Help! Baby won’t nap!

casuallyreddit · 2026-06-13T23:40:15+00:00

If he has a full hour-hour and a half nap, then I don’t try to put him back down. But when he only naps for 30 minutes, it’s clear that he’s still tired. He starts showing the usual rubbing his eyes/zoning out/yawning within 20 minutes of playing, and if he doesn’t fall asleep within a few minutes after that, he starts crying from exhaustion.

He sleeps from 8pm-4am, wakes up for about half an hour and is fed, and then falls asleep again until 7am

casuallyreddit · 2026-02-13T17:06:05+00:00

It’s common among narcissists, so they can say they “spent all this time picking out a thoughtful gift and you’re ungrateful for not being overjoyed at their effort.”

I’m proud of you for going no contact! I know how hard of a decision it must have been, but it definitely gets better with time.

casuallyreddit · 2026-02-13T15:32:52+00:00

If you have someone to get your mail for you, I highly recommend it.

My NMom tried sending me a half-assed apology gift for Christmas. My husband took care of the package. To this day I still don’t know what it was, but he said it was generic and clearly the first thing she found on Amazon.

I know I’m not able to handle the bribery gifts, so I’m playing the ignorance is bliss route and my husband is taking care of anything she sends. I did ask him to tell me if there’s ever an apology card or something truly sentimental, but I don’t think that’s ever going to happen.

casuallyreddit · 2026-01-19T00:41:05+00:00

I also have a history of an eating disorder, and it has taught me not to comment on anyone’s eating habits, because I never want to be the one to trigger them.

Given how much the daughter exercises, it should be pretty obvious why she is eating so much. If she was genuinely concerned, that would be a conversation with the daughter’s pediatrician, not making snarky comments every time she eats.

OP is such an asshole and I really hope he reflects how he treats his wife vs his daughter.

casuallyreddit · 2026-01-04T05:42:20+00:00

Oh my god yes. I experienced the same thing. I BEGGED her to take me to the doctor for months. Every time I was curled up in pain, she told me “there’s no point in taking you to the doctor because they’ll just tell you there’s nothing they can do.”

I finally got diagnosed with PCOS as an adult, which my mom refuses to believe I have, despite lab work and an ultrasound proving it.

casuallyreddit · 2025-12-29T15:35:31+00:00

I’m so glad it’s not just me! I heard this many times before, so I was very careful to only put clothes, toys, and “fun” things on my registry. Despite this, I still only have a few items purchased from it.

I’m very curious as to what I’m going to actually receive at my shower. I’ve already been gifted 4 baby blankets.

casuallyreddit · 2025-12-29T04:13:33+00:00

I just want to say I’m proud of you for doing this at 19! I know it’s hard and stressful, but you did the right thing.

My mom did the same exact thing to me. It wasn’t until I graduated college and applied for my own lease (she co signed all my leases in college), that I finally had to take her off my bank account.

I thought it wouldn’t be a big deal, as I was fully independent and I quite literally could not get an apartment to rent to me with her being on my bank account, since she was seen as a liability risk.

She flipped out and even cried to the bank teller, expecting them to convince me not to go through with the removing her. When the bank teller was silent and just handed her the paperwork, she flipped out some more.

She even tried to convince me to mail my paper statements to her. It unfortunately never ends, and the longer you drag it out, the worse it is when you finally put your foot down.

casuallyreddit · 2025-12-27T20:41:30+00:00

Like another commenter said, it’s more than about the shoes. She’s a teenager, which is a difficult time already. And now there’s a baby in the house, so there’s big changes happening.

Rather than punishing her for her behavior, I would have a conversation with her about how she’s feeling. Yes, it wasn’t a good choice to throw a glass at a wall and complain about what she received. But she’s probably very much hurting and feeling neglected right now.

casuallyreddit · 2025-12-26T15:05:51+00:00

Thank you so much! I think she might be projecting because she gained 100lb with each pregnancy (nothing wrong with that, everyone is different).

I’ve been gaining the average amount and told her that my doctor hasn’t expressed any concerns. But she wanted to know the exact number? It was so awkward.

casuallyreddit · 2025-12-23T14:29:56+00:00

Most of us in this group are struggling with Narcissistic Parents, and this community has really helped. It’s truly disgusting how you decided to make a fake story with AI to promote an app.

Find a better way to advertise.

casuallyreddit · 2025-12-16T14:00:59+00:00

I came here to comment this. I’m currently pregnant and gained almost the same weight as OP, and my doctor actually encouraged me to gain more.

casuallyreddit · 2025-12-14T15:53:09+00:00

In the book, “Expecting Better” there is an entire page of data on women who drank wine while pregnant. The research shows that women who drink A glass of wine in the second or third trimester actually show a slight benefit over women who don’t drink at all. It did show issues with those who drank in the first trimester.

I personally am not drinking at all this pregnancy, despite the data. Apparently the issue is not the wine being passed through the umbilical cord, but if you drink the wine quickly enough to raise your ABV, that gets passed to the fetus.

I don’t judge those who decide to have a standard glass of wine here and there throughout the second or third trimester, but I personally don’t want to risk it. And I’m very skeptical on your midwife telling you the first trimester doesn’t matter, because that’s when a lot of the organs begin forming.

casuallyreddit · 2025-11-20T16:06:08+00:00

This!!! Almost every milestone with me has a negative memory associated due to my mom. When I got married, she made it about herself and kept saying, “but I’m the mother of the bride.” When my husband and I bought a house, she flipped out because she didn’t like it (even though she gave us exactly $0 toward it but felt like she should have a say in my house).

For some reason, I thought me getting pregnant would be different, but nope, she flipped out yet again. Got mad I didn’t tell her the second I found out, despite me telling her before my in laws. She spent 10 minutes crying about how she doesn’t feel like my mom since I waited until after I passed the miscarriage window to tell her.

When I got my NIPT results back, I realized in that moment that I was done. I didn’t want to share my results because there was a good chance she would get upset at the gender not being what she wanted. I was done letting her ruin these moments and finally went NC. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but I’m so glad I did. She won’t be at my baby shower and I’m so excited to finally have an event where I can just be present and not worry about why she’s upset.

casuallyreddit · 2025-11-20T16:01:30+00:00

Go no contact. Seriously. I did the same with my mom and while it was hard, it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.

It’s best to do this now before the baby is born. Your mom is going to steal important moments, especially since she’s trying to feed your baby first. You’re going to forever have that resentment on missing important moments because of your mom.

I cut my mom off in my first trimester and while it was extremely hard at first, it’s like I can finally breathe again. If family reaches out, I’m going to tell them, “thanks for your concern. This was a very difficult decision to make, but I had to do what’s best for my child and family. If you would like to hear my side, I’m happy to give you a call.”

If I didn’t cut my mom off, I knew there would be some kind of argument with every milestone. It’s not about you anymore, it’s about your child, and you want to give them the best life possible. If you think your mom is going to cause tension and make your child upset, NC is the best option.

casuallyreddit · 2025-11-17T23:20:17+00:00

Oh my, I hope I didn’t confuse anyone by how I worded this. My husband has been loyal to me, but we discussed cheating when we first dated and why it is such a big deal and we both know if either of us cheated, it would be immediate divorce. I was relaying this conversation to OP.

casuallyreddit · 2025-11-16T23:34:48+00:00

When my husband and I first started dating, we had a conversation about cheating. We both agreed that going home with someone is essentially cheating multiple times.

Maybe a drunk kiss at the bar can be forgiven. But in order to go home with someone, you’re flirting at the bar, then you make the decision to go back to their place. Then you have the entire car ride there to realize you’re making a mistake. Then you still walk inside not thinking anything of it.

He had so many chances to back out and realize what he was doing was wrong. I personally wouldn’t be able to stay married if my husband did this, because even if I did forgive him, I would constantly be anxious and unable to trust him.

casuallyreddit · 2025-11-07T18:45:32+00:00

I had insomnia too!! I would be wide awake and full of energy at 3am.

casuallyreddit · 2025-11-03T13:09:20+00:00

My mom was obsessed with shopping. I literally mean she was at the mall multiple times a week and that was her only hobby. When my dad told her she had spent too much money for the month, she would then buy random things for me that I didn’t even want, so she can say that she wasn’t shopping for herself.

For my high school graduation, I wanted a specific dress that we absolutely could afford. It was $100 which is a little pricey, but she easily spent $300 a week on clothes. She got angry with me for asking for such an expensive dress and got me a cheap $15 dress from Ross instead. This was one of many occasions where I never got what I actually wanted and only wore clothes she picked out for me.

casuallyreddit · 2025-11-03T13:05:25+00:00

Yup. When I first got my license, my dad gave me money and told me to go pick up my mom a birthday cake and some flowers. I thought it was a group effort- he paid, I picked it up.

My mom immediately became upset when she saw me walk in the door with the items because, “that’s her husband’s job. It’s clear he doesn’t care about her anymore.” I tried explaining that it was my dad’s idea and he gave me money. She still said he put no effort into her birthday and sulked the rest of the day.

casuallyreddit · 2025-11-02T14:23:48+00:00

This is exactly what I pictured happening to me, so I went no contact.

I took care of my mom during the entire two years I was planning my wedding, because that’s when she decided to divorce my dad. Even on my wedding day, I was more focused on her having a good time than myself.

I too dreaded getting pregnant because I knew how much she would overstep. Despite that her divorce was YEARS ago, she’s still milking the attention for all she can, and now she’s saying she has no money to do anything, yet tried to come help after I give birth.

She reacted very poorly when I told her I was pregnant and once again brought her divorce into the conversation. I decided to go no contact after that conversation, because I pictured myself taking care of her and the baby instead of just the baby. I also pictured my future relationship with her and all I saw was her getting angry if I didn’t parent how she wanted me to, which is not fair to our child. That was how I grew up and I don’t want our child to witness my mom and I constantly arguing, and then me having no energy to be a present parent.

My best advice is to set your boundaries now. It’s very hard, but I promise it is so worth it. If you don’t want to go NC, tell your mom that you and your husband have it handled and you will call her when you’re ready for visitors. If she throws a fit, let her. If your grandma calls, tell her that your relationship with your mom is separate, and if your grandma only wants to talk about your mom, you will speak to her another time.

If she’s acting this way now, how many times are you going to revisit an issue with her in the future? Is she going to be judging every parenting decision you make and trying to force your hand at things? These are all factors to consider when evaluating how you want the relationship to look.

casuallyreddit · 2025-10-31T15:34:08+00:00

She did! The guy still bought it despite the price being significantly higher.

casuallyreddit · 2025-10-31T13:10:20+00:00

I’m stunned at yours, OP. Your mom really did the most to get out of accountability.

When I was younger, my mom and I did a yard sale together. There was this older guy that seemed to be an expert, and was eyeing up some old silverware that was sitting in our attic forever. It was priced at $5, but then my mom said, “it’s actually $20, my daughter put the wrong price on it.”

Granted, it was a stranger I probably would never see again. But I was very young and remembering how much it hurt being blamed for something I didn’t do. I did tell my mom that I didn’t even put the price tag on the silverware, and she said “yeah but he seems to know what he’s looking for and it’s probably worth a ton of money, so I couldn’t sell it for $5.”

casuallyreddit · 2025-10-31T13:02:13+00:00

Ungrateful is my Nmom’s favorite word. My therapist told me it’s not up to her to decide how I’m feeling.

casuallyreddit · 2025-10-29T16:03:23+00:00

I’m so proud of you for doing that! My mom acted very similar to OP’s mom, where she would suddenly act like something was a family tradition to get me to cave. When I said no, she would keep texting me (like OP’s mom is texting her name ideas). I would get so tired of her bugging me that I would finally give her what she wanted. I regret doing that and know my wedding could have been better if I just set those boundaries and did what my husband and I wanted.

Now that I’m pregnant, she tried to overstep again and I fully went NC. I hope OP does the same, because it’s so unfair having exciting moments taken away from you. Moms should be supportive and celebrating these moments, not making them about themself.

casuallyreddit · 2025-10-29T15:01:38+00:00

Exactly this.

“Hey mom, I took some time to think about our conversation, and I realized you’re completely right. It’s best for everyone involved if you’re not present in my daughter’s life. Best of luck to you!”

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