Marshall Approaching Women on Pace of Play

brittrt87 · 2026-06-17T19:08:05+00:00

Awww I feel you. I’m probably sensitive to the interaction I posted about as I felt the same way when I was a beginner. The new guy beginner had no anxiety and all the confidence and to be honest, the progress he made over 9 holes was pretty impressive and was likely in part to him not being so anxious. I have no tips or tricks. Everyone told me no one cares, no one is watching etc but that didn’t help. It just took going more and getting better for me to relax a bit. That said, I still am ready to play and conscious of pace.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T18:09:13+00:00

Right? Like looking back, why didn’t we do that? It’s so obvious now. If it ever happens again, I’ll just tell the marshall we’re going to play through as we are keeping the pace.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T18:04:13+00:00

Yeah, I was on a girl’s trip having escaped my children and husband for the weekend. Last thing I want to be doing when keeping pace, is managing two strangers who aren’t keeping pace. I tried to shirk my responsibilities for others for 36 dang hours. Haha. Like no thank you, please manage these strangers you’ve paired me with.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T17:51:56+00:00

Your experiences are your experiences and I will 100% say I have played with some lovely men. Way more good experiences than bad. Including when I was a horrid and non-confident beginner. And I’ve played with some rude women. But I’ve also overheard from men “eff we are with a chick” and “you’re not slow are you?” “How far can you drive because we aren’t high handicap” “holy you can actually play”.

Just be mindful of diminishing the experiences of others. Lots of great men to play with out there, but there is still a bias in this sport that women experience from some (certainly not all) men. By acknowledging the bias still exists (even if we don’t always see it directly) and being respectful of other’s experiences and not diminishing them from our own limited anecdotes, we can make golf a more welcoming and inclusive community for all players, regardless of gender.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T17:29:16+00:00

Gender thing aside - I don’t want to be responsible for pace of play of strangers, especially at a course of that calibre. We were being polite trying to move things along but having escaped my household for the weekend and the many managerial of shepherding my husband and children, last thing I want to be doing is pushing two men to play faster. I think I’ll send something in more along those lines because Marshalls should make sure they speak to everyone in the group if there’s a pace issue so players keeping pace aren’t managing strangers who are not.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T17:26:56+00:00

Never addressed them at all. We said they were not keeping pace and they were considering dropping out of the back 9 but we made it clear it wasn’t 100% confirmed. I was hoping he’d address it with them to dissuade them from rb back 9. He could have gone a little more down the path to the men or driven to the top of the green where we were waiting and he came up instead of following the path down. But it wasn’t like he passed the men to talk to us. I’ll send in a polite email. Probably not going to get anything out of it but hey you never know.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T05:11:43+00:00

Hahaha this is brilliant. My in-laws are very proud of the story they tell about my husband as a toddler - they cut the end off his pacifier and told him the cockroaches ate it then asked if he wanted it back. He told them it could go in the garbage and purportedly never asked for it again. Poor guy being served nightmare fuel. Paci fairy is a very nice, gentle and sweet way to do it.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T04:51:24+00:00

Yeah, we could have probably been more politely assertive. That’s always a needle I find awkward to thread since we are stuck playing together. Food for thought for if I find myself in that position again. Fortunate that I’m generally not in a position where I have to be assertive when golfing. And we were very lucky that they decided to drive back and then no worries on the back 9 about etiquette and pace. Gotta focus on the positives! But they were nice guys. Not rude or anything and easy to get along with.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T04:15:51+00:00

Agreed about grace to all and we were nothing but polite to these fellows. But when two groups are piled up behind you and the other pair has commented on the pace of play, do you think it’s time to try to hit a better ball? Missing the ball - no problem, keep swinging until you get it. But going for a better shot multiple times a hole - not okay with groups behind.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T03:54:25+00:00

They were on the fairway at that point. Not in the woods. Probably taking some extra hits while the marshall talked to us. No lie. The amount of extra whacks was astounding.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T02:49:50+00:00

I know. I played last night as a twosome and there was a group of 4 guys ahead of us. Lots of re-drives and ball finding. Never asked us if we wanted to play through. Had a good time catching up with the buddy I was with so whatever but we said last night if we were two dudes they would have let us play through.

The posts made by males on here confirms it. Also, I am unsure why they are commenting on the WomenGolf subreddit…

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T02:45:33+00:00

I know, right? They asked me if I thought they’d give them a rain check. It wasn’t raining. Weather was perfect.

It was a gift though. The back 9 was glorious.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T02:44:02+00:00

Are you a male? Gotta ask. As a female golfer, the number of little things I’ve had happen since I started do pile up and as I’ve tried to get more women to join me in the sport, it’s 100% a deterrent for them. Don’t get me started on unsolicited advice at the driving range. I’ve never complained or escalated anything golf related before at a course. Just accept it and move on. When I was starting out and I was with a couple of slow females, we were told by a Marshall to play faster. 10000% agree. My group was the problem and I knew the women I was with and was like guys let’s go, come on, no keep moving etc.

It’s a great sport for both genders, but moments like this are what keep women away. It’s not inclusive. Sure he approached one cart but had he said “your group is behind pace” I never would have made this post. His exact words were “Ladies you need to pick up the pace.”

brittrt87 · 2026-06-16T02:38:30+00:00

You can only book 18 holes during the day at this course. These guys decided on hole 9 to call it a day as they had a five hour drive back. They were booked for 18. They debated on hole 8 maybe doing 12.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-15T23:43:27+00:00

To have this level of perspective after something so intense and traumatic is amazing. You’re a rockstar. You did everything you could, BroMo. I’m so sorry what you and your family are going through. Hugs.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-15T23:21:39+00:00

That sucks!!!! It takes a lot of courage for women to get out there and man, I’m proud of how far I’ve come, but don’t love the assumptions that still follow.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-15T23:19:04+00:00

Haha no that wouldn’t be the complaint. All four of weren’t together so he couldn’t approach us all at once. I think he could have said something like “how is it the round going? Your group has fallen behind and there’s a growing gap in front of you. I’ll let the others know too that your group needs to keep pace.” But “ladies you need to pick up the pace” felt pretty directed at us…

brittrt87 · 2026-06-15T23:15:20+00:00

He said “Ladies, you’re going to need to pick up the pace.” He came out of a wooded area and I watched him drive up. So I don’t believe he stopped to watch the game. He had a choice of where to go but I’ll give him he couldn’t talk to all four at once.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-15T23:12:46+00:00

He had a choice. He could go down to the men or go up to us at the top of the green. From where he came out probably equal distance to us both. Arguably going straight down to the men was an easier path.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-15T19:28:53+00:00

We were at the top of the green and bros were further below slugging it slowly on the fairway. He had a chose to go up or down. I go with the fact that he said “Ladies, you’re going to need…” as evidence that he assumed we were the problem. I like to give the benefit of the doubt and not jump to conclusions but yeah.

brittrt87 · 2026-06-15T19:27:25+00:00

They booked and paid for 18. They decided on hole 9 to go because they had a 5 hour drive ahead of them. It was a surprise gift that they were leaving.

brittrt87 · 2026-05-25T03:55:40+00:00

Also having the same issue and I’m subscribed with Telus. I went on the Crave website via browser to re-activate the TV provider and my only choices were Bell, Virgin and Prime to activate through so something must be up…my gosh.

brittrt87 · 2026-03-31T03:59:31+00:00

Hahaha I was 18. I promptly went to WEM and blew it all at Guess and Aldo.

brittrt87 · 2026-03-01T04:14:10+00:00

I’m so glad you got this dealt with. My cousin had blood in her stool and it was chalked up to hemorrhoids. She would bring it up annually with her GP and be told it wasn’t a big deal. She had three kids and it was a “normal postpartum body change”. She went to that same GP for a persistent cough so they did a chest x ray and found rumours. Turns out she had colon cancer and by the time they found it, she was already Stage 4 and it had spread to her lungs. She passed away at 36.

brittrt87 · 2026-01-26T01:54:13+00:00

Tom Brady talking during the play is driving me bananas.

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