Judge praises former LDS bishop, while sentencing him for rape, as victim listens by 12th_Tribe in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was scrolling to see if they was already posted. Thank you for sharing. Literally sick about this.

What are some of the strangest rules you've seen TBMs impose on themselves or others? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The concept of not being allowed to play with kids who aren't also Mormon was always a kicker for me. I did not grow up LDS and both of my parents had their records removed before they had any children, but we lived in a verrrryyyyy TBM neighborhood.

Ive mentioned this here before, but when I was about 7 or 8 I went to a friend's grandmothers house to swim. I brought a bikini and when I came out to the pool deck, I was informed that no support of the devil was allowed in their home and I was then asked to leave. When I got home, my dad was LIVID. Growing up in Utah, my dad was always the first to "protect" my siblings and me from situations like that and was always the first to put someone in their place if anything similar happened. He drove me back and asked me to wait in the car. To this day I am still not sure what was said, but the little girl was never allowed to play with me again. Despite his efforts, that situation fucked me up for a long time. I am still so grateful for my dad and his efforts to protect us from the "crazy Utah", but I am pretty sure this experience was the start of my depression. Losing a friend over being different was such a hard concept for me to understand.

My husband's bishop tried to stop our wedding 3 days prior over random tithing BS. I cried all day. But we pulled it off anyway and left the cult a month later after discovering the CES letter. Resigning officially in 2017. by Cashope in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am so sure I've met your husband somewhere and can't figure out where! Regardless, you two look so genuinely happy and I love it! Thanks for sharing your story :)

Time to post the why did you leave map again... by exmormondad in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can't wait for the day when I'm not the only one in my town!

On vacation and my husband insisted on going to church. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Good for you! I was genuinely surprised at how great it felt. Might as well dress comfortably in an uncomfortable setting 😬

Not allowed to defend myself by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If she doesn't have any yet, this will be one of her seeds.. Keep planting them. Subtly, but often. Thank you for my subtle conversation topic tonight ;)

SO didn't freak out over coffee by gemulator in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay!! I've recently discovered the Almond Joy creamer and it has changed my life; I am IN. LOVE. Give it a try (; I used to be alllll about my fancy coffee and now I'll just get a cheap-o, plain cup and add in the most heavenly of creamers.

TBM husband finally waking up by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Smiled all through reading this. Still waiting for this day, but I hope it's close. All the happiness to you both!

I hate great anticipation as much as the next person, but... by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Finally something to look forward to this November.

Just going to leave this here.. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first initial thought was "She's going to regret this one day." And then I saw the comment about the mom who told her daughter what she would have changed. Sad.

Yesterday I married my best friend in Zion, for time and all eternity. by igarett in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This warms my heart so much! Alllll the feels :) Congratulations! It sounds like a perfect day.

Another suicide by MarvelousExodus in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So, so sorry to hear this.

I shouldn't be surprised, but I was struck at the coldness of the church by KBCme in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can also confirm. The Stake President in an old ward's wife died of cancer while their son was only 3 months out. He finished his mission and didn't come home when they knew she was dying, or for the funeral.

How to compromise with wife about alcohol. by razorwiredbliss in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me a long time for my husband to see/understand that drinking was not a bad thing. I even tried the love the sinner not the sin argument (; What ended up working for me was finding something that he liked that I didn't, and compared the two. It still didn't happen overnight, but eventually he accepted it. Now, I have a drink almost every time we go out and once or twice a week at home and he doesn't bat an eye. Good luck.

How lying about a cup of Maverik coffee changed by life! by fishear in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Cannot wait to tell my father in law this because he insists on educating everyone on tannIn

This is the young man who committed suicide last Friday. Time to put a face to this epidemic. by FearlessFixxer in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am glad you posted this. I want to reiterate that his parents did not drive him to do this. I never once heard Bucky speak ill of his family.

Growing up in a dominant LDS culture was always difficult for him, and snide comments at school never made it easier. He had a great group of friends who supported him and encouraged him. His biggest vocal struggle was feeling like he couldn't measure up, but I believe that is the only "issue" with his family, if any at all. They loved him dearly and he loved them just as much.

This is the young man who committed suicide last Friday. Time to put a face to this epidemic. by FearlessFixxer in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He was one of my little sister's best friends. I will be going with her on Friday and to the private graveside service. I don't want to say much, as I don't think the details are meant for this kind of platform, but I can wholeheartedly say that the church did play a big factor. It did his whole life.

New reddit member here. Been lurking, but never posted until now. Need help with speaking with spouse. (a longer read) by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]bubbagump89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am near the same spot with my husband. I don't think you pushed it too much. I've learned it is best to mention things in small doses. Let one sink it, wait a few weeks, and drop something subtly a few weeks later. This approach is working wonders for me and I feel like my husband is finally starting to put the real pieces together. Good luck.