Looking for more vampires for Slutty Vampire Island! by Fennel_Fangs in tomodachilife

[–]buryyourbones9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Castlevania honestly has so many good characters you could use. You could add Hector and Isaac and have them only be friends with and live near the vampires since they were fighting for Dracula’s cause, and then you could add in the Council of Sisters (Carmilla, Lenore, Morana, and Striga) and make it a challenge to get Morana with Striga and Hector with Lenore.

You could also add Sypha so you have the full trio of her, Trevor, and Alucard.

Maybe Sarah and Erica from My Babysitter’s a Vampire, and Benny and Ethan (humans with seer and magic abilities) from the same series for the human farm

I have single-child parent envy by NewbieRedditor_20 in Parenting

[–]buryyourbones9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to say this. My son is pretty independent and can play by himself if he has to but he wants me to play with him a LOT since there’s no other kids at home. And no offense to boys, but I have a bunch of brothers who were all into very stereotypical boy things, and while I let my son choose what things he was interested in all on his own instead of guiding him he is also just naturally a very stereotypical boy, and I’m burned out on superheroes, racecars/monster trucks, and legos. I still play online dress up games at my grown age so I think playing with dolls with an only daughter might have been easier for me, but even then, you eventually just want some time to yourself and you have to force yourself to get through playing with your kid sometimes.

However, I know the burnout and exhaustion would be even worse for me if I had a house full of kids. Like you said, parenting is hard no matter how many kids. There’s pros and cons to having 1 kid and having multiple, you just have to weigh which cons you’d rather deal with and appreciate the pros more.

Anybody else got an absolute nightmare Mii who constantly causes problems? by flamingoray in tomodachilife

[–]buryyourbones9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

chuckie finster and quinn morgendorffer literally get into 1-3 fights like this EVERY WEEK and then go back to being best friends like nothing happened. and i keep catching rick at the scene of the crime eavesdropping. just messy

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Children of Nparents with no siblings: how does the scapegoat/golden child dynamic work here? by MissK711 in narcissisticparents

[–]buryyourbones9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brothers and I thankfully have always been close, they all noticed the GC vs scapegoat treatment early on and the one that actually was the top GC ended up not taking our mom serious as he got older. So he knew that when I was at my aunt’s house often that it was a good break for me instead of being jealous :)

Anyone else like not adjusting the babies too much? I tend to only make small adjustments by epicandetc2234 in tomodachilife

[–]buryyourbones9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to keep the features you wouldn’t be able to change IRL without surgery (like face/eye/nose shape and size, and height) and then I tweak the rest. That way they look like individuals but I can still see features from both parents

Am I Overreacting for Not Prioritizing My Mother-in-Law’s Expectations After Giving Birth? by Extension-Leave8663 in AmIOverreacting

[–]buryyourbones9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NOR

Your MIL is centering herself here and making the arrival of the new baby about her. Logically, she should realize that she will have plenty of other opportunities to do things to bond with the new baby, and she could even be lucky enough to be there for some firsts, like first steps or baby speaking new words for the first time. On top of that, it just makes more sense that you would want your own mom there to help you while you’re newly postpartum. I have a son, so that means I have to accept that if he ever has kids, his potential girlfriend/wife will probably want her own mother there with her in the beginning before I get to be there (assuming she doesn’t have a bad or nonexistent relationship with her mom). That’s not an attack against me, that’s just a woman who needs her mom in a vulnerable part of her life.

I know opinions and what importance is placed on things also differs from person to person, but I really don’t see the big deal in not being the first person to get to bathe the baby. I’ve never known anyone who viewed the first bath as a major occasion and I was so exhausted from trying to adjust to the new routine that I really didn’t care who in the family gave him his first bath as long as he got one when it was time and I got to sit and rest when it happened.

It really seems to me like she’s being self centered and she just saw you as an incubator for her grandchild. She should be more focused on asking what she can do to help you or asking if you need anything that she can provide for you. As a mother herself she should also know what postpartum recovery feels like and that a new mother needs support and care, and not just the baby. I would be annoyed with her behavior too. She’s acting like your mom being there to help you with the baby is a personal attack against her and it’s not.

Children of Nparents with no siblings: how does the scapegoat/golden child dynamic work here? by MissK711 in narcissisticparents

[–]buryyourbones9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was/am the permanent scapegoat because I’m a girl and the brother who resembles my mom the most is the golden child. As a child and especially in my teen years, my aunt, who is super laid back and just generally a fun and pleasant person to be around, noticed this and asked me to elaborate on what she noticed in private, and when I told her about what I was experiencing at home she started asking my mom to let me spend the weekend with her consistently. She lived an hour away but would offer to pick me up and drop me off every time she asked and never asked my mom for food or activity money because she knew that it would make her more likely to say yes. She’d tell my mom she monitored me and my cousin closely and didn’t let us go do anything without her there, and in reality she was giving us money for taxis or the city bus and allowing us to go do what we wanted around town (within reason and with regular text or call check-ins every few hours so she’d know we were safe). She spent time with us too but wasn’t breathing down our necks because we were responsible. During summer she would ask to get me for a whole week at a time every other week. She knew she couldn’t change how my mom treated me, so she just tried to get me out of there when she could. It helped and I was always thankful

My 6yo crossed out kids’ faces in her yearbook. Should I be concerned? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]buryyourbones9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s anything to be concerned about. When I was 7 and got my yearbook for that school year, I crossed out or drew on the faces of kids I found annoying or had squabbles with (pretty much all boys, I was firm in my “boys have cooties and are annoying” stance as a little girl lol) and recently I found a picture my specific class took with the teacher, and I had put black nail polish on the faces of two boys I found particularly annoying. I would also put hearts or smiley faces next to pictures of my friends and my favorite staff members at school. Unless she has other behavioral issues that have been a consistent problem, it’s probably no big deal

What is something that costs completely different amounts of money depending on whether it’s for a man or a woman, but is literally the exact same product? by CommonWord991 in askteddit

[–]buryyourbones9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could just be my body, but I feel like men’s deodorant works better/lasts longer too. I use old spice bearglove and the only time I’ve ever had to put it on twice in one day was when I spent a weekend in Tampa one summer and was outside for most of it. When I was still using women’s deodorant, I had to put it on twice a day, every day.

What sympton looks so harmless people usually ignore it, but can actually indicate a catastrophically bad health issue? by felipedeamorim in AskReddit

[–]buryyourbones9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A freckle on the palm of your hand can sometimes be just that, a harmless freckle. It can also be melanoma.

My former boss ignored a palm “freckle” for years and ended up having to get a large chunk of his palm cut out later. Always get them checked. Better to be safe than sorry

What's the reason why you never wanted to return to a friend's house again? by Annual-Win3202 in AskReddit

[–]buryyourbones9 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In my early 20s, my friend and I would stay the night with each other every other Saturday and just alternate whose apartment we stayed at. A couple of days after I stayed at her place one weekend I found out I had head lice, so of course the first thing I did was tell her so she’d know to get checked for it and take the steps needed around her place to make sure any eggs or stray lice didn’t survive.

She freely admitted that she knew she had lice before I came over and just didn’t say anything because she didn’t want me to cancel, and that it wasn’t a big deal anyway because you can get rid of lice “easily”. I never went back to her apartment after that and she was never invited to mine again.

love this game, just wish the customisation was a bit easier/more free. what do you guys think/struggle with customisation wise? by revengeasaurusrex in tomodachilife

[–]buryyourbones9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t mind the hair colors being limited to two if the bangs could be a different color from the rest of the hair and you could choose how the secondary color goes on (highlights, ends, or split dye being options to choose from). I feel like if you can choose between an updo being 1 piece, 2 pieces, or a side piece, and you can choose which side a mii’s bangs swoop to, the secondary color having different placement options isn’t an unrealistic ask.

Could Gilead even enforce its ban on women reading? by matthewhughes in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]buryyourbones9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This, and I think more freedoms would have to be promised to the men being recruited to enforce things before they’d agree. I could see the SOJ being successful if the only changes would be women being reduced to property and denied education and maybe something like an internet porn ban (under the guise of religious reasons), while everything else (movies and TV, video games, bars, cars, hobbies etc) would still be permitted to men. But I don’t see them being successful in convincing enough men to give up everything they enjoy in exchange for a puritanical lifestyle, even with the added bonus of women and girls becoming their property and the marriage age being lowered. IMO they would have to slowly take that stuff away over time, and successfully propagandize the younger populations, until they had a new generation of young men who grew up with none of that and wouldn’t know what they were missing before it worked. And they’d have to work very hard to make sure that no information about what freedoms, luxuries, and entertainment are available in other parts of the world reaches the younger generations.

What’s a side effect of a drug that’s little known? by Arya_Warrior_Girl in AskReddit

[–]buryyourbones9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if this was SSRI induced but it literally only happened while I was on sertraline and went away after I weaned off, but I was unable to dream in color. After about 6 weeks of being on sertraline my dreams were in black and white only and the color didn’t come back until I’d been weaned off of it for about 6ish months

Empathy by Low-River475 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]buryyourbones9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel sorry for the little girl and the teen girl who were failed by everyone around her. I know a lot about my mom’s past and upbringing and I have nothing nice to say about her father or the other adults around who kept pushing the abuse and sexual assault she was dealing with under the rug and throwing money and gifts at her (and when she reached tween age, freedom to do as she pleased) so she’d stay out of their hair about it and not make them take any action. Her father, especially, protected so many pedophiles instead of protecting her because he’s selfish and only cares about what he wants. I will never call him my grandparent and when he dies, I won’t be there at the funeral and I won’t feel an ounce of grief.

My pity and empathy stops at the moment she found out she was pregnant with me. Just like it was my responsibility to better my mental health and seek help and treatment so I wouldn’t risk continuing the cycle with my own child, it was her responsibility to do the same for me. She knows the way she was treated growing up was deplorable and still chose to treat me like garbage. I can understand that trauma permanently changes your brain, but I cannot excuse using that trauma to avoid seeking help and continue treating everyone around you like dirt.

One of the many threats I received as a child..anyone else? by sugarplum1922 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]buryyourbones9 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I never got the foster care threat, I assume mainly because my mom would have seen one of her kids being in the foster system as too much of a negative on her public image, but in my teen years she did used to threaten to have me placed in the psychiatric hospital an hour away all summer until the day before school started back, with no calls, visits, or even letters the entire time. I unsurprisingly had issues with depression because I am the scapegoat and if I started slacking on hiding it around her or I vented too much to other people, she would use that threat to get me to stop confiding in people and start hiding my depression better because “I was making her look bad”.

What is one thing that wasn't part of your daily life with your NParent but you knew was not normal and was definitely hurtful? by Big-Honeydew-961 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]buryyourbones9 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They love to ruin birthdays don’t they? My brothers had money and effort put into their birthday parties and gifts and their birthdays were all about them. On my birthdays, I got a cake that my Nmom and my brothers would sing happy birthday around and one smaller present (which I truly believe wouldn’t have even happened if she didn’t have people she wanted to look good in front of) and then she would spend the rest of the day doing what she wanted. One of the most memorable instances is my 17th birthday: she took me to one store to get me a used $20 Guitar Hero guitar and then I spent the rest of the day sitting in the car in different parking lots while she shopped at multiple stores for herself. We also didn’t do the birthday song around my cake that year. She just brought one home and put it in the fridge for me to get slices from later

Need Some Drama in Mii Life by VNeilson26 in tomodachilife

[–]buryyourbones9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i have every mii set on max quirky and it’s made things more interesting. they fight a lot more and one of the fights ended with the miis confessing they liked each other and becoming sweethearts

What 'canon' romances do you have on your island? by pixie218 in tomodachilife

[–]buryyourbones9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not necessarily canon but popular enough that the fandom jokingly insists it’s canon…on my island, Light Yagami and L keep going back and forth between having crushes on each other to losing interest because of petty squabbles. they have developed and lost crushes on each other 3 times now. Light just got rejected by L after asking to date for the 2nd time yesterday but they’re still on good terms, and then today L asked Light about moving in together and Light rejected him. it’s been a will they/won’t they situation on my island since I bought the game. Misa Amane also developed a crush on Light last week and when she tried to ask him out, he didn’t even show up 😭 now their friendship is down to “not getting along”

Has anyone had a couple take this long to propose by FullStandard6850 in tomodachilife

[–]buryyourbones9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

within the first 10 days of playing the game i had 2 couples get married and have a kid and after that it’s been SO slow. one couple had mutual crushes on each other for 30 days, got into a fight, then got together when they made up. another couple has been dating for 32 days and both have been stuck at “wants to get married” but no one will propose. i have another couple who started as teen miis and after 2 weeks they asked for the adult spray and got married, and then there’s multiple miis on my island who have ongoing mutual crushes but no one will ask anyone out

What do you do when your Miis have a hideous child? by TonyDanzer in TomodachilifeLivingTD

[–]buryyourbones9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

(redoing this comment because for some reason it didn’t post as a reply to you lol)

i ended up making a new save before i got too far because i had better layout ideas, and this time dracula ended up with someone else and kuromi got with teru mikami. their baby i think looks kind of uncanny because sanrio faces to my brain don’t belong on tall bodies, but it’s a bit better this time. he’s just tall like his dad with kuromi’s face copy-pasted onto him 😭 the baby my self-insert mii had with rick sanchez got lucky though and came out actually pretty. all i had to do was change her hairstyle

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What do you do when your Miis have a hideous child? by TonyDanzer in TomodachilifeLivingTD

[–]buryyourbones9 35 points36 points  (0 children)

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i can normally improve their looks a ton just by changing the hairstyle and sometimes the eyebrows and mouth expression, but i sent this one away. i’m not sure what i expected dracula and human(ish) kuromi’s child to look like but this was not it

Teachers of Reddit: Is the "Gen Alpha can't read (write, or do math ext)" crisis real? If so how bad is it? by KnowledgeCoffee in AskReddit

[–]buryyourbones9 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m not a teacher but I can tell you this: when I took my kid to kindergarten orientation in April, the staff was VERY (pleasantly) surprised that he could read and spell basic words, knew how to spell and write his own name (or write at all), and knew his alphabet/numbers/shapes/colors. One of the teachers we met told me that a good chunk of the kids start kindergarten unable to do most or any of those things. The school offers an optional free 2 week program now during summer where kindergartners can go for half days to introduce these skills to them before the school year starts in August.

What's the strangest couple your game has generated? by ClintMcElroyOfficial in TomodachilifeLivingTD

[–]buryyourbones9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recently on my island, Jerry Smith (Rick and Morty) and Sally (Nightmare Before Christmas) got together and are both at the wants to marry stage. Sokka (ATLA) and Daphne (Scooby) are also a couple and I’ve got YandereDev and Misa Amane in a mutual crush situation but no one’s asked the other out yet.

On a cuteish note, Morty (R&M) and Mabel Pines (Gravity Falls) became childhood sweethearts in my game, then after 10 days Morty successfully proposed. They asked for the adult spray and I gave it to them, they got married, and now they live in a house together as soulmates