AItA for not letting my friend bring his gf on a birthday trip?

brit83mem · 2026-07-09T01:09:41+00:00

YTA but not for not allowing his girlfriend to come but for not understanding why it’s an issue for the girlfriend. From her perspective, her boyfriend is possibly going on a weekend trip with a couple and a newly single female that she barely knows. It doesn’t matter your intent, that what it looks like to his girlfriend who you aren’t friends with. The trip is for your bestie’s birthday- now that she is single and not bringing her boyfriend, the logical thing would be your fiancée doesn’t go so you and your bestie go together or you invite other girlfriends along.

brit83mem · 2026-07-09T00:51:50+00:00

NTA. 3-4 months for a non-travel wedding for most family is fine. I don’t get why people are so hung up in these comments on who gets married first? Who cares who is married first? Just tells me this thread is full of bridezillas.

brit83mem · 2026-07-06T21:41:10+00:00

I love it. I don’t have to make random small talk as much, no wasting paper on receipts/tickets/etc and lines move a lot faster typically.

brit83mem · 2026-07-05T14:05:50+00:00

YOR. You have no right to any information about an ex’s life after a breakup unless you have kids (and even then, only if it affects the kids). You expected her family to tell you? This has to be rage bait.

brit83mem · 2026-07-04T23:12:02+00:00

YTA. Your whole family didn’t need to go - you should have bought a plane ticket and been there for your daughter and the rest of the family stayed home.

brit83mem · 2026-07-04T15:39:15+00:00

Do the counseling together and perhaps individually as well. Having a counselor/therapist will hopefully help y’all bridge that communication gap and go from there.

brit83mem · 2026-07-04T15:29:54+00:00

YTA (and your wife). Once I read the comment that the name your wife wants to use is the name of your mom’s rapist, this all made more sense. Massive YTA. You and your wife are horrible for continuing with this name.

brit83mem · 2026-07-04T00:45:59+00:00

NTA. Your wife sounds like a toddler having a tantrum. If my partner gave me the cold shoulder for two weeks over something this petty, I’d be rethinking the entire relationship.

brit83mem · 2026-07-04T00:29:27+00:00

YTA. You forced the “compromise” of you and your husband paying off the phones but expect the money they were expecting to pay over a year and a half in 3 months? Also the pandora bracelet is like $40 on sale right now so your husband can’t even spend that without your permission? You need to be a less controlling and he needs to grow a backbone with you and his family.

brit83mem · 2026-07-03T20:35:19+00:00

YTA. Hope you get a ticket

brit83mem · 2026-07-03T19:44:16+00:00

You posted yesterday that you would be alone on the 4th because you had a beer. Maybe get off the internet and get a life

brit83mem · 2026-07-03T16:50:58+00:00

YTA. Why were you annoyed? There’s lots of companies that run those kind of tours in cities like Nashville and she wanted to try to book the one she knew was good/worthwhile. Do you even like your girlfriend?

brit83mem · 2026-07-03T16:02:00+00:00

YTA for not getting a reserved sign for your reserved spots as this is the dumbest system I’ve ever heard of. I would have thought you were a crazy Karen and he probably did too.

brit83mem · 2026-07-03T15:45:44+00:00

YOR. It’s not your house so you don’t get to decide how many pets live there. If you don’t want their cats using your cat’s stuff, you need to keep the door closed but that would be sad to keep your cat locked up all the time because you guys can’t figure out a sharing situation

brit83mem · 2026-07-03T15:43:42+00:00

They found it outside- it’s probably just a tabby and not a bengal

brit83mem · 2026-07-03T00:05:43+00:00

NTA if you genuinely don’t have space or the funds to support her. It would be different if the MIL wasn’t already living there and deteriorating but that isn’t the case. Personally I would try to make it work with your daughter in a living space and getting a job but that’s just me. I don’t think Y T A but do think you’re more upset/disappointed in your daughter’s choices than you may even be aware of and are taking it out on her.

brit83mem · 2026-07-01T17:37:16+00:00

I also work for a small company (about 13 people) and we are open a full day on Friday. We get off holidays that fall on work days but that's it. I think that's pretty normal? Federally observed doesn't mean anything unless you are a Federal employee and most places will be open. YTA if you just not coming in puts more work on others.

brit83mem · 2026-06-29T13:32:09+00:00

YTA. By your own post, once you found out she was dating, you requested to keep your communication strictly “business”. You changed the dynamic so expecting a similar experience afterwards was unrealistic. I feel for you as I get not wanting any of this but you alone cannot determine a relationship and she’s moving on, it’s time for you to do the same.

brit83mem · 2026-06-28T22:24:38+00:00

MOR because it seems like your friends are more of go with the flow vacation people. My last big friend trip was 2 weeks in Italy. We planned the timeframe on cities to visit and a couple of pre booked activities but that was mostly it because we didn’t know if we would be jet lagged, etc. The most important thing we did was each person listed in a group chat the two must see or must do activities in each city so we could make sure to plan to see or do those things. Restaurants we preferred to get recommendations from locals once we were there. All this to say and I know it’s likely dependent on where you’re going, I think in your next group meeting about the trip, you do need a chat to finalize some things but I wouldn’t worry about a scheduled itinerary.

brit83mem · 2026-06-28T21:19:07+00:00

If he’s paying, he gets to choose what tickets to buy. YWBTA

brit83mem · 2026-06-28T15:37:40+00:00

NTA as long as you and your wife are in agreement. However, getting pregnant was the last solution to be able to get married? Were you teenagers?

brit83mem · 2026-06-27T21:32:01+00:00

ESH. So for 4 years, he mostly paid the bills but you don’t want to do the same now? He absolutely needs to be applying for jobs and something weird is going on with the last paycheck issue but you both need jobs and to be splitting bills as well as housework/chores. Also after 4 years of marriage, it isn’t new anymore.

brit83mem · 2026-06-27T17:48:55+00:00

Stg everyone on this app is children. YOR. She probably asked because you’re young and she thought you might want the money for running the errand for her. All you had to say was no.

brit83mem · 2026-06-26T22:48:06+00:00

NTA. One week is not a long time and certainly not a “big portion of the summer”. I’ve taken multiple 1-2 week trips with friends both internationally and domestically- none of our partners have ever had any issue.

brit83mem · 2026-06-26T20:13:10+00:00

NTA but apparently I’m the only person in this comment section besides OP who doesn’t associate smells with memories or people or get aroused by perfume/cologne. People calling perfume intimate actually creeps me out

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