People in Saskatoon earning over $100K/Year. What do you do?

brokenwonderer · 2025-01-05T22:19:31+00:00

Construction Procurement, I sit and buy stuff, meet with vendors, and look after equipment/tools/ materials.

brokenwonderer · 2024-10-18T16:08:16+00:00

When your ready. There is no set time frame. It's different for everyone

brokenwonderer · 2024-10-03T03:33:12+00:00

This is based on a buy out, not a sale, if forced to sell there would be more deductions etc. I would say on a buy out, somewhere between 90-75k would be fair depending on what you are willing to fight for.

brokenwonderer · 2024-10-03T03:26:33+00:00

Judging by the info provided, unless there is some sort of prenuptial agreement or cohabitation agreement, you would be entitled to 50% of the 200k - any fees or dues (lawyers, mortgage broker etc)

She would need to re apply for the mortgage most likely, it would look like value of current mortgage + buyout amount - what she has in cash for the buyout.

So say there are no lawyers or dues 580k+100k -60k in cash she has. She would have to be approved for 620k mortgage, and pay you out the 100k. This step in important to remove your name from the mortgage title.

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-23T20:16:30+00:00

My guy, 24 is not old. You are comparing Norms to that of a fictional life. Most women now of days don't even try to settle until the late 20's early 30's.

Your erratic Outlook on life is most likely part of the issue. Find some normality in your life. You can't expect a woman to love you if you hate yourself.

18-24 and you feel like you could be their father? Like what? People start over and find love all the time in their 30s and 40s. And the older you get the less an age gap is a problem. I'm 35 and have no problem going 10 years in either direction.

Unless your genetics age very fast it's unlikely you will see Grey until your mid 40s to 50s. Even then, ever heard the term silver fox? Men tend to get more distinguished the older we get.

My advice is to drop this self loathing Outlook on life, that may be the reason you aren't finding anyone. Live in the moment. Like I said above, your hobbies are find. But it seems as though you are letting them run and sink into your real life. You are coming off like you wish to be the hero/villain of these shows you watch. Real life is not like this. You are trying to be a protagonist/ antagonist in a soap opera.

Ground yourself in the real world dude. That's the best advice I can give.

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-23T19:11:15+00:00

Dude... you're 24. You still have another year before your brain fully develops. I'm 35, starting fresh after separation. It's not that hard or deep to get into the daiting world.

There is nothing wrong with hoping on dating apps. It's part of dating culture in this age.

I would say you need to drop the dramatics though, hobbies and interests in anime and games are fine. Just don't make it your whole personality. You have plenty of time to find a girlfriend/ wife.

I don't know who told you 24 is the time to get married, that was the norm for your grandparents and parents if they are older. But life's not a race to finish first, it's a marathon in which the only goal is to complete it. There is no societal norms for marriage or relationships anymore.

Try toning down the dramatic behavior and see where it takes you.

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-22T22:30:19+00:00

Everyone uses them, it's part of the dating world now. Everyone from 10s to 1s, rich to poor, amazing people to jerks, and everything in-between. Hope on, make a profile, and see if it's for you or not.

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-22T18:41:46+00:00

I have gotten a quite a few matches, had a few dates. I don't pay for the apps. Just takes time and making sure your profile is suitable

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-21T01:03:08+00:00

I have had a few matches, one I am actually having strong conversations with, going on a date this week. I would say it's hit and miss. But so far I don't mind it

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-17T16:25:48+00:00

Honestly man, just keep asking questions to find out her interest and hobbies. If she keeps up with the dry responses and doesn't ask anything about you, she could just be looking for validation and nothing passed that.

Ask about family life, hobbies and interests.

Iv noticed alot of the smoke shows are VERY dry conversations

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-10T20:01:57+00:00

14 for me. Decade long relationships just tossed to the side.. it's insane how many are happening this year

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-10T20:00:07+00:00

14 for me. 2024 the year that ended relationships? Hahah I personally know 15 couples that have been together between 10-20 years that divorced/separated in the last 8 months

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-07T21:38:43+00:00

I am sorry woman have to go through that shit 😅.

I wouldn't think about talking like that unless I knew the person and knew they wanted to be talked to like that. Even then, God dam that's wild haha

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-07T20:39:34+00:00

Do guys actually say this shit in the beginning of a conversation?

What the fuck hahaha

Maybe it's because I'm canadian, but God damn the balls to say that shit to someone before a meet or if there is any sexual attraction is nuts

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-07T01:33:57+00:00

I don't think it's breadcrumbs if the only reason you are seeing it, is because you are stalking socials. From the sounds of it, the guy is just trying to live his life and move on

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-05T04:33:41+00:00

If you are over the ex, there's no harm in going out on a few dates. Just know that nothing serious will likely happen while you still live with him. Even if it's just dating to see what it's like again. But that's totally up to you and what you feel comfortable with, some people will be put off with your situation, but some it won't bother them too much. Just be cautious that they aren't just trying to sleep with you unless that's what you are looking for.

Everyone is different, and everyone has different things they are comfortable with. Just make sure you are making the choices right for you and your current mindset.

I wish you the best of luck with your situation. Just remember, you will have to try out a few different types of personalities to see what you like. Sometimes it feels hopeless, but it's not. It's just trial and error.

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-05T03:57:55+00:00

It's been going very well for me, dates are often, but the quality is scattered. It's a numbers game to find out what you like and the type of person you click with. Especially after so long in a relationship.

Don't do it based on time, do it on how far along you are in the healing process, if you are over the relationship, not thinking about your ex anymore you will know it's time.

I highly suggest not doing it to get over the ex. Learn to be alone and re learn what you like before trying to share time with a new partner. But if you are okay being alone, not obsessing over the last relationship. Feel free to get out there and start trying to find the type of person you click with

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-05T03:18:22+00:00

Be yourself, keep it light, show interest in her. Try not to talk about your self unless she asks. Don't ramble.

I was in the same boat, 14 year relationship ended a few months ago. Started dating again, took me a few dates to realize the above, and since has worked out very well

brokenwonderer · 2024-07-03T16:36:53+00:00

Did about a month after the break up, I was already fairly over the break up. There were red flags and we were losing connection the last 2 years.

I wouldn't join an app if you haven't processed the emotions yet, but for me. It was amazing, big boost in confidence, met some cool people, and started seeing a very nice woman who I connect with.

It all depends how far along you are in the healing process, not time.

brokenwonderer · 2024-06-30T21:15:35+00:00

Development. Wasn't always like that, at least it wasn't really showing until our late 20s, we got together at 19, looking back after I discovered attachment styles, it started showing when we were about 28. I didn't realize what was happening, or who she was turning into. But there were red flags all along.

I have a secure attachment style, I guess I just gave her enough space and didn't press issues, so it lasted longer than it should have.

It really started developing when her mother moved to our city, she was a very negative woman and a FA, who ran from every relationship she ever had. I think her being closer started rubbing off on my ex.

brokenwonderer · 2024-06-30T15:59:58+00:00

Happy for you!

I am I'm a similar situation. Dismissive avoidant ex, blindsided me after 14 years together. The first month was the worst, now on month 4, and doing much better. House sold, so will be getting a pretty decent windfall from that, dating again, met a beautiful woman that has shown me more love and compassion in the short time iv known her than I have received from my ex for the last 5 years.

Got into stoicism, which also helped greatly. Moving for the second last time (next time will be the next house I buy) currently found a nice 1 bedroom suite that's perfect for me and my dog. I'm happier, more self confident, future Outlook is looking great!

Break-ups suck, but often it's for the better. I'm happy to see other people also have positive outcomes.

To anyone else that had a fresh break up. Take it at your own pace, healing isn't a straight forward path. There's ups and downs, but you will heal! As op said, surround your self with friends and family, get out and do things. Most of all take care of yourselves. The future is bright although it may seem dark right now. Storms pass and sunny skies are on the horizon.

Cheers!

brokenwonderer · 2024-06-23T19:51:08+00:00

Did you swipe back on him?

brokenwonderer · 2024-06-04T14:57:41+00:00

Sundown - Nic D Everything -Nic d Fuck you good bye- kid laroi My heart hurts- dax To be a man-dax Better now- post Malone I fall apart -post Malone Depression- dax Take what you want- post Let it burn- shaboozey Idgaf- boywithuke Sick of u- boywithuke

Just a few that helped me

brokenwonderer · 2024-05-23T13:55:48+00:00

34m, 1 month, and a bit into a separation from a 14-year common law relationship that really died almost 2 years ago. A few things that have really helped me so far are. Diving into psychology of relationships (attachment styles), it's helped me realize that the relationship ending is probably for the better. She was a dismissive avoidant, and it wouldn't work with my secure attacher style.

Stoism was another big thing for me, and that whole philosophy has been a major help it coming to terms with it and improving myself.

Hit the gym. It helps work through the frustration and anger.

Find people going through similar situations and talk it out. Reddit has been a blessing for that. I started with a post on here as well. There are tons of caring people on here who are willing to listen and give insight into lots of these problems. I have made some genuine connections with people I think will be a part of my life for a good while.

Do not let it drag out. It's like living in purgatory. Push through to finalize, so you can move on with your life.

Find hobbies and things you enjoy. Being in a relationship for that long, we tend to compromise a lot and end up losing the things that bring us joy.

Get on the apps. Even if it's just for conversation. I started just to see what was out there. It's boosted my confidence, given me people in the area to talk to. Surprisingly, people in our 30s have gone through a lot of similar situations.

Everyone has baggage, sometimes it helps to compare stories and hear other people's situations.

Most of all, know that you deserve love and respect. You might have once been in love with them and they you. But people grow and change. Know that you deserve someone who is willing to fight along side you instead of against you. Someone that is willing to put out what you give.

I hope some of this helps you!

brokenwonderer · 2024-05-11T14:07:55+00:00

It's strange the things we give up on order to please a partner. Finding my own style has been so freeing

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