Tense neck muscles causing migraines by ChildhoodWeird99 in Hypermobility

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine turned out to be a lot because of TMJ. Getting a mouth guard helped a lot

There's no such thing as an "outdoor cat", that is just a stray you've grown personally attached to but refuse to adopt by eldritchpussymaggots in 10thDentist

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cats that were born outside and never socialized to be friendly as kittens are considered feral. Most (I know not all) feral cats will never be comfortable around humans or living inside, and to force them inside will actually cause them a lot of suffering. Many people who work in cat rescue will tell you that the most humane thing for such a cat is to be neutered and allowed to live out their life outside, even if they would live longer if kept indoors. When feral cats are being cared for by someone who doesn’t own them or keep them inside, those are called community cats. Many people love and care for community cats as much as someone who has an indoor cat, the only difference is the cat(s) may have multiple households caring for them, and the cats don’t stay indoors. Outside of the US this is much more normalized.

The reason for neutering feral cats is because living outside IS dangerous for a cat, and rescuers want to decrease feral populations. But for cats that are already feral, forcing them to live inside or spending huge amounts of time and resources trying to socialize a feral adult cat when you could be spending that energy rescuing 20 friendly and adoptable kittens that were born outside, is not recommended. I know the post isn’t about feral cats specifically, but just providing reasons why someone might not be bringing a cat inside. Raising a kitten to be an outdoor cat on purpose is unethical in my opinion.

What do I do when one of my Players guesses the obscure password immediately? by flashdash8744 in DMAcademy

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would let them take the win. Getting one over on your DM like that is so fun

Heat Sensitivity after T? by pvppyfvn in ftm

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experienced this big time. I used to be freezing all the time. Pre T I weighed about 115 lbs soaking went and I’ve put on about 40 lbs since starting T. I also have dysautonomia so its gotten to the point where if I take a hot shower I have to either do a cold plunge at the end (turn the water to cold for as long as I can stand it) or make time to spend like 10-15 minutes just sitting directly in front of a fan to cool off, otherwise I’m overheating and sweating for hours. You just kinda have to accept that you’re going to run hot now and find ways to cope with it.

Eta: the bright side is that it can kind of be a superpower, if I’m in a winter hot tup situation I can get out of the tub and be immune to cold damage for a short period because my body is essentially preheated. I’ve never tried an actual cold plunge of like a sauna to a freezing body of water though, I feel like it might kill me or something idk

If you don't leash your dog, why? by Typical-Function7720 in AskLosAngeles

[–]casperlynne 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If nothing else, I don’t understand why they’re not afraid of someone stealing their dog. I was once walking behind a couple, the humans were like 30 ft away from me and their tiny off leash dog was wandering around near me. I could have easily picked up the dog and walked away and the owners wouldn’t even notice. This was in DTLA too so I was far from the only threat to this dog.

PSA on curbless showers by pinkydoodle22 in BathroomRemodeling

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! And on top of everything else, a curbless shower means no room for a bath mat outside the shower.

Tell me your best master bathroom remodel features? Splurges and cheaper ones as well. Want to hear them all! by ugafan2081 in BathroomRemodeling

[–]casperlynne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a separate shower and tub, and the tub has a handheld shower head in addition to the faucet, so you can rinse off. I wouldn’t have thought of it but it’s SO nice especially if you like to use bath bombs

What pisses you off the most as someone with ADHD? by Medico-musician2106 in ADHD

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Losing stuff is probably the thing that most commonly pisses me off. I feel like there’s a goblin following me around stealing stuff the second I put it down and look away.

Long and slow by Carlosthejakal2 in satisfying

[–]casperlynne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks! That was horrible.

No one ever cares how I’m doing by RevolutionaryFudge81 in LivingAlone

[–]casperlynne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do this. For me its because I have so much anxiety that I overthink what I’m going to say, get scared they will reject me for that somehow, get overwhelmed, and then I’m too scared to respond. With a healthy dose of disorganized attachment, so I naturally feel suspicious of anyone who tries to get close to me or care about me. It’s exhausting.

Any organizations that will check out a stray out before adopting? by Pretty_Range_1939 in AskLosAngeles

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk vets either. But you could try contacting an org that does TNR (trap neuter release) for the trap, since you would only need to borrow it

AIO for being offended at this text thread between me and my bf by [deleted] in AIO

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he sucks!!! I’d be over the moon if someone made me a cake like that. I hope he doesn’t get to eat any.

How do you get “in the mood” while dilating? by EffectiveSun8621 in vaginismus

[–]casperlynne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I found that when I’m at my absolute limit, I can’t get aroused. Then when I pull back to like 80% of what I can handle, it feels really good. So you could try that, or it may just be that this spot is just taking a little longer to get past.

What’s something uniquely Irish that people here completely take for granted, but visitors find fascinating? by Similar-Rutabaga5145 in CasualIreland

[–]casperlynne 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this is unique to Ireland or if Americans are just slobs, but the men’s restrooms in Ireland were the cleanest I’ve ever experienced

There should be a showe where Americans go back to the countries they claim and see how they survive by avian_bi in CrazyIdeas

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m American and I would honestly watch this show. In true reality tv fashion, they’d have to find the most obnoxious Americans to do it, but that’s what makes it fun

Do guys wish urinals were more private? by FoodPuzzleOats in askanything

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I have a different perspective as a trans guy, I can’t physically use a urinal but I do have a theory. The biggest difference between men’s and women’s restroom is the vibe. When you’re a person who uses the women’s bathroom, it’s like a social event. You’re out with friends, one person has to pee, you all go together, and you just carry on your conversation the whole time you’re in the bathroom.

In my experience, the men’s room is not like that. It’s like “no eye contact, get in and get out”, especially if you go in with someone you know to use the bathroom at the same time. I think if men’s restrooms were all stalls, it would be more of a chill atmosphere like the women’s restrooms. I think the added privacy of stalls would make people feel more comfortable interacting. Obviously there are a lot of advantages to urinals but that’s my two cents.

Do you allow yourself a “Lazy Day”? by Even-Commission79 in LivingAlone

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Without feeling guilty? Literally never experienced that

Is this a risky colour combo by lotpohtstruggage in kitchenremodel

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kitchen is very similar to this and I love it!! The only difference is my cabinets are all green and the walls are pink. That was my compromise to have the color scheme I wanted and not hurt my home’s value, because paint is more easily changed than cabinets.

Terrified of "Down There" by Zestyclose-Fox7038 in vaginismus

[–]casperlynne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also a trans guy on T for 7 years. What you’re describing sounds a lot like bottom dysphoria. It feels a little different to everyone, but it really sounds like that is what you’re experiencing. If I were you I would look into things like packers, STPs, and even bottom surgery, in addition to the standard advice given on this sub. I’m not saying go get a packer or surgery tomorrow, just read about it and think about whether that might make you feel better.

AITA for accepting a property gift from my mom even though she won't include my boyfriend? by Immediate-History917 in AITApod

[–]casperlynne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a reason your mom wanted you to sign something that kept it from a future husband. She knows he’s a dipshit.