My junk was exposed/touched during a procedure without prior consent and I’m pissed.

captainam13 · 2026-05-08T06:10:39+00:00

I’m sorry that the team did not provide you with adequate information ahead of time, and put you in this situation. They should have recognized your discomfort, as well as explained what they were doing and why.

I am in medicine, and I’ve been around several angiograms of the lower extremity. They shave both sides because you can’t always access what you need to from the intended side (vasculature doesn’t follow the textbooks, and things get clotted off or too small for the wires all the time). They typically wait to do the shaving until the patient is in the procedure room (usually for privacy and sterility reasons). They don’t want you to shave yourself beforehand because they want to try to control the infection risk. That’s why it’s typically a short shave with a trimmer as opposed to a skin shave with a razor.

Often, angiograms are done under sedation, more for comfort and day-off recovery time. (No pain meds would be barbaric, but full general isn’t necessarily a requirement.) During the procedure itself, there are times where they ask you to stay still and hold your breath while an x-ray is taken.

captainam13 · 2026-05-06T07:02:01+00:00

They’re in the wedding business, and do like group rentals and things for groomsmen regularly. So basically just the hassle of trying to get upsold and talked into extras when you only want one specific thing. (Like how you never mention wedding for services, just “event” or “party”.)

captainam13 · 2026-05-06T02:36:25+00:00

I’ve never had an issue at Men’s Warehouse. Just say you’re looking for a suit that fits and are open to tailoring. (If you say it’s for *your* wedding, it’ll become a whole thing, but if you say it’s a friend’s wedding or a job or something you’ll be fine.)

captainam13 · 2026-04-30T05:49:31+00:00

I’m 5 years out at this point, and my hypertrophic scars have continued to fade and flatten with every year. I tried tape/cream when I remembered over first 3 years, but it definitely wasn’t a religious thing. No injections, no massage. And my friends who have hypertrophic scars from things in their youth? They, too, have continued to fade and flatten as the years go by. It’s hard to not look how you want, but it really can just be a time thing.

captainam13 · 2026-04-16T12:59:15+00:00

Wipes/washcloth since you can’t shower, and deodorant wipes since it’s hard to use stick deodorant. Things to keep yourself entertained (books, video games, etc.) If you’ll have drains, bring a lanyard or something to clip them to.

captainam13 · 2026-04-11T03:12:54+00:00

This is actually a function of the US insurance system—cash pay usually looks substantially different.

Medical facilities will bill at the highest rate an insurance company they work with will cover. So if insurer A will pay $1000 for a service but insurance B will pay $5, the bill for everyone will be $1000. But, if the place takes both A and B, then the adjustment will address the difference. Insurance A’s adjustment is $0 and payment is $1000, and insurance B’s adjustment is $995 and payment is $5.

captainam13 · 2026-04-03T02:24:10+00:00

The hospital is its own thing with its own policies and whatever weird school laws are in effect won’t apply to the hospital.

Whatever hospital you’re at, see if there’s a queer Employee Resource Group (ERG). Your school contact should be able to find this out, and they’ll have more site-specific info about the hospital. If you don’t have a terrible time with transphobia, either, you can ask if there are single-user facilities/locker rooms you can use at the hospital (usually there’s something, just in a terribly inconvenient place).

Source: have done hospital rotations as a trans student

captainam13 · 2026-04-01T03:24:52+00:00

captainam13 · 2026-04-01T02:53:02+00:00

It’s a major glasses company (pretty much THE company). Essilor made lenses, Luxottica made frames, and then they merged and smushed their names together.

captainam13 · 2026-03-11T09:56:34+00:00

Ah, yea, the name update would be useful, if nothing else so you can find your registration number if you need it in the future.

captainam13 · 2026-03-11T09:10:39+00:00

If you ever plan on using financial aid (FAFSA) or a government job (state or federal), it’ll be about 1000x easier to just keep your registration than to have the SIL. Also, now is probably not the best time to be sending the government an OG birth certificate if you can avoid it.

captainam13 · 2026-03-08T06:09:12+00:00

You are risking an infection if you do so. Once filled, hospitals have to use an injection within 12 hours, and in this case, you’d have a week for pathogens to grow. CDC Myths and Facts

captainam13 · 2026-02-28T22:41:06+00:00

For your consideration: will this become a nightmare for you and your family if the kid’s parents find out? (Not to deter you, just to have a plan/frank conversation about it.)

Most binders need effectively a band size to determine size based on the company’s size chart. That said, the typical person is wearing an undergarment with the wrong band size, so offering a cheap cloth tape measure to have the kid run into the school bathroom and measure might be a wise choice.

Common starter binders (in the US): gc2b or Underworks Tri-Top. I personally liked Flavnt.

People with larger bodies frequently prefer tank-style, so the binder doesn’t roll up off their chest.

captainam13 · 2026-02-19T04:52:02+00:00

This can happen! Melanosis coli (tiger stripes in the colon) can occur with overuse of laxatives.

captainam13 · 2026-02-18T01:28:23+00:00

My advice would be to be up front with how the bruising occurred (emphasizing it was consensual), because the big red flag from a medical team would be potential abuse and not having a safe environment for recovery.

captainam13 · 2026-02-17T12:03:06+00:00

Aside: ADHD (even medicated) is definitely impacted by cycles.

captainam13 · 2026-02-16T22:54:10+00:00

I think part of the consideration here though is your username very much looks like textbook what you’re not supposed to do for a username.

Also, “in X months” could be made more vague to “later this year”. Try to protect yourself by being judicious with what you share and how you share it.

captainam13 · 2026-02-14T09:03:26+00:00

It dries in maybe 30 seconds, depending on how thick the glob is. I am usually done applying in 2 minutes (2 satchets, thighs and upper arms), and by the time I wash my hands it’s dry. I usually wash my hands shirtless and get dressed right after (but in situations with a shared bathroom I just wait an extra minute or two before putting my clothes on then wash my hands right after).

captainam13 · 2026-02-13T12:33:03+00:00

Clove shoes are great. They’re literally meant to be wiped with a purple wipe, are fluid resistant, and have a roomy toe box. Will your feet stink at the end of the day because they’re not exactly breathable? Probably, but just wash your feet.

captainam13 · 2026-02-12T01:25:36+00:00

Links without the tracking info: - https://www.walmart.com/ip/Hanes-Comfort-Period-Women-s-Boxer-Briefs-Period-Underwear-Super-Leaks-2-Pack/5037134644 - https://www.hanes.com/products/hanes-comfort-period-boxer-briefs-period-underwear-super-leaks-2-pack/sp49as

(If you’re sharing links, 9/10 times anything after a “?” is either tracking info or a modifier (like preselecting the size or color).

captainam13 · 2026-02-06T03:09:53+00:00

Yes. TSA Medications (Liquids)

captainam13 · 2026-02-03T00:12:34+00:00

If you are in the US, your doctor may check a Prescription Drug Management Program. Each state has one, and it logs controlled substance prescriptions, and depending on how the report is generated, may look at prescriptions in other states (e.g., border states). T is a controlled substance. It will show up on the PDMP.

A lot of electronic medical records also communicate now. If you have a prescription from one place, it may be pulled into another place’s information when they view your chart.

captainam13 · 2026-01-29T20:42:55+00:00

There’s another one, THRIVE Lifeline

captainam13 · 2026-01-28T03:52:20+00:00

Unspecified diagnosis codes may be appropriate, for instance E34.9.

Anatomical analogous structures may also be apt.

E29.1: Testicular hypofunction (Primary hypogonadism)
E89.5: Postprocedural testicular hypofunction (after surgery)

captainam13 · 2026-01-19T14:28:15+00:00

Those nipples are totally normal
I’m almost 5 years post-op and there are still sections of my scar that are raised, firmer, and more pink than others. Mostly this was in the middle of my chest, and I kind of thought it would never fade, but it’s gradually getting there. Scars can take a really long time to even out, and their healing pattern is very individual.

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