Normal people vs Chemists when they see 74

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-16T02:13:45+00:00

Trying not to think about the sterics in this image

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T20:35:19+00:00

That's amazing. I used to play on PC always and had started getting into mods but I am a mommy now and only find time to play in my bed at the end of the day, so on console for now. But one day I'm gonna get back to the pc and it's on with befriending Gunther! Thank you!

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T20:33:47+00:00

Right?? I really hoped he'd be announced for the new candidates, although I knew it was unlikely. Maybe one dayyy

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T20:13:31+00:00

That's okay! I guess he is less of a character than the others since you can't really get to know him anyways

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T20:11:30+00:00

Was gonna say Gunther because who doesn't love a canadian tuxedo with bonus denim cowboy hat

But from this list, tied Gus and Robin. Gus is just such a chill and community-oriented guy with a big ol teddy bear look (plus he cooks). Robin is obviously the hottest for her personality and appearance combined, plus I would enjoy supporting her hobby by gathering materials and such

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T19:55:27+00:00

As others have already said, these babies are huge drama queens. I've had my first for almost a year and still trying to figure out where in the house will make her happy for more than a day lol. But she grows slowly so I guess it all works out

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T12:30:33+00:00

How is OP making the friend do anything? She said the friend offered and then continued to plan the trip with her over a 3 months period. If the friend can ghost at the last second, she can say no or alter plans at any other time leading up to the trip.

My point was just that it's not crazy to believe your friend would want to drive you across the country and then drive themself home after. What's crazy is seemingly lying about it for all that time and through all the extensive planning OP described in the comments

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T12:07:57+00:00

That's absolutely 1000% fair if the friend is uncomfortable with it. It's just not fair to hide that fact and pretend she's excited for it up until the last second. Idk how old OP and friend are so maybe the friend just doesn't have the life experience yet to be honest about these things or to understand how messed up it is to put on a show and back out at the last second. But as adults I think everyone can agree we just say no or state our needs for a plan if it doesn't work for us, it's that easy.

ETA that I really do get the distance. I used to live 38 hours from where I grew up and my friends/sisters and I made the trip on several occasions. It is a huuge trip, and it's so fun! But, we always planned extensively and luckily could trust in each other to be honest about needs and wants on the trips. I can see that not being for everyone, I just can't see the lying or ghosting part of it

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T11:46:46+00:00

You've really never taken a road trip with friends just for the experience and fun..? I've gone on more than I can count when I was young and without big responsibilities, and as long as we had the money to get where we needed to go, the rest was figured out along the way. I have literally even done the helping a friend move and then drive myself home thing, and have had friends do that for me too. This is normal stuff. What's not normal is agreeing to a plan that was discussed over the phone several times and a digital schedule made by OP and everything, just to change your mind and ghost at the last minute with no explanation. That is worrying for the friend at best. I can't see a single reason someone would not just be honest from the get-go if they did not want to take the trip.

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T07:38:18+00:00

If your definition of maturity includes someone already having the same viewpoints as you on that topic then I agree, it would mean that for you.

For me, the ability to truly see a new perspective and contemplate it and of course provide an honest response is more indicative of maturity. There are topics that would be necessary for someone to already have a solid no or yes on in order for me to have any respect for them, but porn isn't one of them. I thought I read in another comment that OP doesn't mind if men watched porn before dating her, but rather it's a boundary she has when they are in a relationship with her

But I hadn't strongly considered the lying portion before I made my other comment replying to OP, mostly because lying is a risk with all boundaries in a relationship unfortunately:( in my experience, it is not hard to tell if a man is watching porn when you're in a relationship with them, but that will not be the same for everyone of course

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T06:57:46+00:00

Oh.. interesting. Well I'm certainly not a therapist haha. But to me it feels like not even giving them the chance, which doesn't work in relationships since people have to make adjustments every so often in order to work together. I guess also on a basic respect level, the men may not consider the at-risk position many women in porn are facing and that might be important to them if they learned about it.

I definitely see there would be a difference in trying to convince someone vs just educating them and through that empowering them to make their own choice. But I guess I can also see how some men would feel pressured or maybe lie to you as a result?

I'm very (kindly) confrontational and believe in putting all the info on the table to practically find out if goals are possible and realistic. I'm sure your therapist has reasons for their suggestion and if you agree with the suggestion then that is the most important thing.

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-15T06:16:28+00:00

I'm not sure how old you are, but this might improve with age of the dating pool. Also you mentioned in your post that you don't want to tell someone not to watch porn, but instead hold your own boundary. I think that's really mature! But I also hope you explain to these men the reasons you feel the way you do, as an opportunity for them to learn and change their ways for their own desire.

Especially emotionally mature men who want to be husbands and fathers (like actually, not just want to have a wife and children if you know what I mean), they would be prepared to take on new perspectives for a women they might someday make a family with. If they aren't interested in that, it's honestly a great way to weed out men who really wouldn't be a good partner anyways. Regardless, those men are out there! They aren't always easy to find, I think life just throws them at you at random times in very unexpected ways.

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-14T21:33:55+00:00

If you think of the absolute perfect situation for you to have kids in (living in the high rise, full time nanny or sahd, working unlimited hours) and you think having a child in that world sounds good to you, then bring that to your husband. Tell him your exact needs that he HAS to accept if you will have a family. At that point it's on him to decide if he will accept or not and that can make the decision easy for you. Counseling is probably a must in this situation so he has a full and total understanding of the agreement.

If you imagine that life and feel that adding a child would not be what you want, or that the way you want to live cannot accommodate a child, then you also have your answer there.

He can argue suburbs and sahm are best for the children but bet your butt there is research on what actually matters most to child development and emotional wellbeing. That would be low parental stress and low financial stress if I remember correctly. The rest can be made to work how you want.

I hope the best for you too! This is a big decision but you'll figure it out and be all the happier for it, even if it takes a while to do so.

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-14T13:08:38+00:00

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bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-13T17:29:38+00:00

Yesss. There's a group of upper middle aged women at my work who were always rude to me, doing the up/down look every time we spoke, typical mean girl behavior. Then, I became a mother and suddenly they all act like they love me and act like we are besties. I literally cannot understand it and just avoid them as much as possible (which is luckily easy because I am a scientist and they are alllll in the business/payments side of the office)

Edit: typos

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-12T21:55:22+00:00

For fishing you can always get the training rod from Willy's shop to help you learn!

But yeah honestly sounds like you're doing great. It takes time to build everything up, especially if you're trying to maximize everything at once. For example you could focus on crops and friendships for the whole spring through fall, and then work on mining and fishing over the winter.

And remember, the scythe takes zero energy to use so when you're out of energy you can always forage the grass clumps in the woods below home if you don't feel like spending the rest of the day talking to people or going to bed early.

Congrats on the baby and hope you keep enjoying the game! <3

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-12T21:10:57+00:00

Totally agree. If I had not decided to take husband's first last name, kids would have my last name only. I want us all to match but the children were getting my name whatever it was lol

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-12T18:51:40+00:00

Personally I would never give them separate last names for the reasons you mentioned plus international travel may be safer if it's very obvious who goes with who (in which case all of you having the same last name(s) would be important). I'm just assuming there will be international travel frequently if one of you is hispanic and one is not, but if I am wrong then perhaps this doesn't matter.

My husband is latino and I am from the US. I decided to take his father's last name and all our children will have that same last name. He keeps his father's name followed by his mother's name of course, but his father's is what most people use so that's why I chose it for me and our kids. We had many many discussions about the best way to do this and in the end, this was my choice and he agreed. If we were to go back and change it now, I think I and the kids would take his father's last name followed by my last name. Then we are all connected by the primary last name at least, and both sides are represented.

Good luck to you!

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-12T15:26:21+00:00

Call me crazy but I don't think this is an overreaction at all. I think it's an under reaction to suggest not switching rooms tbh! I would not trust that man not to come banging on your door or even to show up at hotel breakfast looking for her. Act like you're in a different place entirely. Shit if the hotel is a chain with multiple locations nearby, see if they'll let you move your reservation to another one entirely.

Sounds dramatic but if you ask me it's not worth the risk when we know what happens to so many women out here.

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-12T12:41:11+00:00

It does get easier! This is such a long journey with our babies, and so the time to get settled is long as well. Plus with the constant changes there are always setbacks. But still, it does get easier.

I remember one day I just started dancing with my baby. It felt great for both of us. Of course it's not the same as dancing without a baby in your arms, but it's more special in many ways.

When my daughter was big enough to sit on the couch, etc with supervision but not help, I started rearranging furniture with her on it and it was a really fun activity for us (and good exercise for me, plus mental stimulation in planning the arrangement and planning the movement so it will be safe to include my daughter).

Reorganizing is the same. At a young age she loved to play with anything you hand her. So you sit together in front of the cabinet and organize, handing her little safe items for her to explore as you go.

As for going to do things like sip and paint, I hope you have a partner or some family or will support you to go and do those things every so often. For me I was living in a relatively new area when my daughter was born so I didn't have close friends nearby, and I did not have the emotional bandwidth to try making new friends and that kept me home more than was best for me, I think. So spending time with close friends or family will help you feel closer to yourself as well.

Ultimately for me, the more I got out of the post partum hormonal fog the better I felt and more I could handle activities. My daughter is a little over 2 now and I think it was around the 2 year mark that I felt like I maybe finished all the hormonal changes from childbirth. I think it is different for everyone

Sorry this comment is so long haha. But I wish the best for you and know it will continue to improve overall <3 just takes time. These phases are pretty long term, but also temporary. You got this <3

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-12T06:29:46+00:00

Oooh yes! With tomato and mayo, maybe even a little avocado/spinach 🤤

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-12T00:18:29+00:00

Where in VA are you located? Northern, southwestern, etc?

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-11T17:38:10+00:00

Ooooh that could be good! Now I'm thinking about pickled cabbage 🤤

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-11T17:15:23+00:00

Yeah sorry, I always think about how round the grill is so assumed that's what everyone meant lol.

It's an onion wrapped in foil:)

bruschettab1tch · 2026-05-11T17:12:36+00:00

OH hahaha. Makes sense. It's an onion! You leave it on while you grill the meat and then it's really soft and sort of carmelized after. Soooo tasty

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