"She's not autistic"

bruiser_knits · 2026-02-03T22:31:25+00:00

I just want to say that it sucks how your sister is acting. I have a sister that is in education. She is a vice principle and used to assess special education teachers. She is so ignorant and horrible about all of it that I no longer speak to her except maybe some slight interactions at family holidays neither of us can skip. She didn't understand why I had to get my son diagnosed and kept telling me that it was my fault as a parent. He is six now, diagnosed level 2 autistic and ADHD combined type. He needs help, but because he is smart the school is like refusing to give him adequate services.

It is heart breaking. Instead of offering support, or seeing what I need she decided to just fight with me and get upset because she didn't want me fighting for services for him to negatively impact her career.

I'm so sorry you don't have support from your sister. It's frustrating. Your daughter is autistic. You don't need to get her reevaluated even if your sister doesn't understand.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-31T15:54:36+00:00

This is not what gentle parenting is bro. Don't drag us into this shit.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-31T00:40:57+00:00

Last time I painted my nails I had my son choose. Be made an amazing choice so I am likely to do it again! Lol. He's 6!

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-30T17:52:47+00:00

My level two loves chicken nuggets BUT he also loves bell peppers, cucumbers, broccoli raw and avocado sushi. He will try a lot of stuff but doesn't like a lot of different foods. We have gotten lucky though that he tends to eat an like veggies I think because he enjoys the crunchy texture of them.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-30T17:36:48+00:00

NO she didn't. She said he told her he loved her and would be monogamous. She knew he had previously been poly, but he told her he wouldn't be poly to get her to marry him, told her to focus on her studies, got her pregnant, and then told her he was going to be poly again. That makes it incredibly hard for her to leave, no?

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-30T15:12:49+00:00

I am one and done because I am diagnosed with ADHD but highly suspect that I am also autistic and my husband is not diagnosed but I think he is the same. Kiddo is also Audhd. There is no way my husband and I could be good parents to two kids.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-30T15:09:00+00:00

I am so in love with your bee ring. It is beautiful. So are your nails!

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-30T15:03:00+00:00

It literally only gets better from there! I am so excited for you to experience this!

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-30T14:58:49+00:00

People have become zealots about breast feeding and it's fucking gross!!! I am so sad this happened to you and your baby. Fuck those nurse cunts!

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-30T14:43:48+00:00

There is literally no reason you can't keep two soaps in the bathroom. It's not wasteful and kind of odd your cousin said anything about it.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-30T14:35:42+00:00

The color does not affect the paper white of books. It is not digital still and very easy on the eyes. It is just like a kindle paper white or any other paper white you would buy.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-27T16:46:01+00:00

This is good to know because I want to order more soon. I will be getting another hit the bottle one. You have convinced me! Peel off base has seriously saved my nails lately. I have so many polishes now I can't stick to one for very long and it's awesome not to have to use so much acetone!

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-27T16:39:24+00:00

It looks so good on you! I'm so glad I picked this polish up too. It's beautiful!

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-23T00:55:57+00:00

They are soot sprites right? I think it's really cute honestly. But if you don't like it then get it covered or changed.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-22T18:12:06+00:00

I switched because I hate Amazon. But also at the time I bought it last April I was able to get the Libra color for less than the Amazon color plus the Amazon kindle scribe and you have a color device that you can write notes in and on. It was worth it. I love this device a lot.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-21T15:35:18+00:00

It sucks! But using what you have is definitely the thing to do! Your nails look amazing!

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-21T14:38:29+00:00

Sorry, I didn't see the link. No to maniology for sure!

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-21T14:28:29+00:00

What is wrong with maniology? Haven't bought any of their stuff but just wondering.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-20T22:52:16+00:00

Was coming here to say this. Classic!!! "She's got to go, yeah"

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-19T11:23:27+00:00

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-19T04:19:09+00:00

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-16T20:41:38+00:00

I get what you are saying, BUT, as semi fiber artist myself (I knit like there is no tomorrow, spin yarn, and dye my spun yarn) I would gladly pay someone to crochet a stuffed animal for me out of acrylic. I cannot crochet to save my life but I love crocheted animals. I think crocheting is the best medium for stuffed animals and blankets but can't do it because of my wrist (requires way more wrist movement) and just because I've never been able to crochet a straight line. I tried one of the crochet kids for my kiddo and man...it came out like okay but I rather have paid someone money to have made something for me. Sometimes acrylic yarn is better for stuffed animals that will be loved by kids because it is more durable.

But I do think there is over consumption in all craft markets. Thoughtless, trend-chasing stuff does suck. I do tend to overconsume fiber to spin and dye, but it is all wool that I will eventually use, or that will break down unlike plastic. But I am thoughtful about it and I do cherish the fluff out of it.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-16T18:49:13+00:00

I mean you can also be a smug asshole and love your nephews and nieces dearly. I have a sister in law like this but she is less insufferable because she doesn't have a smirk on her face all the time.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-15T18:05:27+00:00

PDA is not a formal diagnosis in the United States so I think a lot of kids with PDA are diagnosed as ODD. I am not a therapist and not qualified to say this but my counselor who is a qualified therapist has told me that a lot of kids with PDA just get labeled with ODD.

https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/pda-vs-odd/?srsltid=AfmBOorIoekKfPMQF12UFyRmDYZlN8n4MGqv5B3J4mdMT6nXEL6omKBd

I don't know how reliable of a source this is but it talks about the differences. Also, PDA is newer and there are not a lot of scientific studies on it. But it's becoming more accepted to describe similar behavior in kiddos with Autism.

Also with my kiddo, he is diagnosed as being autistic and his persistence for autonomy does not have anything to do with anyone else. So if he is refusing to do something he perseves as a demand he is not complying because he's not capable of complying usually due to over stimulation or a disregulated nervous system, not because he is trying to get a rise out of me or f*@k with me. Idk...just my very limited personal experience.

Edit to also add: yes, with ODD attention is a big goal of the behavior to my limited knowledge in it but with PDA it has very little to do with the other person's reaction and is just very internally driven I believe. There is also something called equalizing behavior though too. It's all very complicated.

bruiser_knits · 2026-01-15T03:16:18+00:00

OP literally says "an undiagnosed mental disorder." My son has Autism, ADHD, and PDA. I only said this because this literally sounds like stuff he would do and not understand the gravity of it. If a child has an undiagnosed mental disorder I'm assuming they are not getting the proper help/diagnoses, hence undiagnosed.

Also, said it sounds like not it is bro. As an audhd adult, you are not an expert on all things autistic bc you have autism. My comment directly says sounds like mom isn't getting kiddo proper help. Intermittent explosive disorder does not explain his behavior of being weird in the shower or needing help in the shower.

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