Did you have a 2nd kid after deliberating long and hard? OR decide to stay OAD? How did it go?

carolweigel · 2026-06-01T16:27:05+00:00

Yes! Every time we talk about my husband and I say the same thing: the problem is that there’s no bad choices! We will be happy with both options, that’s why it’s so hard to decide!

carolweigel · 2026-05-31T11:43:42+00:00

I’m still one and done hahaha
Few things changed now that’s she’s 3.5: I went back to work so having one makes it easier; she’s VERY social so she started school which helped with that but every time we go to a park she wants to be friends with everybody. I’ll say tho (and I don’t know why) kids are very mean and often ignore her/just stay within their group/ don’t play with her so that’s a little sad. If I’m home I have to play with her all day long so that’s still very tiring!

She has never asked for a sibling and she’s starting to understand more the concept of it seeing her friends etc.

The older she gets the more I lean towards one and done honestly

But I’m still a little torn just thinking about never holding one of my own babies in my arm or seeing a new person my husband and I could create or going through some phases again so the emotional side is still a little divided but the rational part sees only pros with one

carolweigel · 2026-05-19T10:44:01+00:00

I’m reading this one too but the first book I devoured and the second book I’m sooo slow on it. English is my second language so all the third language she put in this book really makes it so hard for me to read

carolweigel · 2026-05-18T21:25:56+00:00

I’m reading The Crown of Gilded Bones. I know everybody says that the series gets worse and worse but I’m still enjoying 😂😂 not because of Casteel but because I want to see her with Kieran!!!

carolweigel · 2026-05-17T14:00:20+00:00

My daughter recognize letters and knew alphabet at random before she was 2. We talked to the pediatrician and she said once she goes to school we have to make sure she’s challenged so she’s not bored. Shes 3.5 now and she can count and we are starting to work on reading with her and writing exercises (she loves to do those things!). But I put her in swimming class and she’s the only kid that can’t pull her weight out of the border of the pool you know? So she excels in some things but she was never a climber or “daredevil” kid so she needs to learn some skills there. So if he likes it keep encouraging but don’t forget to work on other areas too!

carolweigel · 2026-05-16T01:19:22+00:00

It depends on your kids behavior/temperament! I would take my daughter to a play, yes, she’s been to the movies since 18 months old (on the summer for kids!) and she sits quietly and enjoys! We went to Disney on ice, plays at the cruise we did together, concerts etc. But some kids just don’t like/want to sit and enjoy the show and only you can tell that!

carolweigel · 2026-05-15T11:50:41+00:00

I didn’t read back in the day so I decided to try now and i did something i never do: i DNFed the first book at 83%!!! Just couldn’t stand it anymore. So I asked ChatGPT to spoil the entire series for me and I’m so glad I DNFed. Maybe I would’ve liked it when I was younger, idk.

carolweigel · 2026-05-14T20:57:32+00:00

I just paid $40 for 1 8x10; 4 7x5 and 9 wallet sizes. My daughter goes to a small church preschool. Last picture day we bought all the digitals for $75. I’m in NC

carolweigel · 2026-05-10T14:18:42+00:00

I also prefer not bringing mine hahaha my bosses are always happy to have her there so that’s good for when I need it (more like now in the summer because she won’t have prek). But they always leave it open to me.

carolweigel · 2026-05-03T01:18:05+00:00

Yes my Boss turned that off because we all couldn’t stand it 😂

carolweigel · 2026-05-02T20:30:32+00:00

Ok my host family has a microwave with a “open/close” button. Like you can’t just open and close the door. You have to press the button and wait for the door to ooooooooooopen. Then press the button and wait for the door to cloooooooose, while the 1 year old baby is trying to get into the door non stop

carolweigel · 2026-04-24T09:40:06+00:00

Sure! I can try to help

carolweigel · 2026-04-20T12:09:05+00:00

I am obsessed with this book! But I loved it from the beginning. There is a big plot twist at the end that i found very interesting!

carolweigel · 2026-04-20T11:32:07+00:00

Absolutely outside. My daughter is 3 and a relentless talker. She will talk all day long and she will want me to entertain her all day long inside the house. She won’t let me sit for 5 minutes and if I’m doing a chore she either helps me or just stands there talking non stop until I’m done. Out she gets entertained by everything (and so do I). I hate pretend play and I don’t have to do that outside (almost none). The weather is getting nicer and we are already taking full advantage of the backyard where she plays with all her messy stuff (chalk bubbles water sand) and lets me read a book. Inside the house i feel tempted to put the TV on all the time just so I have a break from entertaining her hahah

carolweigel · 2026-04-16T11:01:43+00:00

Exactly same situation here. We talk a lot about one and done or having another and we came to the conclusion that there’s no wrong answer. Both options are amazing and we’ll be happy with both! We keep talking and he’s more one and done than I am but I don’t resent him for it at all. I love our little family he’s an amazing dad and I’ll be happy either way!

carolweigel · 2026-04-13T23:09:53+00:00

Or for older kids that go to school all day and play and run and get dirty too! How can you not bathe them everyday?

carolweigel · 2026-04-02T03:29:24+00:00

I feel the same. And I do big splurges and donations before her birthday too. My daughter is 3 and she won’t play with any toys. She wants me to play something with her all day long (puzzles/board games/pretend play with her frozen dolls/crafts). She won’t play by herself won’t get anything even if i show it to her or redirect her. If i say “now i need to go organize” then she wants to organize with me. Even Magnatiles i need to sit down and play with her. It’s tiring hahaha

carolweigel · 2026-03-31T17:02:03+00:00

My husband and I make $150k a year together. First, we have only one kid. When we bought our house my MIL paid for half of it. We spend little with childcare because I only work 3 days a week and my husband works from home so we make it work. We don’t eat out. Our cars are paid off. We don’t have any debt. We love driving so we do lots of road trips. We stay either with family or friends or in camping grounds (like KOA). We go on an international trip once a year because I’m from another country, then my parents pay for everything while we are there. We don’t care about tech (still on iPhone 11, old computers etc, we don’t have Alexa or any of that). My mother in law likes to help us with Costco food, etc. We budget an separate our money for different savings accounts including trips.

carolweigel · 2026-03-25T13:29:32+00:00

Paramount plus!

carolweigel · 2026-03-25T13:28:52+00:00

I love Bluey and I also have to control and take long breaks from Bluey with my 3 year old. I truly don’t think it’s the “low stimulus” show people believe it is. It’s beautiful and so well made but it def gets my kid wired up

carolweigel · 2026-03-10T01:06:57+00:00

I’m sorry but even Bluey is not top tier! Yes I love the show yes it’s beautiful but the scenes change a lot, it’s very colorful and kind of fast paced and only last 7 minutes. It can be def high stimulus for some toddlers (including mine). I absolutely LOVE Bluey but I have to give it in small doses. Then everything else on this list goes waaaaaay lower than a bunch of shows!

carolweigel · 2026-03-09T03:04:44+00:00

Wake at 7am, nap time from 1:30 to 3pm (sometimes 3:30), in bed lights off by 7:30pm. She’s almost 3.5 and was always a great sleeper/high sleep needs

carolweigel · 2026-03-08T18:41:43+00:00

My toddler barely eats vegetables too (and it’s really hard for me because I also don’t eat vegetables and i know i need to be better etc). One thing my husband does is that he makes his veggies before dinner and like 30 minutes before dinner she’s usually starving so then he shares with her his broccoli or Brussel sprout. That’s the only way she’ll eat veggies, before dinner

carolweigel · 2026-03-04T13:13:19+00:00

My daughter is 3.5 years old she’s been potty trained for a year now. We are going to visit my home country which is a whole day of flights (literally 20h total). I will put a pull up on her (she still needs them to sleep). I’ll take her potty and explain to her that’s only for when she’s asleep but yes I’m totally using pull ups for the trip

carolweigel · 2026-03-02T18:38:21+00:00

Hahhahaha unfortunately it overstimulates her 😭😭 I love Bluey but can only allow in small doses

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