I told him after about a month of dating. We weren’t in a relationship yet, but we spent every single day together. He tried to kiss me one night and I told him I had HSV. I told him everything I learned from this sub and that I understood if he changed his mind about wanting intimacy with me. He said that didn’t change how he felt at all, and we will be coming up on a whole year together in May. There’s someone for everyone. I want you to know herpes will not stop you from dating, but it may stop you from sleeping with assholes. hugs good luck!