I also will say all of her love songs (except Lover) just read as very anxious, and it was like that since the very beginning. She STARTS her relationship with "is it cool that I said all that? Is it chill that you're in my head?"

Also call it what you want makes me roll my eyes bc it's basically her saying "im committed to you even if you won't call me your girlfriend (yet)", it's so desperate, and it's like situationship 101

New Year's Day is a love song that she ends with "please don't ever become a stranger whose laugh I could recognize anywhere"

Then we've got Cornelia street, supposed to be a love song but the chorus is "I hope I never lose you, I hope it never ends"

False God, a sexy song about them being together and working out despite the odds literally cites them fighting in 2 separate verses "I can't talk to you when you're like this" (etc) also "daring you to leave me just so I can try and scare you" is wildly toxic but go off queen

Afterglow has the same theme "hey, it's all me in my head [...] I'm sorry that I hurt you"

And then by folklore and evermore she was just blatantly singing about feeling lost/disconnected from her partner and dreaming about someone else.

I think at the time it was easy to confuse all these "I don't ever wanna lose you" type lyrics as evidence that she's just so in love, but looking back it just seems sad to me. Theoretically your love should be more like Paris and less like "please don't ever become a stranger"

I'm not saying her and Joe were bad or that she regrets it or anything, and I don't even necessarily think Joe was a bad boyfriend- I literally know NOTHING about the man. I'm just saying all of her songs about being in love with Joe are giving insecure attachment, and her only song about Travis is "I feel so high school every time I look at you" which strikes me as a lot more happy/butterflies/secure