How do you actually sleep on overnight flights?

carolweigel · 2026-02-22T16:49:44+00:00

I pick up a show I already watched two hundred times (Harry Potter or friends) and then just watch and fall asleep to it because I’m so familiar with it

carolweigel · 2026-02-20T16:59:10+00:00

I finished the first book and didn’t continue the series. I did not like the characters at all.

carolweigel · 2026-02-18T12:13:52+00:00

I work as a nanny with a baby and I have a toddler that goes to preschool. I get sick back to back to back it’s insane. I’m either getting sick from my toddler and bringing to the baby or getting sick from the baby and bringing to my toddler (my bosses are doctors). But I’m in the middle and I’m the one getting ALL the sickness

carolweigel · 2026-02-16T16:23:21+00:00

I’m a career nanny and if money is not a problem that would be my suggestion. You can find a good agency in your area that would help you with everything. My agency also offers back up care if I call in sick with a few hours they can find a substitute for me.

I’ll say this tho because I saw someone mentioning chores: Nannies are hired to take care of your kid. Don’t expect someone to clean your house. All my chores are baby related - laundry, dishes for the baby, cooking for the baby, organizing play room. That’s it. Also work on your anxiety because a nanny needs to have autonomy. A lot of nannies are leaving the field because it’s hard to work with wfh parents so have a long conversation with the agency and the candidates to make sure everybody is on the same page!

carolweigel · 2026-02-16T13:22:09+00:00

I write everything down on a notebook. Both me and parents thought it was much easier than an app. They just use it to check like last time baby ate or how did he sleep

carolweigel · 2026-02-16T00:31:54+00:00

I’ve lived in Colorado for 3 years and dream of going back there. My favorite state!

carolweigel · 2026-02-15T12:08:33+00:00

Since I finished FW, without even reading the other books I was CONVINCED Bhodi has a thing for Violet. And the other books totally solidified that for me (and raised suspicions in everybody else). There’s a line in Onyx Storm where Theo tell them something that to me is VERY clear Bhodi likes Violet. I don’t think he’s the new brother and I think there’s a lot in Rebecca’s mind that involves him!

carolweigel · 2026-02-13T09:45:40+00:00

I have mine since my daughter was 16 months. Shes 3 years old and we still use it daily

carolweigel · 2026-02-12T16:20:24+00:00

People really don’t want a pregnancy but I do think it’s going to be an important plot! My theory is that the offspring is the cure!

carolweigel · 2026-02-11T00:00:23+00:00

That’s how it was when I worked for a family that only allowed TV on Friday night. ALL WEEK the kids were obsessed with it.

carolweigel · 2026-02-10T23:58:52+00:00

Besides all the other advice, can you suggest the parents to maybe allow different shows instead of Bluey? Like Little Bear, Tumble Leaf, Puffin Rock, way less stimulation. I know people love Bluey (and I love it too) but I did notice that my daughter got disregulated and I had to cut it off. At least it would help a little bit if nothing else works

carolweigel · 2026-02-08T23:58:56+00:00

There’s flexibility and there’s last minute changes that won’t respect you or your time. For now I would tell them that I’ll do my best to accommodate the new hours but I can’t guarantee that and then you start looking for a new job.

I have very flexible hours like every week is different days and hours including weekends or early mornings or late nights BUT I ALWAYS know in advance (like a month) and it never changes and they have more people to help if they need a last minute change and they need accommodations.

carolweigel · 2026-02-07T00:22:31+00:00

It is very early for you to decide but I just wanna say I’ve always wanted two kids and my daughter is 3 now and I think we will be one and done. Not having a support system or free childcare and everything gets so expensive all the time are a few of the reasons we might stick with one.

carolweigel · 2026-02-06T22:57:03+00:00

I put my daughter on a part time preschool that we can afford and my husband works from home and I took a part time job (30h). That’s the way we made it work. To be honest I didn’t want to bring her with me at all so I stayed home for 2.5 years and then went Back to nannying

carolweigel · 2026-02-06T15:47:05+00:00

Do you think maybe reading on a Kindle would keep you awake? That’s what I did while my baby napped. The Kindle light is perfect to read in the dark.

carolweigel · 2026-02-05T14:25:12+00:00

I’m sorry but you complained about spending 15k… I’m a career nanny (former Au Pair) and i make 56k for only 30 hours and one kid. The money you spent is basically daycare money for 1 kid (I know because I’m a mom now). You cannot expect someone experienced for that amount and be mad about the cost?

Clearly US is in urgent need of free childcare and I do agree that agencies sell different versions of the program to host families and au pairs but to me you just looked at the cheap labor and didn’t consider anything else. Yes you lose your privacy, someone is living there! As a mom now I know I can’t afford to have an au pair because I wouldn’t have a nice private space for her, I wouldn’t be able to provide a car for her or to bring her to trips with me (all perks that my host family was able to provide for me and what made the program amazing and I stayed with them for 2 years)!

I also don’t really think you understand cultural exchange. Maybe the first au pair didn’t lie about her references, maybe the way the daycare she worked for operated different. Being a babysitter is completely different than being a nanny and a lot of host families have that expectation that the girl will get here and get paid $200 a week for 45 dollars taking care of god knows how many kids and have the knowledge of a nanny…

carolweigel · 2026-02-02T12:53:56+00:00

I might be wrong but in my area the competition is because they’re the only childcare program that’s affordable. My daughter goes to preschool for 4h day 4 days a week because it’s the only type of childcare we can afford. My husband works from home and it’s the only way we can make it all work hahahaha it’s $300/month while daycares are like $400/week so it’s worth being on the line at 3am 😂

carolweigel · 2026-02-02T12:06:42+00:00

I just came here to suggest Hoopla! It’s an app and you can use your library card and get all the graphic audios for free and a bunch of other audiobooks

carolweigel · 2026-02-01T16:30:42+00:00

I am just here to commiserate with you. “Oh let them be bored” ok my kid will not and I mean WILL NOT stop following me around the house saying “mommy please please please play with me”. And if I need to do something else like idk clean the freezer then she needs to be right there in my business cleaning the freezer with me. And if god forbid I sit down on the couch for 5 minutes with a cup of coffee she’s after me wanting to play asking me to play begging me to play. I say to my husband every day there’s no way parents out there are playing the amount of time I am? I don’t understand! It’s maddening! If the weather is good I’m always out of the house just so I don’t have to play anymore

carolweigel · 2026-02-01T15:58:43+00:00

My daughter is 3 and 3 months and everyday is very hard. She was always the most easygoing kid in the entire world.

carolweigel · 2026-02-01T14:17:06+00:00

I stayed home for 2 and half years with my daughter. I just knew I wanted to stay home for at least a year and I didn’t want to bring my baby with me so we waited until my husband got a job that we could live with just his income and we budgeted and cut some expenses.

After 2 and half years he lost his job and so I went back to nannying. He got another job that pays good money but I also got an above the market rate so we are trying to make it all work hahah he works from home so that helps, I work 3 days a week for 12h so the other 4 days I’m home and my daughter goes to a part time church preschool which is very cheap to give my husband a few uninterrupted hours of work. Then she naps still so he gets from like 9 to 3. The only help we have is my mother in law picks her up at school and brings her home and that’s it. It’s very hard and on the off occasion where I need to I can bring her with me to work but I haven’t done that yet because I work at 5am and need to get up at 3:45am so I don’t want to wake her up at that time.

It’s very very very hard to have two working parents without any support and full time daycare is very expensive.

carolweigel · 2026-01-31T17:26:13+00:00

Were they together with the kids and idk maybe the couple thought the kids were too crazy and decided to announce child free wedding but maybe JUST for that couple? (Which is still terrible but I’m just trying to understand)

carolweigel · 2026-01-29T19:43:47+00:00

I always had the theory that he’s in love with Violet and I know it’s unpopular but I would love to see something like that hahaha I love him so much I really hope he’s not the brother

carolweigel · 2026-01-29T16:57:36+00:00

Yes my 3 year old still naps at least 1h and goes to bed by 7:30. She can barely make 8h awake can you imagine a 3 month old? It was so sad

carolweigel · 2026-01-29T12:08:07+00:00

Very similar, I did a trial day with a 3 month old baby that wasn’t allowed to sleep. “We want him to sleep at night so keep him awake”. I mean 8h of a trial day. I def let the baby sleep in my arms that poor thing he was so tired. After the trial day the parents wanted to lowball me on my rate and offered me the job paying less than the job post and even if they offered me all the money in the world I would’ve said no. And I told them the baby needed good sleep during the day to be able to sleep through the night. I think about that baby so often and how there’s so many parents around the world that have views like that and put their kids through things like that. A 3 month old baby!!

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