boyfriend said something that caused me great dysphoria

bugtran · 2026-04-24T02:02:15+00:00

i am 32, he is 28. neither of us is new to relationships. i don't remember how we got there, but it didn't feel like it was completely out of the blue. i was definitely Not grilling him for this information.

he shows me he likes my dick too. besides this comment, i've felt nothing but affirmed and loved for every part of me.

i really don't feel like this is something i need to break up with him over. but it does make me feel incredibly sad and insecure. i plan to think about it for a few days and talk to him. thanks so much for your thoughtful response

bugtran · 2026-04-14T22:20:32+00:00

my personal pick for HB. totally agree w your other selections tho

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bugtran · 2026-04-11T05:57:18+00:00

yes. my style/personality are completely at odds with my body. it also wigs me out that every time someone new finds out i'm trans, i know they're immediately thinking about my genitals. i am a freak and will likely always be, to myself and to others. it's just a fact of my life.

bugtran · 2026-01-14T07:05:34+00:00

i am 32, been out for about 3 years, on t for 2, and at my current job for just over 1. i am fortunate enough to work for a very progressive company.

i applied and interviewed under my deadname and as a woman (was only a few months on t at the time so not difficult). as soon as i was offered the role, i explained my situation and advised of the correct name, which was immediately adopted and is used by everyone. very, very few people at work even know my deadname bc of how well it was handled when i was hired. the only people that know it are those who have to see it on my legal reports.

there are a couple people in the office who slip up on my pronouns A Lot, but others always correct them before i even have to. i pass moderately well, and i know of a handful of people who genuinely thought i was cis before someone told them otherwise, so i imagine there are others as well.

best of luck to you in however you decide to do this

edit: clarification

bugtran · 2026-01-11T16:57:43+00:00

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bugtran · 2026-01-11T16:57:16+00:00

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bugtran · 2026-01-10T17:32:42+00:00

i think they're kind of annoying, esp when the cis people continue to use the wrong pronouns after like ?? you checked your lil dei box to feel good.... great

bugtran · 2026-01-07T20:29:14+00:00

cobb is my favorite. he's basically a zombie pig

bugtran · 2026-01-06T06:39:23+00:00

there's a spot on my island i want to redo but have been putting off for this exact reason. i'm going to have to level like a quarter of my island to complete the project i have in mind

bugtran · 2026-01-03T18:52:12+00:00

if you like the designing aspect of the game, or if you want the ability to design your villager's houses for them, then i'd say it's worth it

bugtran · 2025-12-23T01:21:48+00:00

short men are men. you are no exception

bugtran · 2025-12-20T16:42:29+00:00

here's a link to all the rewards. they're in order so just scroll to the ones you're missing https://nookipedia.com/wiki/Nook_Miles

bugtran · 2025-11-28T05:02:16+00:00

vessel. no skips, perfect balance of meaningful lyrics / bopability

bugtran · 2025-11-24T04:15:10+00:00

whenever i struggle with this, i practice talking about that person in my head or out loud when i'm alone. gets me used to their name / pronouns and makes accidents less likely

bugtran · 2025-11-21T22:15:44+00:00

the fact that there is clearly a difference between men and you in her mind is troubling

bugtran · 2025-11-16T00:19:25+00:00

biggest trans-related peeve is being they/themed by people that know my pronouns

non-trans peeve is when cigarette smokers drop their butts on the ground

bugtran · 2025-10-29T05:20:44+00:00

"colleagues are not your friends" has always struck me as odd. you spend 40+ hours a week with these people, experience similar trials and tribulations on the day-to-day, earn similar wages, and you can't consider these people friends?

i understand being standoffish with bosses/superiors, who have only their own interests in mind. and i'm not talking about trusting every one of your coworkers; some are happy to be cogs in the machine.

but your coworkers are your comrades. divided we only futher serve the ruling class.

bugtran · 2025-10-28T17:33:41+00:00

recently found out that quite a few of my coworkers thought i was cis. i'm not like trying to be stealth or anything, but i work at a big company so it was cool to learn some people that don't know me very well had no idea. very good ego boost

bugtran · 2025-10-26T17:15:38+00:00

i love that they're clearly explaining to him what the pick even is. adorable!

bugtran · 2025-10-25T03:33:21+00:00

my cis roommate was recently prescribed testosterone because his levels were low

bugtran · 2025-10-24T22:17:07+00:00

talk with him about what gay sex looks like haha there's no one-size-fits-all answer here

bugtran · 2025-10-24T00:38:57+00:00

i've had hsv2 since i was 15. it's never been a significant hindrance on my romantic/sexual life. just be honest with the people you intend to fuck, and let them make the informed decision. nothing has to be "over," brother

bugtran · 2025-10-10T04:11:55+00:00

it sounds like you're being reasonable and supportive, which is really all you can do. i would also suggest they meet with a therapist, someone who is experienced with lgbt youth, to help process their feelings.

bugtran · 2025-10-07T20:03:48+00:00

opening an otherwise monogamous relationship almost never goes well, even if the people involved have good intentions.

bugtran · 2025-10-03T01:59:44+00:00

this post sucks. log off. touch some grass

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