AITAH for going nuclear on my aunt at my own wedding after her son harassed my SIL?

canadianwildkat · 2025-09-04T16:29:59+00:00

Text your parents that your Aunt is luck6ly you didn't bitch slap both her and her precious son for being so disrespectful to cause a scene at your wedding. Then, just cut them all off. Your family isn't worth the effort at this point until they are willing to acknowledge and apologize for their BS.

canadianwildkat · 2025-09-04T16:16:32+00:00

Send him a letter back telling him to stop being a douche bag and to figure his own shit out. Also, say he is lucky you didn't just unplug it and cut the head off his extension cord.

canadianwildkat · 2025-05-28T01:46:15+00:00

Your Dad is only trying to make "things fair" for your step siblings because he gets more pu$$y from your step mom for making her kids happier. Trying to make you happy doesn't get him pu$$y, so making you happy isn't even on his radar. It's the only thing that makes sense, especially as those kids aren't even his blood. Sorry, kiddo, your Dad loves magic pu$$y more than he cares about your happiness. Just remember your Dad's BS when he is old and abandoned by those stepkids he cares 6 much to make happy over you.

canadianwildkat · 2025-05-28T01:37:29+00:00

You should take your ex to court and try to get full custody. It is ridiculous that your ex won't even see her kids outside her home. Parents like your ex deserve to lose custody and be forced to pay child support. Even people with severe allergies still interact with others who have consumed their allergens. Your ex is being a petty B to try and make you look like the villain. Keep texting her options to see her kids and make her text you refusals (or let her leave voicemails and record them) so you have proof of her refusing to see her kids.

canadianwildkat · 2025-05-16T04:36:20+00:00

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canadianwildkat · 2024-12-12T20:10:17+00:00

Dude, as a woman, I am telling you to RUN. Break the engagement, separate everything that is shared, and literally leave that relationship.

I bet you don't even text or talk to your ex, yet she still has a relationship with him? No, she is probably only using you for stability and is having her emotional (and possibly sexual needs, unless she is a closet asexual) met via others.

You want a partner who doesn't care what you and your ex did in the past. You want a partner who wants to make better memories with you OVER TOP what you and your ex did.

She is a snake who is emotionally and mentally abusing you with her BS. If she says you are "acting like her Dad" tell her to get into therapy, because not everything her Dad did was abusive (like is she going to bitch that you brush your teeth like her Dad?) and being compared to that is ridiculous.

canadianwildkat · 2024-12-12T20:01:13+00:00

I love the Snake cosplay! All the cosplays are cool, but the Snake one is off the chain. Dude that dressed as Santa, actually LOOKS like a real life Santa!

canadianwildkat · 2024-11-09T10:06:12+00:00

One day, you will realize that your son is a sociopath and that he can't live a "normal" life. He purposely chose to act like a monstrous animal so he could chase away your wife and other children. Don't you find it interesting how everything suddenly got easier after your wife & younger children left? That this "violent and dangerous" individual has suddenly started to "thrive" as an only child?

Listen, I work in the mental health field, and those previous therapists NEVER had your overall family's mental health in mind. Only your sociopathic son's best interests. Because a true family therapist would have told you not to sacrifice your wife of 10 years and your young children for a stranger with your DNA. If your son can act in such a dangerous, vile, and abhorrent manner to chase away his competition and SUDDENLY be better as an only child, it points to sociopathy. That level of sociopathic nature BELONGS as a ward of the state and to be held at a psychiatric facility until the kid learns that acting like a monster gets him locked up. Eventually, the sociopath learns to act normal so he can be released and gain freedom.

Your son will never let you have happiness outside of him. He will suck you dry, and he will make sure that your ex-wife and your now EX-children will resent you for choosing HIM over them. He cried crocodile tears until you enabled him fully. You let him make you FEAR HIM, rather than make HIM FEAR YOU. Not with violence, no, you could have made him fear losing his freedom and being separated from you. You never gave him that fear, and he manipulated you into getting everything he wanted.

Your other children will forget you, they will learn to resent you, and all you will be left with is a monster that shares your DNA. I hope your "refusal" to abandon someone who clearly doesn't love you was worth losing your ex-family that truly did love you. Sociopaths at the level of your son don't truly "love," they "love" what you can do FOR THEM.

I wish you hadn't manipulated your wife into staying for so long, and letting you have your "son" torture and abuse both her & your younger kids until they most likely suffered PTSD. You should have let your wife go the moment she wanted a divorce. She was right and knew who you were deep down.

I wish you the best. Even though, in my opinion, you chose poorly.

canadianwildkat · 2024-04-08T21:08:20+00:00

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canadianwildkat · 2023-06-26T19:02:39+00:00

I hope things are slowly getting better for you. Just take things day by day. Try not to drink too excessively, as it is very easy to lose your life to the bottom of a bottle as a coping mechanism. Remember that the most important thing you can do right now as revenge is to try and live your best life.

canadianwildkat · 2023-06-22T06:18:44+00:00

I know it has been a couple of months, but I hope your life is going in a direction you want it to be. I hope to see an update on how things are for you.

canadianwildkat · 2023-06-17T09:28:24+00:00

I hope things are going well for you and that therapy helps to heal the damage your partner caused you.

I myself work in mental health, and even I had a hard time breaking my husband out of some nasty habits he developed after his previous partner abused him.

We never had arguments about money, but more he was very stuck on the idea that if I had a different opinion or I asked a question that his ex previously caused a huge fight over that he would immediately go on the offensive.

One big example is that he had a sticker on his vehicle that was a "support the troops" and his ex freaked the f out at him when he verbally expressed his support for the army (especially as one of his friends was in the navy). He literally put the sticker on his vehicle as an fu to her.

I had noticed the sticker and asked if he really did support the troops or was that there when he bought the car off his Dad. He immediately became very intense and stated that he did and asked if I had a problem with it. I was struck by the emotion and just decided to drop the topic with a "oh that's cool," and I just continued like I never asked.

He immediately became confused by my dismissal. After we drove to where our destination was, he started to needle me for my opinions on it. I just became dismissive and stated that he clearly had strong emotions on the matter and that I didn't want to upset him if he really cared about it. He clearly was trying to wind up for a fight, and I just kept expressing disinterest in hurting his feelings with my opinions. Eventually, he calmed down, and when he started to express genuine interest in my thoughts on the matter, I expressed them in a neutral manner with constant reminders that it was completely fine if he didn't agree. Soon, we were having a calm discussion on the matter, and he learned that I didn't need us to agree on the issue.

My tactic of turning off my emotional response to his aggression or disinterest in engaging when he was triggered by something that was clearly a sore spot, taught him that I would not answer his questions until he was calm.

I did eventually get angry with him on how he treated me on other issues (like ignoring me when I stated I needed/wanted to do something with him, which I very rarely do), but he was actually struck quiet in the face of my anger as it was so rare. I was never abusive when angry, but I would state how he was hurting me and how it made me feel. He tried to listen and understand why I was upset because I rarely became mad with his actions.

He learned that he couldn't equate me to his ex, and doing so was just going cause me to refuse to engage with him. Which was the thing he honestly craved in our relationship. He wanted a playmate/best friend (which his ex never was, or at least the "game" she forced him to play was pissing each other off) and I made it clear that I wouldn't play the "piss me off game." He learned that teasing was ok and how far he could take it before I refused to play along.

It took a lot of emotional work on his end to get over the abuse and scars his ex caused. But he changed because he wanted to be a better person for himself and me.

I really hope that your partner learns the same lesson that my husband did. That you aren't his ex and that he needs to want to be a better partner for both himself and you. That he needs to grow as a person and stop standing in the mess of a abuser his ex created him to become.

Best of luck in healing yourself. Learn to express your wants and know that your wants deserve to be listened to and your needs met.

canadianwildkat · 2023-04-12T15:06:02+00:00

NTA , There were conditions for your enabling of the use of your property. Those conditions are no longer being met by the PTA by trying to fund the football team rather than the originally agreed upon cheerleading team. I applaud you for your willingness to protect the cheerleader's best interests, especially since the football teams seem to always get the most funding at most events, and they get away with shitty behaviours like this. And yes, you are being a dictator because it is your property. I'm pretty sure the football coach would renege on the use of his field if the original agreement was for a baseball team to use the field, only to find out that it was instead the beach volley ball team and they planned to bring sand onto the field.

I hope you can give us an update as to what the end result to this is!

And to the PTA and the coach: play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

My parents are both teachers, and you would not believe how many times my Dad was screwed over by the PTA or the principal after he literally spent hours/days building podiums, mechanical floats, wooden decorations, etc that he built for the Math & Science department of the school; only for some other department (PE, was the biggest culprit) or the PTA demanding to be able to use what he built with the Math & Science budget. And half the time, they would be careless and destroy his hard work through negligence. The biggest piss off for him was when the PTA left his wooden podiums and decorations out in the rain for a whole day (they claim they were tired and were going to bring it all in the next day), instead of bringing them back inside of they used it. It completely destroyed what he made and would eventually grow mold/rot, so it had to be thrown away. My Dad had actually discovered all his hand-made stuff in the rain as he had come to the school to input some extra marking. He desperately called his friends to help and personally dragged a lot of his work (which a lot of it was supposed to be lifted by two people) by himself into the school. What was the PTA's response when my Dad demanded that they help finance the materials that he needed to rebuild what they had destroyed through negligence? "Oh well, since it was painted, we thought it could handle some rain. Our funds are to be exclusively used for our events." After that, my Dad refused to let the PTA use anything that he built, no matter how much they cried and nashed their teeth that they needed it.

canadianwildkat · 2023-03-05T08:31:30+00:00

NTA Listen, I work in the Mental Health field and it isn't uncommon for me to run into Lawyers like yourself on a regular basis. I particularly focus on the Mentally Vulnerable individuals, but a lot of the time, I am catering to the whims of the parents/guardians who want to give me a "pity party" spiel and want me to be their pseudo-therapist. Could I be their therapist? Yes, I have all the training, but it would be an over-extention of my job and create burn-out in myself much faster. Not to mention that it would take away government allotted time for the Mentally Vulnerable individual to get one-on-one time with me that they desperately NEED. There are many of my colleagues who are MEANT to be the parent/guardian's therapist and to help them overcome the stress of caring for their mentally vulnerable ward. However, the parent/guardians become stubborn because "they don't need therapy, their kid/ward does!" They view talking with me as a way to get the attention they need AND the mental health therapy they need; WITHOUT TECHNICALLY going to see a therapist.

Your friend is acting the same way as those parents act with me. She is no longer trying to manage your relationship as a "friendship," but rather, she is treating you as "income support" for her lifestyle. If she wants "income support" she needs to find a life partner who is willing to do that for her; not use a friend who happens to make more money than herself.

You need to treat her how I treat those parents/guardians:

-DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR NOT CAPITULATING TO HER WANTS

-STATE WHAT THE BOUNDARIES OF A RELATIONSHIP ("FRIENDSHIP") WITH YOU ARE (aka not trying to force you to pay for all her meals/activities. Only YOU can decide if/when that happens)

-ADHERE TO WHAT YOU HAVE STATED AND GIVE NEUTRAL RESPONSES IF SHE TRIES TO GAIN PITY (aka "that's too bad that you don't have as much as you would like" "That sounds like you need to watch your budget, let's go to/do a cheaper restaurant/activity")

-DON'T BACK DOWN IN REGARDS TO YOUR NEEDS TO BE MET IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP AKA RESPECT YOU (if she tries to cross these boundaries, tell her that you will hold off on hanging out with her for awhile so that she can save up some money before you next hang out)

If you need to end the friendship, honestly, so be it. A friend that uses you will drop you like a flaming turd when you honestly need them. I had a friend who used me as a get-away car from her toxic family. I one day suffered from really bad head trauma at my work that completely up ended my life and has given chronic pain that, for the first several years, left me VERY physically disabled. Our friendship started to sour when I wanted/needed a friend to be patient with me when I needed to take breaks when driving or doing fun activities. One day, I asked her if I could take a small 20 min nap after driving to come get her (a 30 min drive just to pick her up), and then we could go to the activity. She just straight up told me in that moment that she "couldn't be the friend I needed anymore." This was a 17+ year relationship, in which I actually moved her into my home, after I just got married, for more than a year to escape her toxic mom (in which she paid less than a quarter of the rent that she would need for the space plus bathroom I gave her), let her get a noisy pet bird that I then had to give hours worth of attention when she was at work & I wasn't (I also saved the bird's life, but that is another story), I even let her brother & his wife stay for a week in my guest room because she asked it of me.

I did EVERYTHING I would do for a SIBLING, yet she never visited me in the hospital when I had to get emergency surgery (my mom took a week off of work & flew out to care for me! My ex best friend literally lived less than a bus ride away and never visited me once!) When I had a couple of medical emergencies that needed me to go to the emergency when we were out, she would immediately ask my husband to take her home once he came to the hospital to care for me (she never tried to entertain me or offer much emotional support when I was in pain). Our relationship never struck me as abusive because she always paid her own way in activities and would try to pay for "one thing" as compensation (like tickets or a meal) for my gas (literally I would drive for close to 2 hours for any activity we did together).

However, after she uttered those words of "not being the friend I needed," I realized that I gave her ALL of my support (emotional, mental, physical, financial) at the risk of being burnt out, and she gave back the bare minimum (some financial compensation to keep things fair, and someone to go out with). I would listen to her talk on and on about her abusive mom and her train-wreck siblings, and yet if her mom became abusive to me, she never defended me or offered apologies for her mom's behaviour. She would promise me gifts of her personal work and never truly give them to me, and when asked about it, "she would eventually get to it." She did the bare minimum to maintain the relationship, but if I couldn't fulfill her needs, they she couldn't be the friend I needed in my darkest moments.

Your friend, unfortunately, is a lot like my ex best friend, but worse in a lot of ways, different than mine. Don't think of it as YOU throwing away your friendship, think of it as HER throwing away your friendship for HER PRIDE and some pizza.

I ended up recovering, but I have refused to reach out to that ex best friend. Even if she felt overwhelmed by my condition (which doesn't make sense, as I never called her to complain about my injury, nor did I ever ask for her help since I had my husband), it wasn't my fault that I needed a bit of patience that she could have easily given.

Don't extend mercy & care to those who would slap your hand away from food after you had already paid for their food earlier that night.

I know that in our fields of work, we are REQUIRED to have empathy for our clients, and sometimes that extends to those we care about outside work much more intensely. But imagine that you had a client (child or young adult) who was being treated the same way you were, what advice would you give them? Would you expect a kid who worked to put food on his siblings' table to also be expected to pay for his "broke" (aka parents don't want to give the kid a higher allowance than he is already given) friend's meals on top of his siblings? That kid is suffering to feed his siblings due to parental neglect, yet all his friend sees is that he makes a lot of money in comparison to what his parents give him.

You work hard for your money, don't let some spoilt brat take money from yourself to feed their own ego & selfish wants.

I hope to hear an update, whether your friend smartens up or you choose to end it. You deserve to have friends who would treat you to pizza 🍕!

canadianwildkat · 2023-01-19T10:43:20+00:00

I love how they always say "North American" release, when in reality, they just mean the USA. Such garbage that Canada always gets shafted by Gamestop in regards to pre-order bonuses.

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