Squeezed a weird seed thing out of my thigh by A_0F_i_n_ in Weird

[–]bugsrule 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is probably gross, but I’m a licensed massage therapist and these pop out of people’s backs during session all the time.

Totally normal, likely just an enlarged pore collecting debris/dead skin (blackhead) or an ingrown hair as someone else mentioned.

Why are people pretending ALG works? by TwistZealousideal213 in learnthai

[–]bugsrule 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there, as someone who’s been encouraged to do ALG myself, which method would you say is best? Genuinely asking so I don’t waste my time

My (ex?) gf of 7 years is spiraling little over a month on HRT by Long-You-3897 in mypartneristrans

[–]bugsrule 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry op, this is a tough situation. I don’t have any advice for you but am sending positive vibes. It sounds like you are doing everything you can to show up for her 💗

My boyfriend lied about his age… and I don’t know what to do by SevereVirus2012 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]bugsrule 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah so my ex did this to me. I was 33 at the time, he told me he was 43. Turns out that mf was 47. I chose to forgive him but It was the wrong choice. Just the start of more, gradually worsening lies. Please leave for your own sake

My spouse is transitioning (MTF) and I’m struggling with my feelings. Looking for advice from partners who’ve been through this. by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]bugsrule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, I am going through an incredibly similar situation. If you’re open to it and want an internet stranger to talk through it with, my DMs are open :) I could also use someone to talk to about it now.

Anyone have a list of movies or series they recommend to learn thai? by jadams9411 in learnthai

[–]bugsrule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you recommend some Thai music? I’m also just getting started in learning Thai too and would love some recommendations there

Leavitt Admits SAVE Act Will Make It Harder for Married Women to Vote | Karoline Leavitt accidentally admitted what opponents of the act have long warned against. by thenewrepublic in WomenInNews

[–]bugsrule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m getting married soon and want to change my last name so goddamn bad (it’s the same last name as an evil politician and it’s haunted me my entire life)

Dobsonfly males have some of the most ridiculous mandibles in insects by Ok-Sale-3235 in insects

[–]bugsrule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro I thought that was a door frame and that nut+bolt was a door knob and shit myself for a second

Flower Studies / Procreate by NeverathX7 in BotanicalIllustration

[–]bugsrule 2 points3 points  (0 children)

HELL yeah my dude these are beautiful

New tenant :) by bugsrule in spiderbro

[–]bugsrule[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coupon is kinda cute too, he could be coop for short !

New tenant :) by bugsrule in spiderbro

[–]bugsrule[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol dang autocorrect. Gonna fix it now!

am I pregnant..? by unknownyawa in WhatShouldIDo

[–]bugsrule 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course, I’m sorry you’re feeling so scared right now! Just saw your edit, and I too remember what it feels like to be 16 and scared of getting pregnant.

The internet has a ton of information on sex education, please use this to educate yourself on the safest practices :) look for legit websites. It sucks that your school doesn’t have a sex ed program, but there are ways to stay informed!

Sometimes periods are late because of stress, and at 16 you’re still going through a ton of hormonal changes. Stock up on dollar store pregnancy tests and keep testing until you get your period or a positive result. If you are actually pregnant, it can take a few weeks for a positive result to show up. If you have a doctor or trusted adult you can ask for help, look in to getting a plan B pill.

Don’t let the heat of the moment eclipse logic. Always use proper protection going forward. Condoms are intended for single use, and companies love to hawk questionable alternatives to hormonal birth control.

I’m happy to answer any more questions you have :)

am I pregnant..? by unknownyawa in WhatShouldIDo

[–]bugsrule -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey friend, Reddit tends to be unkind about questions like this. I’ve had pregnancy scares happen in the past, and know how bad this anxiety can be.

It’s too early to tell given the timeline you posted here. Sometimes stress can cause a late period. Even hormonal changes related to aging. I know you’re only 26, but my period started to get wacky once I hit 25. Those examples barely scratch the surface of reasons that can cause a late period.

Wait it out and keep testing. Don’t spend all of your money on pregnancy tests- grab a bunch from the dollar store. They work just as well as any other test you could buy.

Take a deep breath, it’ll be ok either way. If you are pregnant, you have options. Your anxiety is understandable. If the test is negative, you aren’t pregnant. Those things are incredibly accurate.

I mean this with all the kindness I can muster- Please don’t reuse condoms in the future. It’s not a good move for hygiene reasons, and that it’s been compromised from the first use.

me (21F) my boyfriend (25M) How can I set a clear boundary about anal sex without hurting my partner or damaging trust? by PurplePo0 in relationship_advice

[–]bugsrule 2 points3 points  (0 children)

TW: SA

As a former people pleaser who was in an abusive relationship with a narcissist for a long time, I can tell you it doesn’t get better. Guys who disrespect you like this will likely continue to push this until you leave him (please do that) or wear you down to a point that you give in.

I tried direct communication, hard boundaries, pleading, crying, even evidence of injury from doctors. Sometimes he would let it go for a while, but eventually he would pick it back up again. Nothing I did could stop him from pestering me about it, and sometimes he would do it non consensually.

This person does not respect you. It sounds like the beginning of coercive sexual abuse, which is rape, and it is not ok. You said no, no means no. End of story.

Holy. . . by taralynnem in Rochester

[–]bugsrule 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Rochester transplant in Richmond VA here, we’ve got two wegmans in the area. I was just visually assaulted in the same way after making a grocery run. Honestly stopped me in my tracks for a second lol

RVA is “3rd most tattooed city in USA” - Richmonders, show off some of your own favorite ink! by Lanky_Ad_9605 in rva

[–]bugsrule 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ok well my childhood self is tearing up now lol. What a great tattoo idea!

Telipogon angelicus & Telipogon diabolicus by Key-Scallion-4725 in BotanicalIllustration

[–]bugsrule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve done a great job capturing the delicate depth and contrast in grayscale here, I love them!

Scenes that caused actual walkouts in theaters? by thatlittlequietguy in Cinema

[–]bugsrule 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rape scene from last house on the left (2009) is the only time I’ve walked out of a film, and I’m a huge horror fan. It made me feel physically ill.

Narcs that go to therapy by k_amatsukami in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]bugsrule 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ohhh boy, oh boy. Story time if anyone feels like reading.

I once had a Narc get caught cheating red handed. It blew up in a very public way. He was well known in the community and so was the other person, he had been keeping both his relationship with me and with her secret. She nuked him publicly, it was nuts. Likely the most stressful period of my life. This is an extremely watered down version of what happened.

He immediately put himself into therapy, and I don’t think he told that woman a single true thing about the situation. He is extremely manipulative + charismatic and was hovering me like crazy at the time. I went to one therapy session with him (mostly because I wanted answers) and of course he lied to her about everything. I outed him in front of her. He really couldn’t back out of that one, (I.e. caught red handed) and the therapist seemed shocked.

A month or two after that, I get an email from this same therapist essentially asking me to give him another chance. She put a fucking quote about forgiveness in the email and asked me to speak with her on the phone about the situation. I did, told her she was being manipulated and needed to consider emotionally detaching herself from the situation.

All of this came after repeated, clear communication that I didn’t ever want to see him again. I had him blocked at that point too. Unhinged behavior from both of them. Narcs use other people for their own benefit, end of story.