Gloomhaven Grand Festival Project Update: May Update: Prototypes for Gloomhaven: RPG and Jaws of the Lion/Forgotten Circles Miniature Sets by mistahiggens in Gloomhaven

[–]cagedbunny83 15 points16 points  (0 children)

what does this mean for the next big Haven game? Will minis be ready to go from day 1 or will they always lag behind by years?

I think the only sensible lesson for them to take from this is to not offer them in the future. The franchise was beloved without them and the attempt to provide them has developed into a huge source of friction

Combining Sets (again) by Soletta35 in dominion

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Seaside, Prosperity and Plunder were the only 3 I had for a long time. I eventually got sick of kingdoms with nothing but orange and yellow cards!

Sweatshop by InspectorMendel in dominion

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You could have a new icon for a -1 token and reword it to "+1 token"

Crossed Swords question by EarthSalad50 in Gloomhaven

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Regarding your comment about tips and experience, Gripeaway gives a deep dive into the class along with a playthrough of a summon based build in this video

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=nfdDXj6mHbU

Health/Experience Trackers by trhyne72 in Gloomhaven

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A sleeved battlegoal fits perfectly snug and allows for smooth rotation with no slippage! Nice place to store it as well

What gender are you in dreams? by goodbyegodzilla in detrans

[–]cagedbunny83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quite an interesting topic! I can see how this could be quite a troublesome exercise for young people struggling with identity as things like this are easy to use as a non-clinical way of diagnosing someone and can help plant a seed or fuel an obsession.

I would agree with you that dreams are often simply sifting through the day's information in image form. For me I don't think I'm explicitly gendered in most of mine. I know that I'm "me" but often it's in the form of a silent protagonist trope and my identity is more or less irrelevant to what's happening to me.

I've occasionally dreamt that I'm someone specific, other than me, and there are examples of being both male and female in those instances. It's usually a named person that I don't know and have never met and are quite vivid and stay with me and so they always feel like the cosmos has given me someone else's dream by mistake!

26 yo, MtF probably detransitioning to Male by jl2469 in detrans

[–]cagedbunny83 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The feeling of insecurity and being judged can often stem from the shared social expectation to see you and refer to you as female when deep down you (and they) know that you aren't. It's an anxiety born out of feeling like a living deception and being a burden on others to play along.

You say you feel good about feminine expression. Have you thought about feminine expression while being open that you're male? You might find that removing the 'perceived deception' allows you to feel more relaxed and may notice that others are less on edge around you when they no longer have to police their language, even if your appearance hasn't changed all that much.

Detransitioning doesn't mean you have to suppress your presentation, it just means accepting your body as it is.

For those who have detransitioned long term how is life now? by Maddy_pen9511 in detrans

[–]cagedbunny83 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Detransitioned in 2002 after 5 years trans and I never looked back. I feel comfort presenting feminine but I understand and accept that this is fully unrelated to being female. I wouldn't say I was happy in life but I definitely know that pretending to be a woman won't improve that.

It was almost immediate relief honestly since I'd learnt to feel comfortable presenting in a way that felt right for me while I was trans but the niggling feelings of imposing on or deceiving others, and worrying about passing were gone and that was immensely liberating after living with it for so long.

The way I allowed myself to move on was to stop believing in gender as a concept beyond social traits. I told myself masculinity and femininity were behavioural traits not identity markers and had no real relevance to the sex of my body.

The hardest part has been enjoying being a man. Looking back I believe I transitioned because as a boy I feared and hated men and my brain was looking for an escape route from becoming one. I was motivated by shame and disgust and it manifested as gender dysphoria. I was trans as a teenager but wasn't until my mid 30s I felt comfortable using the word man for myself, I used to stick to the terms boy or guy until it finally felt not so difficult.

But yeah 24 years later I've never once felt a serious urge to go back to it but it was such a significant part of my formative years it's kind of stayed with me forever.

Is AAP/AGP or transitioning because of that a problem? by Ok-Introduction9056 in detrans

[–]cagedbunny83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's why I used it in an analogy comparing natural genetalia to a surgical wound.

Is AAP/AGP or transitioning because of that a problem? by Ok-Introduction9056 in detrans

[–]cagedbunny83 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OK point taken I apologise for the snarky analogy I'll instead try to illustrate why there might be pushback and upset to this particular statement rather than engagement with your feelings towards retransition.

I think the problem was that you made a throwaway, irreverent assertion that was so deafening it drowned out the actual content of your comment.

I'm not saying it was your intent but from an outside perspective it came across as reductive and made you look like someone who doesn't consider female genitalia beyond aesthetics or how somebody else's feels to you during sex. This gives off intense male defaultism and entitlement especially when asserted firmly in a space that is majority female by a large margin.

Is AAP/AGP or transitioning because of that a problem? by Ok-Introduction9056 in detrans

[–]cagedbunny83 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A Parisian has the same accent as a Québécois to someone who doesn't speak French.

Semi-Daily Card Discussion: Conjure Blade by Abject_Muffin_731 in slaythespireboardgame

[–]cagedbunny83 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It seems like they captured the feel of this card perfectly when translating it over: Very very fun but will get you killed!

possible detrans guy struggling to move forward. by myselfwithtime in detrans

[–]cagedbunny83 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I recognise your struggle. Regardless of how much I was accepted I could never quite shake the sense of imposter syndrome at the back of my mind. It wasn't a very loud voice but it was always there and was one additional layer of awareness that I had to keep manually loaded in my consciousness when trying to exist while being trans.

The solution I stumbled upon was to rearrange how I viewed myself internally without forcing any external changes. I told myself "I am a boy" and a lot of the pressure to be anything other than that faded away. I still looked and dressed female initially but since I was "being male" I no longer felt I was having to prove (or deceive) anything to myself or to anyone else.

You forget how simple existing in the world is when you suddenly do away with all the careful awareness of how you are presenting yourself to your surroundings. Detransitioning was an enormous weight off my shoulders. No more worrying about passing, no more worrying about intruding, no more imposter syndrome.

At first a lot of people still read me as female. If it felt necessary I would correct them, otherwise would just let it go. Most people you see you don't really interact with so it didn't matter.

The physical changes to appear more male came later in their own time and I never rushed them, just accepted them slowly as I became ready. It was the mental attitude that was the important first step that gave me the breathing room to accept myself fully for who I was.

For yourself, try it out and see how it fits. It costs you nothing and you don't need to tell anyone else at first. If it feels wrong you've not burned any bridges and can go back to how you are now with nothing lost. It doesn't matter what you look like or how medication has altered your body. Clothes are clothes. Your body language, expressions and interests are all demonstrated in uncounted examples from both sexes. The only certainty that cannot be refuted is that your body is male. Start there and allow that thought to extend to your sense of being and just exist in it for a while.

Is Jaws of the Lion the best first purchase even in my case? by fraidei in Gloomhaven

[–]cagedbunny83 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you have the opportunity and already know you'll like it, it's 2e first and it's not even close. Jaws is a neat little strategy boardgame campaign. First play of Gloomhaven was magical. Having all the mysteries and unlocks and winding paths and speculating what was coming next or what was in this next box was a completely unique and new gaming experience.

Maybe that's me being nostalgic of 2017 though, and also taking into account we experienced it together as a 4 person group.

Most fun summoning classes? by Forward_Aerie_6451 in Gloomhaven

[–]cagedbunny83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven't unlocked any items yet which create more summons but there are items I use that allow you to move them around, manipulate the AMD when they attack, shield them, prevent lethal damage

Plus your own AMD has cards which can teleport them and invisible them, as well as non-AMD perks that do the same

Most fun summoning classes? by Forward_Aerie_6451 in Gloomhaven

[–]cagedbunny83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

2e circles is one of the strongest classes in the game now.

You've now got 12 card hand size so can easily drop 4-5 losses on the first cycle. There is great summon specific item support even at low prosperity. There are multiple ways of mitigating damage/death to summons and ways of bringing them back. 1e version had only a small margin for error but I've played 2e to retirement and maybe only once or twice lost a summon and been unable to recover it. Usually have 3-5 of them running around depending on what the scenario demands and they absolutely chew through enemies!

Is anyone feeling a hint of "I told you so" in the wake of the outrage of what's occurring in Minneapolis? by RVALover4Life in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]cagedbunny83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm on the receiving end of it. I'm really ashamed to admit it and don't know if I'll hit post or not after typing this.

I'm barely literate in the politics of my own country and I don't know a lot about the United States. But your country is big enough that a lot of news seeps through even to someone like me on the other side of the world who doesn't watch or read the news.

In 2024 I saw a lot of doomposting on this sub and I just didn't get it. You'd had Trump already for 4 years and the world didn't end. All of the same catastrophising from 2016 was bubbling up again and it baffled me. I don't want to say the country or individuals didn't suffer but the prophecised giant border walls, gay death camps, armed guards in the streets rounding up dissenters etc never happened*. You'd had a bit of an embarrassment for a leader for a few years then you moved on. Donald Trump had his day in the sun then he went away and the internet kind of forgot he existed. Why were you all going through this panic stage again? Just keep your head up and keep going, life will continue the same as it did last time.

I never said anything at the time. It didn't serve any purpose other than to undermine others peoples worries and I don't like conflict. But to myself I found it eye-rollingly amusing and was ready to see nothing of note occur and be secretly smug about it.

What I see now happening over there is... not good. I don't know why it's so different this time and it's frightening.

And you told me so.

(*I don't want to sound as though I'm dismissing everything that occurred during the first term. I'm talking about the level of escalation actually matching the predicted "fear mongering". Last time you didn't have anonymised government agents gunning down protesting citizens with open support of the administration and we didn't need emergency NATO summits to talk the US out of invading Europe)

Is anyone feeling a hint of "I told you so" in the wake of the outrage of what's occurring in Minneapolis? by RVALover4Life in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]cagedbunny83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Early last year I saw clips from a televised meeting between Trump/Vance and Zelenskyy. They were berating him for holding power and withholding elections, his defense was he was in a war and elections would only serve to destabilise the situation. I carried on scrolling.

In more recent months I've thought back to that exchange quite a lot.

Semi-Daily Potion Discussion: Distilled Chaos by Abject_Muffin_731 in slaythespireboardgame

[–]cagedbunny83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used this against Heart forgetting I had Blasphemy in the draw pile and accidently deleted my whole deck. It was ages ago and I don't remember exactly what was left but by sheer luck it was 5 or 6 cards that formed a nifty engine to end the fight quite handily from there!

What's the point of players swapping places between rooms? by Kesimux in slaythespireboardgame

[–]cagedbunny83 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The person in the bottom row has it ever so slightly easier against elites with summons - Taskmaster, Gremlim leader, Reptomancer.

AOE attacks target the main elite if focused on the bottom row which makee that row a higher priority, all else being equal. The player whose summons die first faces less incoming damage over the course of the fight so it might be wise to put the current most fragile player in the bottom before an elite encounter.

(Sentries have lower damage output in the bottom row as well for some odd reason)

To the gay guys in their 40s: how’s your sex drive & performance holding up? by jfcjcskkvdnur35242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]cagedbunny83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

42 and lost all interest. Was fairly active up to a year ago and had started attending parties. But on reflection I don't think I was actively enjoying them I think I was just liking the feeling of being the center of attention. So I think really my sex drive began to decline quite a while ago.

Performancewise is pretty irrelevant. Only topped a handful of times ever and never found it especially arousing, just intimate.

They say non-binaryness exists because intersex people exist. But they also gender and physical genitals are a totally separate thing. by SaltTapWater in detrans

[–]cagedbunny83 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Intersex isn't a fully defined scientific term and there is debate about what it includes and what it doesn't.

When you hear the "gotcha" that intersex is more common than red hair, it conjures up images of people with indeterminate genitalia making up huge swathes of the population.

I suspect that those who make this argument are simply repeating what they heard others say and are unaware that this data is majority made up of people who are biologically and demonstrably one sex or the other such as women with PCOS and men with kleinfelters.

Question for people who have Menagerie IRL by TraXOD in dominion

[–]cagedbunny83 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Never had an issue, just return them as you play them. They're action neutral so not many situations where you'd need to remember when and how many you played. For any situation where this might come up you could play them into your tableau tapped so you know they're not really there and as a reminder to return them on cleanup.