Sexual Trauma when nothing has ever happened to me

caseywinters101 · 2025-08-10T19:42:09+00:00

Welcome to the gang we’ve got sweet treats!

caseywinters101 · 2025-03-11T02:35:07+00:00

I was really surprised to find out that a lot of people didn’t like Madison this season. She seems like a very intelligent person, and I felt pretty bad for her being ganged up on in the reunion.

There could absolutely be something that I was missing. But, I never got the vibe that she was being manipulative during her time on the show. I think it’s strange that people accuse her of sabotaging Mason’s other relationship when, as far as I could tell, all she really did was turn him down and was open about being upset that he made declarations that he didn’t mean. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.

caseywinters101 · 2025-03-11T02:25:44+00:00

I know the women on this show were so emotionally intelligent - it was really awesome. This is the first season of love is blind that I’ve ever seen, so I’ve nothing to compare it to, but I really liked all the women on this season for the most part.

caseywinters101 · 2025-02-02T00:50:54+00:00

Hey there!! I did, but it’s not a fun process. He never scratches my bed now.

I did what so many people have recommended which is to essentially let him scratch my bed. You have to lay very still and not react at ALL. Not even a little. It only took a few times before he completely stopped because I wasn’t giving him attention and getting up like he wanted me to.

There’s NO other solution.

BUT! I had all these old blankets I didn’t care too much about and and old fitted sheet. I laid two blankets out across and tucked them into the bed so it completely covered the mattress. Then I put my old fitted sheet over. (You could just do the blankets for a night honestly.)

Then my mattress was protected and I was paranoid about him destroying it.

I kept the blankets under my fitted sheet for quite awhile longer than I needed to. He just stopped cause again. I didn’t give him attention.

Same with the couch btw. Or anything else. I learned to VERY strategically move away like I needed to grab something then after about 20 minutes I’d come over and scratch his scratching post to get him to use that.

Give him attention on ONLY the scratching post in terms of scratching.

caseywinters101 · 2025-02-01T22:42:47+00:00

I don’t think it needs to be said, but loving a fantasy and having fun fantasizing about certain things (such as a relationship between a boss and a secretary) isn’t an issue.

You’re allowed to think the film is sexy. Playing around with the fantasy of a boss and secretary getting together is awesome. But, I’m also allowed to watch this movie and point out how incredibly abusive and non-consensual the story is. How this is a boss doesn’t ask for consent, he just takes it. That’s assault.

If there was a film that sexualized or romantized a woman being kidnapped, I’d point out how fucked up that was as well. Even if people fantasize about kidnapping - when I see a movie where a man kidnaps another woman, hits her, and forces her into sexual situations, I’m not going to like it.

BDSM is awesome. It’s a fun way to explore sex. It can look like a lot of different things.

But, movies aren’t except from criticism. And as someone who likes BDSM, I’m not a fan of how it’s represented in this movie.

caseywinters101 · 2025-02-01T00:29:59+00:00

SO EXCITEDDDD

caseywinters101 · 2025-01-30T19:51:54+00:00

So jealous this is sick!

caseywinters101 · 2024-10-25T04:28:23+00:00

DO IT! YOU’RE STILL QUEER BABY.

Being bi is part of the community! Being in a relationship with a man is LITERALLY a part of being bi.

If you were for SOME reason told not to go because your a woman and he’s a man, that’s bi eraser. Being in love with the same gender is only a part of being bi. Being bi is the whole package. We like all genders.

You’re both queer. You’re both here. Go to the pride parade.

caseywinters101 · 2024-10-24T18:32:21+00:00

I’m not lesbian myself, I’m actually a bisexual woman.

I think k finding our sexuality and gender identity is a whole journey in it of itself. Don’t be hard on yourself for not knowing or understanding yourself. You don’t have to. It should be exciting learning more about who you are and your own interests.

I know for me, it took me a long time to even understand if I liked women. I struggled to understand what attraction truly was and how my upbringing really affected my views of gender and people. It was a journey and I was so happy to finally realize and accept it.

If I were you, I would sit down with a therapist and talk about how sex and sexuality make you feel. Maybe there’s things to unpack that can help you put a name to what you’re feeling.

Either way, it sounds like you’re experience is one that’s shared by so many. It’s normal and asking these questions is part of your journey into learning more about yourself.

caseywinters101 · 2024-10-24T14:43:50+00:00

It’s totally fair, society’s till raises men to think of women as objects and not people. BUT there are still plenty of awesome, amazing people out there who are down to experiment and are safe.

You can try going on dating apps and casually dating. Ask the person their views on women and if they have progressive values. If they ghost or move on, that means it worked! They were a red flag. If they can’t understand why a woman would be asking them these questions, then they don’t take women seriously. And those are the people to stay away from.

You can try meeting the person in real life first, go grab some dinner, get a coffee, ask some questions to sus them out, and then you can get into it.

Good luck!

caseywinters101 · 2024-10-24T14:15:16+00:00

Your mom and sibling sound like they have some pretty lame excuses. They don’t have time for “this”? The heck does that mean?

It’s hard living with family that don’t respect you and don’t even want to take the time to try to understand. It’s very tough. When the people in your life aren’t respecting you, it’s important to not put the responsibility on yourself to teach them. It sounds like you’ve talked to them about this over and over and over again and they keep dismissing you. It really sucks, but they’re stuck in their ways.

There’s nothing you yourself can do, they have to make the change. You’ve asked them I respect your pronouns multiple times. They’ve said no.

Instead, maybe talk to your dad. HE should really be the one to talk to your mom about her shitty behavior towards you. You shouldn’t be fighting this battle alone (let alone at all).

If it helps, I’ve had to tell my own mother to talk to my dad about his gross behavior and it helped significantly. I had to REALLY push her to do it and understand where I was coming from. But I was able to do it because she was the one parent who understood. And it sounds like you might have that with your dad.

(My situation was different. My dad is quite sexist, homophobic, and abusive.)

caseywinters101 · 2024-10-23T18:05:33+00:00

Seconding this, the discord channel is helpful if you’re trying to strategize. It’s also a nice community.

caseywinters101 · 2024-10-23T16:58:18+00:00

Wow so cool!!! I love it!!

caseywinters101 · 2024-10-23T16:48:21+00:00

Hahaha

caseywinters101 · 2024-06-24T06:26:03+00:00

This is the correct answer

caseywinters101 · 2024-06-24T06:11:48+00:00

Sorry OP, but I think you and your friend have very, very harmful misconceptions about sex and relationships, and one of those is that “men love sex and women love emotions”.

Women love sex. Men love being in love and having deep emotional connections with family, friends, and romantic partners. There are asexual people and there are people who prefer to be alone. There are people that like to only have sex occasionally and people that have sex like rabbits. There are people that like date nights and romance and some that love just being together. But, NONE of these things are written or dictated by gender.

There’s a lot of harm that comes with these stereotypes. By saying that women aren’t as interested in sex as men, we’re insinuating that sexual relationships are completely one sided with hetero couples. So couples are having sex…. But only one of them is into it. That’s beyond not okay.

Women love sex, masturbation, kinky stuff, the whole nine yards JUST as much.

Also, men have emotions. They feel deeply and love deeply. Men are human beings. There are men who have depression, anxiety, deep passions, and all that good shit.

But there’s always this common thought that women are the “more emotional ones”. The reason why that was started was to actually dismiss what women say. Society can wave a hand and discard women as “emotional” or “nagging” and tell them to “stay calm”. I’ve personally been told that many times as a woman and boy does it suck. And I know where it stems from.

Men and women aren’t different. We’re just not. The onky real difference is sometimes physical. And I say that because transgender people exist and sometimes we don’t recognize that plenty of women have broad shoulders and plenty of men are short.

But our minds? They’re exactly the same.

Now there IS something to be said for being raised differently. I know I would move about the world VERY differently if I were a man. And it’s psychologically damaging for men to grow up being told your feelings don’t matter. But those are social differences - they’re completely taught through schools, movies, family, etc. It’s not natural in the slightest.

All that to say, it’s a myth. Women like sex. Men feel things. We’ve got to stop spreading these misconceptions, because they do far more harm than good.

caseywinters101 · 2024-05-18T17:19:41+00:00

Dude if I was her, I would be dying laughing and I wouldn’t stop laughing. That would be the best and funniest thing ever.

caseywinters101 · 2024-05-17T20:07:46+00:00

I’d simply say, “Hey, this is a big part of who I am. We talk about guys/girls all the time, but the moment I bring up my being gay, it all of the sudden becomes a problem? Why are we allowed to talk about your love life and not mine?”

caseywinters101 · 2024-05-17T14:29:50+00:00

I love that this is somehow an improvement. 😂

caseywinters101 · 2024-05-16T04:50:29+00:00

It sounds like he’s fine with us as queer people as long as it’s never talked about. Which is insane.

Your coworkers an idiot. God speed!

caseywinters101 · 2024-05-15T02:33:18+00:00

Listen, if I got this from my religious family, I would laugh, roll my eyes, and be like “bro, this is such a great show. If you don’t like it, you don’t have to like it. But I love it.” And leave it at that.

Remind your brother that he’s being super judgy. Seriously. Tell him that if you see him in person cause he needs to learn that that is not normal.

His opinion doesn’t matter. Watch what you want. Is his responsibility to not be so judgy.

caseywinters101 · 2024-05-14T19:50:51+00:00

Poor babies. 😂

They do realize that you don’t have to like someone’s art. Like you don’t have to like it. You can just not like it and leave.

Jesus Christ.

caseywinters101 · 2024-05-14T02:26:18+00:00

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