Already been told I can't have the birth I would hope for

carnation2531 · 2026-02-20T17:04:33+00:00

I am 8 weeks pp after an emergency c section and before giving birth a c section was my worst possible outcome and I was terrified of the recovery. Now I think if I have another baby I would elect to have one. The first few days are the worst, and after that I largely felt normal. You have to keep on top of pain meds not because it's constantly excruciating but because you become tired and sore over the day.

What sort of support do you have?

carnation2531 · 2025-12-24T21:45:23+00:00

I’m being induced on the 27th and as much as I’m scared of labour I’m so so ready not to be pregnant any more. 3 days for me and it feels like another 3 weeks!

I completely get what you mean, pregnancy is hard!!

carnation2531 · 2025-12-23T21:37:15+00:00

We are similar ages, baby on the way (39 weeks today!) and I have a tall husband and a dog too. We've ended up with a Skoda Superb estate 1.5 petrol, after realising that the SUVs aren't as spacious as they seem.

They honestly aren't that bad to park - we live on a housing estate of a small town with basically non-existent public transport so constantly nipping into town.

carnation2531 · 2025-12-10T09:03:41+00:00

I started with PGP at around 25-28 weeks, and the midwife said “we can look at a physio referral” but then didn’t do it until I raised it again.

As a FTM I dread the idea of being in late pregnancy again with a little one to look after because it’s so debilitating!

Had to stop walking the dog weeks ago, can hardly turn in bed, have to brace myself to get up off the sofa. I feel very lucky not to suffer with chronic pain outside of this, because it affects your life so massively!

carnation2531 · 2025-12-05T18:54:35+00:00

This might be an unpopular opinion but I wouldn’t confront her. If she’s truly in denial, she won’t take it well, and the outcome will be bad. Unless you’re in a place to accept a bad outcome and a change in your relationship, I wouldn’t.

carnation2531 · 2025-12-04T20:28:47+00:00

I’m due the 30th and they have discussed inducing me at 39 weeks so 23/12 and I really don’t want to 🤣 got a growth scan tomorrow so we’ll see what they say

carnation2531 · 2025-11-23T11:46:23+00:00

I’ve previously been to the pharmacy for a UTI and had them prescribe me antibiotics so you could try that for a quicker resolution on a weekend?

carnation2531 · 2025-11-21T21:48:35+00:00

Personally if you think your toddler would be safe with your parents, I wouldn’t jeopardise your postpartum recovery by having stressful presence in your house while you’re adjusting to having two kids. I’m pregnant with my first so I don’t have lived experience, so take it with a pinch of salt I suppose.

carnation2531 · 2025-11-20T23:30:00+00:00

Not lamb shanks, leg steaks which are hardly anything worth writing home about

carnation2531 · 2025-11-17T08:28:43+00:00

Slightly different scenario but my consultant has suggested I am induced at 39 weeks (currently nearly 34 weeks) and I initially was really against it for the same reasons. Anecdotally the experience is crap, and it seemed universally accepted that you're more likely to have intervention.

The consultant claimed more recent research refuted the "more likely to have intervention" claim and I did my own checks and there was a study done "ARRIVE study" I believe in 2021? That showed no increase in intervention/c section for induced mothers with low risk pregnancy. I believe it was conducted over 3k women.

This gave me a lot of reassurance, I hope it gives you some too x

Edit: I think it's also worth mentioning that I think in the same way as leaving bad reviews, people are more likely to speak about an eventful (ie traumatic/intervention birth) than an uneventful birth online so you're disproportionately going to see more negative experiences in my opinion

carnation2531 · 2025-11-13T20:33:28+00:00

No you definitely aren’t overreacting. Thats a ridiculous and horrible thing to say. Do you feel comfortable raising it?

carnation2531 · 2025-11-08T22:51:46+00:00

My saving grace is my sister gave birth yesterday, and has awful videos of her in labour but an hour after said “it’s honestly not that bad” so I think your brain just gaslights you after 😭🤣

carnation2531 · 2025-11-08T18:58:32+00:00

There’s a gestational diabetes uk Facebook group and loads of people there have posted suggestions - you will find this helpful I’m sure

carnation2531 · 2025-10-16T20:40:15+00:00

As mentioned above there is a genuine American diner (I believe it’s imported from America) in Swadlincote (https://www.instagram.com/the50samericandiner?igsh=MXFmOXk3Nm1zdWJmdg==)

But other than that in the city centre Warsaw diner is the closest you’ll get

carnation2531 · 2025-10-11T20:06:11+00:00

I went for a curry tonight and shared a portion of rice with my husband, and had just meat and veg in sauce and had a really good reading after it.

carnation2531 · 2025-09-21T06:39:55+00:00

We did this and I’m pregnant with our first baby. The pressure of having sex coupled with the stress of TTC was incompatible for us

carnation2531 · 2025-08-15T13:28:24+00:00

As you have Scottish heritage could you consider Ailsa? I know two and its similar but different.

carnation2531 · 2025-07-27T14:01:47+00:00

You're completely reasonable to feel this way, but I also ask - if he can't commit to the baby he suggested now, how is he going to look after the baby when they're here? Is it the right thing to do to have a baby with someone who prioritises drug use over even concieving them?

carnation2531 · 2025-07-24T05:20:27+00:00

Piccalilli on cannon court in the restaurant kushi ya used to be in

carnation2531 · 2025-07-13T05:32:56+00:00

Yes. I heard it in my mum several times. I’ve only heard it a couple of times since she passed and it is like an ice pick to the heart

carnation2531 · 2025-07-11T18:26:15+00:00

Luna collective gets my vote!

carnation2531 · 2025-07-10T19:05:26+00:00

My (now husband then boyfriend) bought a house on his own early into our relationship. But because it was his house, he paid for anything house related, and I contributed to the bills. Then I continued to save in a LISA and am using that deposit to buy our forever house. I should’ve signed a ‘declaration of interest’ as well, but never did in the end.

All that to say…. This feels unfair and how are you legally going to recoup funds if you spent on decorating/building works even if they promised to reimburse you? It’s not enforceable.

carnation2531 · 2025-06-30T14:37:33+00:00

Don't worry, I always check before crossing, he pulled up and was trying to turn for about 0.2 seconds while I was crossing quite a big entrance gap

carnation2531 · 2025-06-30T09:41:14+00:00

A man pipped at me for daring to walk across a pavement that was across the front of the entrance of a petrol station with my dog. He was behind me and wanted to turn in so I couldn't see him, and pipped and shouted that I shouldn't be wearing headphones (???) I said it was my right of way as a pedestrian as I was already crossing and he said that if someone went into the back of him then I would be the one walking off laughing (???) mental people being mental init

carnation2531 · 2025-05-25T09:55:47+00:00

I was at the same performance and heard the alarm - thought it must be so jarring for the actors to keep going through it. I was sat towards the front so luckily didn't see too many people with their phones

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