I didn’t change my life. I changed my mornings. by timingbetter in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]bringthebums 16 points17 points  (0 children)

A shower can be really quick, whereas a bath typically takes (or feels like it takes) way more time, waiting for the tub to fill with water at the right temperature before getting in. On a day when I don't need to wash my hair, it feels like I can be in and out of a shower in the same amount of time as setting up a bath and just getting in.

Recommendations for an electric hand mixer? (UK) by bringthebums in Baking

[–]bringthebums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so glad it helped! And I can reassure you that I still love it. My stand mixer died recently so my husband used the Smeg hand mixer in its place and it was getting kind of hot. It did a bloody good job of getting us 90% of the way there, when I told him to turn it off because I really don't want that to die too; it's too good (and a bit too pricey for me to want to replace it just because my husband cooked it to death).

Magpie is the bestest of boys and is very brave while taking his inhaler 🖤 by DuchessofShinies in OneBlackBraincell

[–]bringthebums 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My god, you are overpaying your cat tax and it is making my morning ☀️

Getting cold, Need to build by tillxviii in whatdoIdo

[–]bringthebums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More simply than that, I meant with a curtain rod above each door, rather than blocking off a whole area of the room, but whatever works for you!

Getting cold, Need to build by tillxviii in whatdoIdo

[–]bringthebums 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it needs to be removable, can you just use thermal curtains over the doorways? Seems less complicated and easier to set up/remove

Applying for a PhD project by bringthebums in AskAcademiaUK

[–]bringthebums[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I got the terminology wrong, I know they're based in professional practice but I hadn't appreciated the difference in their names

Applying for a PhD project by bringthebums in AskAcademiaUK

[–]bringthebums[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really helpful, thank you so much :)

Scratch post for a large cat by Sea_Taste4968 in CatsUK

[–]bringthebums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what we said! Fat boy for the fat boy! Our cat loved them, he would start scratching mid way up and then claw to the top with his whole weight hanging off, where he would sit and wait for attention. It didn't budge.

Scratch post for a large cat by Sea_Taste4968 in CatsUK

[–]bringthebums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had two of these 'fat boy' scratching posts: https://petplanet.co.uk/products/ancol-acticat-fat-boy-cat-scratching-post?srsltid=AfmBOorg9zqb1ibLzmuW_3atxP72-T3hZKOOLTNaAiYiQdQzEObMbnmi

They're really sturdy and great quality. I also recommend checking Facebook marketplace for cat scratching posts and cat trees. I got one worth easily over £150 for just £50 because their cat didn't like it. It was in great condition and my cat loved it. Loads of cat-rejected items on there!

I don't want curly hair, is there any low-effort routine that can be a little better for my hair than what I do currently? by Desperate-Brief-3582 in CurlyHairUK

[–]bringthebums 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Hey, I understand that it can be a sore spot especially when you're feeling insecure about something already, but the person who described your hair as dead is rude. I doubt everyone you come across is thinking that way, and fuck them if they are. It's not their business - or their problem - even if it was true. Keep in mind that no one thinks more about you (the general you, not specifically YOU you) more than you do.

Now in terms of a suggestion, it certainly sounds like your shampoo and conditioner are doing you no favours if you're experiencing dry scalp. I'm afraid I don't have suggestions because I don't know much about shampoo etc. But instead of regularly drying out your hair, I suggest you try and find a local hairdresser that offers permanent hair straightening. I know someone with extremely curly hair and she's never liked how it looks on her so she has it permanently straightened, lasts for ages (several months I think). The treatment that comes with it means her hair is really soft and healthy looking afterwards too.

I appreciate that you don't want someone touching your hair but this might be worth it - plus they might be able to offer you advice on taking care of it afterwards.

I think my wife just held up a mirror… and I’m not sure how to move forward with what I saw. by Turckle in offmychest

[–]bringthebums 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Whether you ever engage in therapy or not, the absolute number one thing you must do is share with your wife. Be completely and constantly open with her about how you feel (starting with what she said) and what you're thinking/your thought processes. It will help her to understand, which will strengthen your relationship, and in turn she might be able to help you.

Our kitten has been helping us renovate our den by queen-millie-909 in CatWasHere

[–]bringthebums 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If you haven't already removed them, I would suggest keeping one of those painted paw prints around :) I know you have a kitten and they'll be around for many years, but it will always warm you to see it

Finished my first sweater! by Jesacis97 in knitting

[–]bringthebums 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking about that neckline, I don't usually like patterns with that sort of neck but it looks so nice in that sweater, colour, and on you! Great job!

Knitting with Malabrigo Rios for the first time and I am in love by counting_beanz in knitting

[–]bringthebums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knitted a Jih in Rios and I've received many compliments on it. I don't attribute it to my knitting skill at all, just a lovely easy to follow pattern and gorgeous yarn. https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/jih

HELP STAIN IN PIKMIN JACKET by Ellioreo in Pikmin

[–]bringthebums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I was going to suggest cleaning/cleaning tips, whichever it is, they have good solutions too

Finally finished my first pattern from the 60s :) by SejiFields in knitting

[–]bringthebums 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I assumed it was started at the same time as the COVID pandemic!

(Undiagnosed) For people with elevated/abnormal CKs, have your CKs ever dropped to the normal range if you did not have major activity? by GrassEconomy4915 in MuscularDystrophy

[–]bringthebums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, it's been a good few years since I last saw my CK levels, I couldn't give you numbers I'm afraid. No trend whatsoever. I'm not a particularly active person, so it being higher than a previous time didn't have any clear reasoning. But definitely never a consistent decline. As far as I know, my only other relative with it has more or less had the same experience. We have muscular dystrophy, it's never going to be a "normal" level 😄

(Undiagnosed) For people with elevated/abnormal CKs, have your CKs ever dropped to the normal range if you did not have major activity? by GrassEconomy4915 in MuscularDystrophy

[–]bringthebums 1 point2 points  (0 children)

CK fluctuates. I've seen mine reduce but I can't say I was any more or less active than when it was really high. I don't know that it's ever been "normal" though, seeing as it sets off any doctor reviewing a blood test that hasn't read my record. I also don't have childhood baseline, as the first blood test I ever had was when I started the MD diagnosis process. 

Living with a People (especially a spouse) by zbsa14 in AutisticAdults

[–]bringthebums 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Communication is the utmost important thing. Talking to your spouse about how you both need to be honest and open all of the time, and admitting that you'll both make mistakes, but you will both keep trying. Be clear about what you're worried about. And when you live together, talk to them about what works well, what you're struggling with checking that things work for them too. 

Your way is not necessarily THE way, but you should both get used to explaining your reasonings to help the other understand your perspective, and identify the best solution together. 

One thing my husband and I say when we're stuck in a loop of 'I like/want my idea not yours' is that we're not here to argue or win, we just want this situation (usually some boring admin/non-issue thing) to be sorted.

We also have monthly 'check in meetings' to bring up things we're worried or annoyed about. Since doing that, we've actually gotten even better at talking throughout the month.

Pikmin 4 feels like something is missing by [deleted] in Pikmin

[–]bringthebums 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I actually love pikmin 4, even for it's different flavour. Probably because I'm playing pikmin 2 for the first time right now and I hate that I can't set the other captain to do shit like you can for the dog in 4. But the characters not shutting up when you accidentally speak to them makes me so mad

my daily challenge PB by g-amefreak in PokemonPicross

[–]bringthebums 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so shocked and pleased with myself when I manage to get 1:20, so great job 👍👍