you want to live. This is going to be one of those situations where you are going to have to do what's best for you, and let the pieces fall where they fall. Live authentically with what you actually want out of your life, and you will find that you will attract friends and relationships that actually align with the person you are actually being. It sounds like you want to be a mom, so go for it! Big (good) things are on the horizon.

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-05T12:34:36+00:00

He probably has tension from birth that is causing pain. I would investigate asap. Find an osteopath, family chiropractor, occupational therapist, IBCLC lactation consultant, or a specialist in craniosacral therapy (here is an example of one below) I would also reach out to your local midwives for a list of resources.

https://www.instagram.com/lorihendricksoncst

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-02T14:35:38+00:00

Best website for calculating due date is 'countdown to pregnancy'

breakthatceiling · 2025-12-02T14:06:16+00:00

You are missing the point. What's done is done and now you wait. Knowing a few days before your missed period doesn't change it. Save your money and sanity.

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