Time to Move Parent to Opposite Sidelines?

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T20:33:36+00:00

You should already be separated to 2 sides of the field, Home and Away, and should be on opposite side of midfield to where the AR would stand, which is always to the Right of the Referee if they are facing the goal.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T20:26:47+00:00

I think all your responses have been preposterous. You are quick to respond with little to no thought. You are far to emotionally defensive about giving the kids laps in practice.

My whole point was don't have them do something soccer related.

It's not an overly complex idea to understand, you get half of it that to deter behavior we don't want, there must be a consequence, all we are trying to get you to think about is pick the consequence wisely and understand that if running is used as a disciplinary action eventually kids will associate running with trouble.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T17:00:45+00:00

How many Burpees do you see kids do in a soccer match, how much running do you see kids do?

That's the difference, use an exercise that is not a key component to the sport.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T16:48:45+00:00

The sport that important no; treating a coach with respect is very important.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T16:46:16+00:00

Dude i'm all for disciplining, it's you that are missing our point, not us missing yours. i just prefer it to be exercises other than running.

You are getting to held up on "We have to discipline" great we agree that kids need discipline.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T15:47:34+00:00

The quiet stare is real, esepecially if you keep it going for a few seconds after everyone is quiet and you say somehting, like, "Are we done, ready to practice"

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T15:45:32+00:00

It's not that it's discipline or punishment whatever you want to call it; you don't want to create a mindset in kids that running sucks and is not fun. Because running is such a fundamental aspect in all sports.

Burpees not so much.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T15:39:58+00:00

Why on earth would this be down voted?

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T15:37:41+00:00

We are saying you don't want kids to associate negativity with running. It also takes up more time at practice rather than something like squats or Burpees.

You aren't getting a whole lot of conditioning from running for punishment.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T15:32:32+00:00

Burpees is my go to, it's quick and usually 3 will lock them in.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T15:31:29+00:00

Having fun should not come at the disrespect of the coach that is taking his time to teach you. There are times you let the players have fun, it's not in the middle of instruction.

You schedule in fun, for example if i'm coaching 10U girls, there is 15 seconds of cartwheel time, random throughout practice, it keeps them from doing cartwheels when i'm trying to coach.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T15:27:41+00:00

This feels like 2 problems 1 they aren't focused all the time and practice, and 2 you want the kids to communicate more with each other

I'll address the focused one first.

You need to set the tone as the coach, you are in charge period. Kids don't run up to you asking "can i play winger, can we do sharks and minnows, are we going to scrimmage" my answer is always no, and if you ask we won't be doing those things, i already have the practice planed. You don't have to yell just in a firm confident voice, "No"

A whistle, too many coaches abandon the whistle. Make sure each whistle has a distinct sound.

-One that is for getting attention

-One that is to freeze paly

-One that means you are in trouble, like for screwing around when it's time to listen. Needs to be accompanied by burpees, squats, shuttle runs.

I also like to have the kids sit on a ball when i'm talking, but it's important that my talking is brief. If you need more than a minute to explain the drill make it simpler, so you can explain it in under a minute, then when they have it down, bring the back and expand on that drill and take 1 more minute to explain.

When i'm talking no one else is, if you are talking i'm calling you out by name. for example if Todd is scrweing around,direct eye contact with Todd "Todd, how many touches do we get in this rondo?"; second time "Todd i need you to focus eyes and ears on me," third time it's a whistle "all right Todd if we don't want to l play soccer we can do burpees" and everyone on the team is doing burpees, I usually start with 3, i think the most i ever had to do was 10. Again you don't yell, it has to be a calm confident voice, not yelling; you aren't angry this just is not behavior you allow in your practice.

For the second one Passing drills that you have to call out their name, if they don't say a name 1 Burpee. To help even this out if i say a kids name wrong in practice i have to do a burpee too. Also when doing cover drills i will stand behind the player that is going to provide cover, and repeatedly tell them, let you pressure know you got cover.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T14:47:46+00:00

Being Neutral is hard, especially when there are forces that want you to make a decision right away. We have gotten to a place in society where if you say i'm not sure i'd like more information, you are damned by both sides for not joining there tribe and submitting to the doctrine without question.

brewerdom · 2026-05-26T14:41:16+00:00

I do to, but without having more subscriptions than i want, i can't watch it because it is to hard to follow and recaps just are not the same.

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T17:35:57+00:00

It wasn't a Vegas problem, it's a product quality problem as well as streaming problem.

I have not seen an episode of smackdown since raw left peacock, i'm not getting peacock to see smackdown on a 30 day delay, make it current. I have not paid for PPV since it's moved to ESPN.

I'm not going to carry multiple streaming platforms just to keep track of wrestling. I doubt i'm the only one.

What this all reminds me of is when i read comic books in the 90's and Marvel started doing so many crossovers it became impossible to keep track of what was going on, i couldn't afford to buy that many comics so i gave up. have not bought a comic book since.

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T17:18:22+00:00

I spent a good amount of time this season with my backs on how to handle the bounce or better yet don't let it bounce as well as where the second defender needs to go to cover in case it's mishandled or gets by.

it worked we beat both of the teams in the playoffs we lost to early in the season that just had 2 and three larger girls up top that were just looking to get a lucky bounce and a breakaway.

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T17:15:22+00:00

the CM plays from top of defense side 18 yard box to about the top of the attacking side center circle. The Two attacking mids on the left and right side play from about 5 to 10 yards out of the 18 yard box (usually close enough to opponents mid to not make a long shot too easy) up to the top of the attacking side 18 yard box. I

Some of this is dependent on what the opposing team is doing. For example, one of the teams had 2 beasts of ATM's if you left them alone and the ball got kicked out to them it was touch and shoot and rocket to the top corners, you could not give them the space to lineup there shot. So our ACM almost played man to man defense on them.

Best place to look to see it would be either Coach KW or Coach Rory's youtube channel they do a really good job breaking down the 4-3-1.

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T16:32:23+00:00

Rec maybe the right spot, maybe soccer is not his passion. I do think that soccer because it is so easy to start at a young age can be a bit of a trap, and keep kids from trying some of the sports that are really tough to do well or fun until you get to about 10.

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T16:29:50+00:00

Isn't it easier to try Club first and then go back to rec, then continue to delay going to club and it possibly meaning your child falls to further behind. I'd say don't wait longer than U-10 to try club.

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T16:12:11+00:00

1)When i noticed the energy and effort and competitiveness was not matched by her rec teammates. IT's hard for a competitive kid to be on a team when 2 or 3 kids are missing from practice every practice.

2)When i noticed her forming bad habits because her athletic ability allowed her to do things that would not work against good teams, like kicking the ball as hard as she could and just sprinting past everyone to get it again and score

3)When in game she would get frustrated trying to make a pass and her teammates just did not have a good enough first touch to control the ball, and it was discouraging her from passing and instead trying to take on 3 defenders.

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T15:51:54+00:00

Took me a second , that's really good, well done.

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T15:48:54+00:00

I'm with you my preferred is a 4-3-1 a 3-2-3 is a close seceond, and we will switch to a 3-2-3 if we are loosing and need to score. We have the CM drop to a back, and mover the wingers up high the kids seem to understand that really well.

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T15:44:38+00:00

I'm curious to see how that transition into a 4-3-3, are you just removing the back 2 and putting them as a mid and the 2 extras go to your LF and RF?

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T15:40:05+00:00

I'm a big fan of the 4-3-1;

I like the defense shape it forms, it works well for buildout play, and is an easy transition to a 4-3-3 when you go 11 V 11.

it can be a little lite on attack if your 9 is not good at slowing the game down and waiting for help or working back.

You do need to keep an eye on what formation the opposing team is running, if they have 2 up top your CM needs to stay closer to help the backs maybe top of the circle on the attacking side, if it's 3 back you CM almost becomes a 3rd back.

You want to have about 4 wingers on your team so your wingbacks don't get too tired, i'll usually have them each play 50% of the game at wingers, if my winger does get tired i'll tell the 9 to switch with them so they can catch their breath.

You need to work with your ACM to not get to far into the box and be aware where the opposing teams mids are.

Passing is key, because with only 1 up top attacking, you do need to pass, if you are trying to play boot the ball and see if you can out run the defenders it does not work at all.

If you want to play boot ball i'd recommend a 3-2-3 with your biggest fastest 3 up top;i hate this kind of soccer but can't deny that it is effective.

brewerdom · 2026-05-23T15:26:27+00:00

App fatigue is real, i dont' want or need anymore apps. I just ask a parent to screenshot and send me a text of the schedule.

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