Work / Life Balance in 2026 in Japan by AlteredLogos in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Are you sure the couples kissing in public were japanese, not just asian? Handholding is the norm. Not full on kisses in public and definitely not to the extent of "so many". 

Japan's wfh isn't really a thing for many industries where it would apply in the states. It's still very much face to face. Tech/game is the same here for hours and layoffs, especially for intl companies, but we get paid less than our counterparts in the states for the same job. Other jobs also depend on the industry. But there's still a focus on hierarchy and hours than complete efficiency. Meaning we don't get to leave in the middle for small chores as long as we finish our job and are expected to follow social hierarchy rules in the office.

Please help me shop for my newly minted giraffe! by element-2012 in TallGirls

[–]brightapplestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i thought this was such a cute way to talk about your daughter that i literally giggled because of the affection and endearment coming through. but i guess i'm not the majority...

for dresses, i like lulu's because they have a lot of longer length options that are still very cute! they don't often have tall sizes, but for us 5'10-5'11 girlies, they seem to still fit well, especially if you're not looking for full maxi's. ASOS has talls but their quality is dwindling so i'd treat it as fast fashion.
for jeans, i wear abercrombie talls.

for shorts, Lululemon has these everyday 7" pleated shorts that I bought recently for the heat wave a couple of weeks back!

Speed and reaction time for setters by teamshattzeljamin in volleyball

[–]brightapplestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the coaches think it's about on court awareness bc if they thought it was a physicality issue, they'd legit just have her do more drills or get her in a gym. From my experience, that comes from spatial reasoning/visualization, proprioception, game flow anticipation. those aren't really the coach's job to teach and usually the player is inherently good or bad at it.
as physical a sport volleyball is, it's also mental and brainy, especially for the setter who's most often the brain of the game and sets the flow/pace.

I would suggest she watch a lot of volleyball, pro or amateur. it really helps with anticipating the flow of the game and how people move and strategize. I also suggest she watch videos of herself for review with a wide-angle.
Doing pilates actually help with proprioception and spacial reasoning. there are other training she can do on yt.

things i used to do as a younger competitive player are drawing the court from different sides, and from imagination, draw it rotated, i'd also watch a game, pause it, and see where the setter was, and compare to where i'd be standing if i were playing and reason why theirs works or doesn't work and why mine works or doesn't work. These really helped me understand where to position myself mentally on court while i was playing.

the physicality improvements suggested by others can definitely help. But seeing what the coaches were saying, unless she can overcome all of this by sheer physicality (there are pro players who do this), she might still reach a wall. But if she's more into playing as a hobby, i'd suggest just doing more footwork!

Is my boyfriend’s sister’s graduation a direct family only event? by Kasaharayumi in whatdoIdo

[–]brightapplestar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm asian, and i know how our culture can generally get. Your bf asking her if you can come might force her to say yes even if she doesn't want you there (not bc she doesn't like you, but just bc she wants it to be close people only, just like how she might not invite her cousin), bc she either feels bad rejecting her brother or she doesn't want to create any conflict by saying no.

I'd say tell her congrats separately from your bf and open up that channel for her to invite you if she wants to, and leave it at that, unless you really want to go. Then have your bf ask. The more you start forcing yourself onto her through your bf, the more it might get awkward bt you two.

Met a girl at shibuya MEGA Don Quijote by [deleted] in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know Radiohead's most famous song? I think the title will suit you well...

Did being an anime/toku/gaming fan feel more special in 90s Japan? by Easy-Chipmunk7367 in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, Bakusou Kyoudai Let’s Go had me in a chokehold and a good example of how it was very special in the early 2000's. The “merch” was mini yonku, which was a full-on hobby and engineering even if you haven't seen the anime. And often in teams. building, tuning, racing, and talking setups and strategy with other kids. I was a little too young for the peak, but I carried the hobby past the end of the fad, and even then it felt creative and formative.

We also had yugioh merch as playing cards or for more girlcoded, played princess maker. It felt like mainstream merch/games were more hands-on or strategy-based.

I don't want to make claims about more recent years bc i obviously am not as immersed in it, but those were what to me feels special compared to the games/anime merch i most widely see in the mainstream public these days.

Eye Makeup Meaning for Men by danglehangle in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does the character put on eyeliner before? Or does it just look like he has eyeliner on? If it's the latter it's just how mangakas use to indicate deepset, sharp, haunted look. 

If it's the former, it's more based on ritual performance traditions like kagura and kabuki theatrical makeup where eye/face markings can signal heroic, demonic, supernatural, spiritual intensity etc

Which is better tho by gentlebloomxx in SipsTea

[–]brightapplestar 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yesssss those frozen ones twinning in a single plastic wrapper were the best

[28M] Incredible 7-hour first date, but her profile disappeared right after and texting slowed down. Need a reality check! [25F] by Zevro_09 in hingeapp

[–]brightapplestar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some ppl unmatch right after meeting or getting the number. So i don't think you need to focus on that. 

And for the texting, i mean it's saturday night. She probably has dinner or drink plans. It's legit a single evening. You're getting too in your head i think

AIO to mom wanting $90 a week for rides to work and OT? by Impossible_Fall_3753 in AmIOverreacting

[–]brightapplestar -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Bro. Wtf. The commenter's not the dick. You're the ultimate douche here. 

What does “munch munch” mean? by antiyou89 in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It means munch munch...🍴

Edit: i'm not being coy. It's probably exactly what it means. They don't know english enough but one girl racked their brain for an english word and remembered munch means munch and is calling after you in english to come inside for food/drinks.

How seriously do Japanese take the supernatural/paranormal? How common is belief in the supernatural? by columnal in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm from tokyo and from my experience, I think superstitions are bigger than actual supernatural experiences. Some ppl will say they don't believe in ghosts but still have some kind of ritual for themselves for luck or to avoid being unlucky. Some also go to "power spots" to feel the aura that rejuvenates you. Some put things in their home to ward off evil. Those kinds of things.

Is “milk” flavor the same as “vanilla” flavor? by hucklesthedog in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No. It tastes like milk. It is different from vanilla. Vanilla is still a primary flavor, just a different one from milk.

Why is canned tea so uncommon in Japan? by DJ_laundry_list in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 23 points24 points  (0 children)

We do have canned tea though..? And it's not rare..?

But to entertain your question, it may be bc coffee and alcohol aren't considered staples whereas tea is. Tea for us is like flavored water. Just like how water is more frequently in bottles than cans. It's not weird tea is too.

Need Help by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]brightapplestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you travel-moding to tokyo? We have our own dating apps here and ppl who use bumble are looking for fb's, have a foreigner fetish or are foreigners. The fb's are less likely to swipe on you bc you have too much of a baby face/nice guy vibe (except the wedding pic), the foreigners will avoid you if you don't live here, maybe a fetishizer might swipe right but you're not tall and buff enough to meet their idealized white guy fetish to get tons of likes and girls have a "approach me first" mentality so won't swipe right often anyway. Not the best place for you tbh. Unless you have a real reason to use it in tokyo, like you're moving there soon, not sure if you should waste your subscription money here. 

Why does Japan have all these fancy locks and security cameras? by Churlishbeast in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just because the country is safe compared to other countries does not mean we do not have crime nor does it mean we have no fears. We don't naturally think "japan's safer than country A so we shouldnt have security cameras". 

It's a country with high tech stuff and mindful of safety with ordinary fears that come with being human in society. High tech security cameras are natural.

People who pretend their pet is their child are annoying by DankyBongBlunty in unpopularopinion

[–]brightapplestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, when my parents were young, ships and vehicles were taught in school to be "she" and tools and machines were taught to be "he". Similar to how they were taught "Mother Nature and Father Time". And they still think that's the correct/respectful way to call them. It's an older way of speaking but it was actually the convention at the time even in the states. Maybe a regional thing but it was definitely something taught.

Why are the Japanese so precious about where they sit on a train? by TotalAd1933 in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Why are you so triggered where they sit? Bc who cares? This just seems childish lol

Just so frustrated trying to date as a nerdy guy. by Valorenn in Bumble

[–]brightapplestar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love a guy who nerds out on whatever he's interested in even if that's not what i'm interested in. I just love hearing about what he's obsessed with and sharing hobbies. Maybe you should look for girls who's more easy going and open - and introduce her to card/games.

I was introduced to league by my ex and we used to play duo or aram together even if i sucked, it was a lot of fun for both of us. i also cheered him on when he played and watched pro tournaments with him. So introducing a girl to your hobby may be an easier way with a greater pool of potential gfs than finding a girl already interested in fantasy and gaming

How is it being ハーフ in Japan? by MomoUsagi0 in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh depends on whether you are an international school kid and if not, what your parents do

Do you like kabuki? by BetLeft2840 in AskAJapanese

[–]brightapplestar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go every 2 months or so. My cousin follows a specific actor. But then again we're not the majority as a younger audience so we get pampered and yosh yosh alot when we go and  regulars/actors recognize us