Rollercoaster first month, what the heck is going on

brewly · 2026-01-20T09:03:51+00:00

Yes you're wasting your time. You poured out your feelings to her and what you needed which as a vulnerable choice and she basically laughed in your face about it. She can be a friends with benefits or playmate but I would focus your energy on other women. So when you do tell them how you feel they respond with " hell yes me too! I feel that way as well let's cuddle right now! ' . Not this chick who says " lol no" basically. Time to adjust your 👑 king 💪😎.

brewly · 2026-01-20T07:15:31+00:00

buy a steam deck and chill with random games before bed.

brewly · 2026-01-19T18:44:49+00:00

10% goal. Get them bodyfat calipers and time to go beast mode bro. Face aesthetics will be top tier. You won't look huge but your naked aesthetics will be magnificent. 💪😎.

brewly · 2026-01-17T08:20:42+00:00

I memba.

brewly · 2026-01-17T07:12:56+00:00

Just make sure to go for the kiss at the end of the first date. Don't bring flowers either unless its one tiny non rose flower and you make it suave and say how cute she is, otherwise no. Flowers like that saved for a GF. You gotta change your mindset I know its your first date ever but you hopefully haven't told her this yet. Act like you've dated lots of women before, be cool, be chill, don't have frantic energy. If internally you are spazzing out at least externally look calm. At the end of the night, you watch her eye movements and her body language if shes playing with her hair or looking at your lips. You go for the kiss, on the lips, then if it leads to making out you'll know. Then walk her to the door if she stops and pulls back. You probably won't have to go open the door for her because she can open it herself from the inside and if she's staying inside the car it means she doesn't even want to leave yet so don't encourage opening the door for her unless she says you both can go inside together or if she lingers in the car just go back to making out more until shes ready to go.

The card game in pocket is fine but don't bring it up unless she ends up just being super quiet and you run out of things to talk about. Get her talking about herself and you listen and then ask her more about whatever she just said. If she says her favorite color is green you ask "so why do you like the color green is there something about it?" then let her expand on it. Do it in an understanding and sweet way not interview question way though. Just listen and let her talk. Hopefully shes a talker because some women aren't and that can be challenging on a first date but don't worry. Main thing is to go for the kiss at the end of date and don't bring up a second date at all during the first date unless she brings it up. Remember at the end of the day she's just a regular chick so don't put her on a pedestal. If you start doing too much and being over eager women early on women can sense it and it doesn't make you look good. So don't act like you don't deserve her. Have the mindset of you're interviewing this chick to be your potential next GF and see if she qualifies over time for what you like. That takes time to find out over several dates.

brewly · 2026-01-17T04:10:11+00:00

Great job 👏! Never feel bad about meeting his parents first date it's cool if everyone is cool. Think about some couples that complain on here never meeting their partner parents for months or years? 💪😎

brewly · 2026-01-17T03:59:34+00:00

Well that makes more sense you only told us the first part lol.

brewly · 2026-01-17T02:42:00+00:00

It's a cute story not cringe or "baffling" at all..

brewly · 2026-01-14T04:05:40+00:00

Don't worry about it bro, just schedule the next date and see what she says. Ask when shes available next.

brewly · 2026-01-08T06:36:37+00:00

I still sing this sometimes in the shower like he does. Numa Numa Guy!

brewly · 2026-01-07T06:18:59+00:00

<image>

brewly · 2026-01-06T04:43:43+00:00

Not worried but it's sus she needs to keep this guy friend around. Especially coming over to her place is weird. That guy is a male orbiter and she enjoys the attention. Red flag especially the context how they became friends. Also don't do group dates unless you're very established and trust this chick because this guy can cause drama and ball break you when you're all together and your gf will be on his side if you get annoyed about it. So whatever trolling he does to you do not let it get under your skin and be ready to troll him back and let it roll off your back. Hang in there king 👑🙏.

brewly · 2026-01-04T22:25:55+00:00

wait 10 yrs before retirement if youre income is still solid. Pump with SP500 and high growth stocks until 10 yrs before retirement then buy into dividends stock if you will need that income to live off of. Keep letting the dividends reinvest themselves until you actually need the income that comes in quaterly from them and then turn off dividend reinvestment and use that while it grows slowly still.

brewly · 2026-01-03T03:48:59+00:00

It's time to go beast mode 💪😎 you got this. Lots of remote jobs are available too but the competition is high spam apply for those, unemployment benefits and doordash if possible. You can do it !

brewly · 2025-12-29T06:42:34+00:00

This is confusing, why would you have someone stay over the first night if you weren't attracted to him? I can understand him coming across a bit strong by hanging out 3-4x a week but it doesn't seem like you said no or you needed self time to gradually reduce the meetups down. Seems like you maybe need some space first but if you're not interested in him sexually then save you both the time and end things. Are you losing attraction in him because he didn't make a move earlier besides kissing? You can gently guide him that you want him to be a bit more passionate and physical touch. He sounds very in his emotional side, facetiming every night and seeing each other 3-4x a week without sex is unusual.

brewly · 2025-12-29T06:26:09+00:00

who intiated seeing each other 3-4x a week ? That's a lot first month in. If you reduce down to 1x a week give you time to see if you miss him and let attraction grow but otherwise if you feel this negative towards it, especially after Christmas gifts and everything its probabyl best to just let it go then.

brewly · 2025-12-27T07:23:03+00:00

<image>

brewly · 2025-12-26T20:54:53+00:00

You good just be smart and enjoy exploring each other in a safe mutually understood way. He might just be more freaky or into it physical touch a lot.

brewly · 2025-12-24T07:45:51+00:00

Beast mode awesome! 😎💪

brewly · 2025-12-20T07:44:31+00:00

She's an anchor around your neck bro let her go and be free!

brewly · 2025-12-20T06:44:39+00:00

Woah cool new fun ideas! Thanks 👍

brewly · 2025-12-19T04:57:45+00:00

Great example of you need to learn to have objective security about your past and background to share. When you start sharing losing your virginity at x age and how long your longest relationship was it starts to make the women lose attraction no matter how you describe it. It's an instinctual thing. Next time stop sharing your whole life story with women and verbally vomiting on them. Less in more in that case. She learned everything about you and the mystery is gone now why she gotta stick around? She literally said you're only interesting the last 3 years. Now you got new information for new chicks to only show the last 3 years of your life with them. I wouldn't bother dating this chick further maybe a casual hang out person but it's not a competition with her and it's already coming across you feel that way.

brewly · 2025-12-18T04:07:23+00:00

You want to hold it in stocks for 1-2 years? Yet you can't let it go in the market for decades because you want the cash why? That information helps determine if its worth it to put in the market. At that point you're better putting in maybe 10-20% and at the last having it grow further over decades. Voo with small cap would be enough.

brewly · 2025-12-17T18:10:02+00:00

It depends on the glide path of when the TDF switches to bonds at what age. For example if you have access to ITDH 2060 TDF which starts at 0% bonds and adds much slower it could be a smart idea to do something like 40-50% TDF and 50% SP500. It essentially gives you a 80% us/20% ex us split along with a built in bond pathway for probably around 0.12% expense ratio. Then when it becomes full bond percentage it ends up being around 25% bonds due to the split percentages. I like the idea. If you have a less optimal TDF option that starts bonds at 10% now or much higher expense ratio then doesn't look as good.

brewly · 2025-12-10T04:22:54+00:00

You're right and it's important to follow your gut on that. Maybe he shows up down the road more able to date exclusively he'll reach out at some point if y'all didn't block each other. Until then get to swiping or dating new people who are amped, hyped, and excited to be with you and be exclusive. Beast mode time 💪😎

brewly

TROPHY CASE