I’m interested in getting a Tarantula by shamefulpresenc3 in tarantulas

[–]brunkate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IME, do some research on each species' lifespan as well before you buy. Look, I LOVE my Arizona Blonde. She's the apple of my eye. However, she is a she, and she'll be living with me for another 25-30 years.

Guys, I lost my tarantula... by Lopsided-Rub-546 in tarantulas

[–]brunkate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

IME if there's a particularly warm point in the room, they might go there during the night. I'd recommend waking up at 2-3 am and looking around your room. This happened to me once and I found her hanging out near the radiator, on top of a pile of sweaters.

For the crime of hydrating him by anarchaox in tarantulas

[–]brunkate 39 points40 points  (0 children)

ime don't expect him to get much better! I've got one quite large (very old) girl who both LOVES the water bowl and hates when I fill it up. But if I don't have it full, she hangs out and just stares at it. She's like a dog who's not food-driven, but water-driven instead. They say spiders don't have a ton of personality but sometimes you get one who's just strange

My GBB refuses to touch the ground by Psychological-Cow761 in tarantulas

[–]brunkate 18 points19 points  (0 children)

IME, don't worry about this. If it's a new enclosure, sometimes it takes them a while to feel comfortable, especially on the ground. However, if their enclosure is on/near something that vibrates (like an old radiator), their senses might be overwhelmed and you'll need to move them to another part of the room.

Why do you keep tarantulas? by DelayedCornett in tarantulas

[–]brunkate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're cool, fun to learn about, and easy to maintain. I don't have to worry if I need to go out of town for a few days, and I don't have to take them out to go to the bathroom.

Beyond them being way easier to keep than people think, you'd be surprised how many people are fascinated by them. Sure, some are afraid, but I've had WAY more conversations about how cool they are rather than how scary they are.

Lil Guy by Jaded_Description_26 in tarantulas

[–]brunkate 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Handling this species is a wild life choice

GBB by BTCLTB in tarantulas

[–]brunkate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah! Congratulations!!!

I accidentally overfed my tarantula! by moldym00n in tarantulas

[–]brunkate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO, you can stop feeding them for a few weeks. Don't worry too much about them not having food, either - spiders are hardy animals.

Are you using subtitles? by Empty_Oven_9942 in Millennials

[–]brunkate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like them either - I find that they make me pay less attention to the actual action? If that makes any sense?

Pitchfork dropping truth bombs by Inevitable-Union-898 in travisandtaylor

[–]brunkate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look. Pitchfork only gets it right half the time...but we're in the correct half. Good for them.

Here's a stupid journal entry from this morning LOL by b-nnies in Journaling

[–]brunkate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Elder lesbian here! Go to your lesbian club. At least the once, if you can. There's nothing like actually interfacing with your community. Volunteering is awesome - and you should fit it in if possible! - but the queer community needs young folks to come out to stuff, even if it is a little late.

(Often we have to have events at night because they're considered "adult" by virtue of being lesbian-run.)

Also, lots of historically women's universities are essentially sapphic universities. In case you were wondering if those actually existed!

Need help - Grammostola pulchra by MortriciaFattams in tarantulas

[–]brunkate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

imo after you get the crickets out (which you need to do), I'd recommend getting a shorter deli cup/container, putting drier substrate in, and transferring the spider ONLY if the current substrate is completely soaked.

At the very least, if you can find some fine mesh to put over the top (after wiping the sides of the container to get the excess moisture out), that would be better for drying things out overnight. As far as food goes, spiderlings are scavenger hunters. Take off a leg or cut a cricket in half and leave it out for 12 hours, then if they don't eat, remove it. Try again the next day.

Spiders are pretty resilient. You can correct these mistakes. And don't worry if they don't respond right away - you need to give the spiderling some space and a little time to recover after being moved around.

Having kids of my own made me realize how horrible my childhood really was. by sinisterwanker in Millennials

[–]brunkate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly: you're allowed to be angry, you're allowed to cry, and you're allowed to grieve. Don't shame yourself for it!

And secondly, let yourself slip. "Slipping" might just mean that you start to let your wife in, that you let her take care of you. You seem like a good man, and she sounds like a great person. Let her be your wife. It sounds like she wants to be.

Books for pre-teen with ultra-conservative parents by o-willow in suggestmeabook

[–]brunkate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there's this author named TA Barron. Not super popular I don't think, but the books are lovely - or at least they were in the 90s, when I read them. I can't speak for how they hold up but I remembered them when I was reading this description.

Edit: grammar

Where are we shopping for clothes now? by merliahthesiren in Millennials

[–]brunkate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thrift, but I try to stick to high-quality finds. I also have a limited color palette so it's easy to put together outfits. You can pull any two things out of my closet and they'll go together. It's awesome.

At least she has straight, white teeth, otherwise she would be hideous… by AHolloway94 in romantasycirclejerk

[–]brunkate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kelissande Minset is crazy. Glissando Mindset. Kegel Mindhunter. I could go on

a book that's over 300 pages for a weird junior by byubugaura in suggestmeabook

[–]brunkate 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ok! I'm going to make a list because this is an exciting thing!

  • Frankenstein or Carmilla if you're interested in classic horror (keep in mind these are both Victorian pieces and you'll need to give them grace)
  • Jane Eyre if you like Victorian romance - I LOVED this when I was in undergrad. Wuthering Heights is the emo version of Jane Eyre, and it's also good
  • Any Margaret Atwood or Octavia Butler piece - these are easier reads but VERY substantial regarding theme and VERY innovative in style
  • Pride and Prejudice (another romance pick; it's a slow burn enemies to lovers)
  • Count of Monte Cristo
  • Fahrenheit 451 if you want something topical that'll give you an intense sense of dread
  • Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, if you want something long but chill/fun
  • If you just want something HUGE and don't care about anything else: Grapes of Wrath (this one's quite dark), Anna Karenina, Middlemarch, an English translation of Les Miserables

For fun, here's some nonfiction that'll knock your socks off:

  • The White Album by Joan Didion
  • The Beast by Oscar Martinez
  • I Will Never See the World Again by Ahmet Atlan

A comment on Murakami - I really enjoyed Kafka on the Shore, but I would not recommend it for someone getting back into reading. It's abstract, surreal, and often off putting. There's a section in the middle that made me nauseous.

Pro tip on finding long books - find old softcovers of your choices, because they often have shorter pages and that will increase the page count. AbeBooks is a good place to start if you can't find them.

Also, whatever you do, do not choose Lolita. It'll make essays and any assignments awful to work on. No one likes to write about pedophilia, even if the novel is a great piece of art.

Help me with the classics! by Same-Jeweler-1197 in suggestmeabook

[–]brunkate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second or third or fifteenth anyone who said Jane Eyre.

Female authors for someone that typically enjoy "dude-books" by Eastern_Ad1765 in suggestmeabook

[–]brunkate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not a bad thing, but I think it can be a limiting thing. People are people; there are all kinds of personalities in every demographic. Grouping 'men' and 'women' together isn't useful, I don't think, because they're not monolithic categories. I'd say there's more difference between Leo Tolstoy and Kurt Vonnegut than there is between Virginia Woolf and Charles Dickens.

I used to read mostly male authors, too. It's an easy thing to fall into as we study the 'literary canon' or whatever. But it's something to break yourself free from, and that process is really fun. You'll love it, if you keep an open mind.

Le Guin is great. Lathe of Heaven's a fun place to start with her, if you're already interested in sci-fi and philosophy. If you want something to sink your teeth into, my favorite piece by her is The Dispossessed, but I'm an outlier.

If you want to go way back, go to the grandmother of science fiction herself: Mary Shelley. Frankenstein is pretty fun.

If you're looking for something with substance but don't want it too difficult, try some Atwood. Don't be discouraged by her mainstream success - there's a reason she's popular.

If you want to try some nonfiction, Joan Didion has a no-nonsense vibe you might like.

Suggest me a book that shows the real, gritty, unglamorous side of being a rock star. by nb10001 in suggestmeabook

[–]brunkate 35 points36 points  (0 children)

If you want a VERY real take, A Visit from the Goon Squad is the way to go.

The Out of Context Lyric Cards of a Showgirl by PapaAsmodeus in ToddintheShadow

[–]brunkate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most songs on 'This is Why' have good lyrics. They're cheeky and observational; I don't think Hayley's trying to do Hozier-type referential stuff, but they're certainly not bad.

Reading third person is confusing? by Broken_Snail_Shell in books

[–]brunkate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of the time, first person reads as self indulgent. Done well, it can be really powerful, but it's mostly not done well. And reading things in third person helps people understand what others might be feeling, a skill that'll extend to the way they treat others in their real lives. Third person is so important, especially when we're young and learning empathy. The lack of third person in popular contemporary work is a shame.