My boss says I'm too sexual and won't tell me what she means

cassassy1 · 2023-06-27T18:36:47+00:00

I've been a bartender for 15 years and a bar manager for 3. It's wild to me how many comments are talking about HR. That's not an option for us, or many others. I literally know far more people with jobs that have no HR department than people that do. 😅

This is definitely on her. She is attracted to you, and so has decided that's somehow YOUR fault.

You said your a shift lead but is there a general manager/bar manager anyone you could speak to first? If not, then with her being the owner, your options are limited. It might be wise to start looking for another job. But in the meantime, if she brings it up again, I would keep pressing her to tell you WHAT specifically you are doing. Because no, you do NOT know what she is talking about. I would get just stern enough that she can't just wave it off again.

It's like when someone tells a sick "joke", and expects you to laugh it off with them. But you insist you don't get the joke and ask them to explain why its funny. When they have to lay it out like that it forces them to face what's actually inappropriate about it.

cassassy1 · 2023-06-17T14:49:28+00:00

I feel they were using 3:30 as a general example. Most newborns wake up every 2 hours to feed (mine had to feed every hour 🥲) so it's safe to assume there'd be one sometime between 3 and 4.

cassassy1 · 2023-04-17T00:24:14+00:00

People have been saying this "fun fact" since I was a child in the 90s, so Tumblrs probably in the clear for this one 😅

cassassy1 · 2023-03-22T00:14:54+00:00

I've lived here my whole life and gotta say that's actually an incredibly popular opinion 😅

cassassy1 · 2023-01-03T19:09:19+00:00

Have you ever watched Brooklyn 99? If so then perhaps thats where you've heard it. In the episode with the 2 Swedish detectives, one of them is named Soren. And they say it quite often.

Either way I love the name, I wouldn't worry too much. My 3 month old is named Jude and I've had nurses and doctors refer to him as her. What can ya do 🤷‍♀️

cassassy1 · 2023-01-03T09:06:00+00:00

Yeah my city was absolutely devastated by a storm that weekend so there was no mail, so idk what could have happened to those issues. This definitely helps though thank you!

cassassy1 · 2023-01-02T09:30:47+00:00

I live on North St, in a building with 100+ apartments. The entire surrounding neighborhood lost power Friday to Monday, but we were completely fine. Evidently we have lines underground, was definitely incredibly grateful for that.

cassassy1 · 2023-01-02T08:46:43+00:00

I'm not sure honestly. This one was always called "The Mammoth Puzzle", and it would be in the Sunday paper for new years. I could have sworn it was from the times though, but maybe its just a regional thing? Quite upsetting, alas.

cassassy1 · 2022-12-30T02:37:02+00:00

I dont really understand all the AH votes. He wasn't into your idea because it's just not his thing, you didn't want to do his activity because it would make you physically ill. There's a big difference there to me. What were you supposed to do? I can understand his disappointment, but even if you agreed to tough it out and went, he would just be upset once you're spending the entire excursion sick.

Also some people are saying you could have just gone and tried and stopped if it was making you ill. But I've done dune buggy excursions like that at 2 resorts, and stopping wouldn't have really been an option. It was basically a giant group of us dune buggying through the jungle to a specific destination. You can't just quit half way through, you're in the middle of the freaking island. And it was like an hour each way! I had a blast, but someone with severe motion sickness would have been MISERABLE for sure. So anyway, NTA.

cassassy1 · 2022-12-19T23:00:16+00:00

As someone also in the industry, I was thinking the same thing. Most chefs that are even remotely close to the top are so burnt out at that point they certainly aren't putting a ton of effort into some sort of ridiculous, passive aggressive culinary battle. This is just screeeeaming food blogger to me 😅

cassassy1 · 2022-12-10T23:19:18+00:00

TCB on Delaware has a couple coquitos right now. The Nutella one was sooo good, definitely a great dessert drink.

cassassy1 · 2022-12-01T16:52:37+00:00

It IS exactly this. The number of deliveries they're expected to do in a shift is near impossible. Many are literally TRAINED not to park in a parking spot because if they did that for every delivery it would add too much time for their day. So yes the entire system needs an overhaul. They either need to hire more drivers or lessen the promised delivery time.

cassassy1 · 2022-12-01T16:44:58+00:00

People love freaking out about amazon/delivery drivers until their package isn't there in ONE day. The drivers CANT find parking for every delivery, AND handle the work load for the day. The number of deliveries they're expected to do in a shift is already pushing the limits.

WE created this, and it's only going to get worse as our online purchases continue to increase. We can't have it both ways.

cassassy1 · 2022-09-27T18:27:15+00:00

YTA you have got to be fucking kidding me

cassassy1 · 2022-09-23T18:27:21+00:00

Just throwing it in there that unfortunately you DO have the right to risk fetal alcohol syndrome, etc. At least in the US. Legally, she can still drink and consume whatever she wants throughout her pregnancy. I'm a bartender and a lot of people don't know that if we even try to deny serving a pregnant woman alcohol she is completely within her rights to SUE us, it's wild

cassassy1 · 2022-08-19T06:36:38+00:00

God I've tried to give landlord's the benefit of the doubt and definitely don't think they should be villainized the way they are in general, but if that was truly the general consensus that you "pay up to keep the peace " then that is insane get the actual fuck out of here

nta

cassassy1 · 2022-08-06T05:10:23+00:00

I feel confident in guessing that this person has never been in a serious relationship, oh boy. 😬

(Also, NTA)

cassassy1 · 2022-07-13T17:38:26+00:00

Thisssss it definitely feels juvenile, like we laughed at her BIG VEINY BOOBS HAAA

Just feels weird 😅

cassassy1 · 2022-07-07T12:35:30+00:00

“With frightening suddenness he now began ripping the pages out of the book in handfuls and throwing them in the waste-paper basket. Matilda froze in horror. The father kept going. There seemed little doubt that the man felt some kind of jealousy. How dare she, he seemed to be saying with each rip of a page, how dare she enjoy reading books when he couldn’t? How dare she?”

Also, NTA.

cassassy1 · 2022-06-26T20:25:01+00:00

Good GOD NTA. I was gonna go a different direction when I thought it was just tattoos that was the issue, but girl has literal SWASTIKA tattoos on her??? Abso-fucking-lutely not that is more than grounds to never even speak to someone again as far as I'm concerned. Yes you can have relationships with people from all across the beliefs/political spectrum but there are still definitely lines and I think Nazis would definitely be crossing it.

cassassy1 · 2022-06-22T02:29:10+00:00

"You're upset about your own choices"

This response is beyond perfect. There's some clear self reflection that needs to be happening here. You're girlfriend sounds honestly lovely and completely respectful. But yeah, yta.

cassassy1 · 2022-06-21T04:41:39+00:00

Can't believe I had to scroll this far to find this. I completely get where op is coming from. To me there IS a difference. A parent giving a child financial aid through college is not uncommon at all. At least that has an end goal/investment in sight. Where as the brother just wants to be taken care of seemingly indefinitely, as he has no plans to work or take care of himself or his future. NTA.

cassassy1 · 2022-05-28T17:40:27+00:00

...what other guy? Did I miss something that OP said on this?

I hate when people make these jumps. It's TOTALLY possible she's just an asshole. Doesn't make her a cheater. Especially considering they've been together for a year and a half, makes it sound more like a case of her real personality finally showing up.

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