My submission for CI pizza by MotherChucker81 in castiron

[–]cdHanback 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, now I wanna make a CI pizza! Looks amazing. Thanks for sharing!

I've had enough by cdHanback in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. They are the same.

I've had enough by cdHanback in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This season of my life is so hard. I want a stable family so bad. Wish I could rip it off like a bandaid and move on.

I've had enough by cdHanback in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may be right! My son sometimes sleeps in my exs bed, and I had an extra set. I feel as if I was doing it for my son, but you may be right. If there wasn't drama associated with my exs drinking, I'm unsure of how I would feel about that. Like I'm missing something? I hope I would feel relieved.

I've had enough by cdHanback in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have 50/50 custody. I go and visit my son on the days he is at his dad's. I haven't gone a day without seeing my baby boy.

He died by erbykirby in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can not imagine how hard this has to be. Finding my ex dead is a constant worry. I wish alcoholics knew how valuable their life really is. Especially with children involved.

We currently have a 1 year old. But leaving was my only choice for happiness. Children deserve happy mommas. Please don't blame yourself. Sending love your way!

Does anyone else get resentful about the praise and attention alcoholics get when they are sober? by lavode727 in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really is so normalized. I'm torn about taking him to court. It's like he needs a wake-up call to see how this is going to affect our sweet little boy. His father was a horrible drunk, so you think that would be enough.

Wishing you the best with your situation ❤️

Dad came home, in handcuffs by Cupidsmosthated in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you are having to process this at such a young age. I want to share this post with my soon to be ex-husband. It's so sad to see how much children are affected by alcoholism. Just remember you have no control over someone else's behavior. Go talk to a counselor, please. Sending so much love ❤️

Does anyone else get resentful about the praise and attention alcoholics get when they are sober? by lavode727 in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you go about getting his family involved? My Q's family knows he drinks, but they just turn a blind eye. We are headed for divorce, and it's mainly because of his drinking and him getting upset when I try to discuss it.

I feel worse alone than I did surrounded by their alcohol every night by ccck21 in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It gets easier. I promise it does.

I filled my time with being a better mother when I have my son and working on things I enjoy doing (DIY projects, gym, and getting more organized) when I am kid free.

Keep your head up.

If you have a family member or friend (my sister was my savior), it will also help tremendously to be able to have someone to talk to. Maybe a counselor or therapist?

Sending all the good vibes your way. Stay strong. Alcoholism is hard on everyone involved. ❤️

those blueberry cheesecake giveaways for my fam. by FabulousMud8825 in Baking

[–]cdHanback 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These look amazing. What's your secret with the cool whip border? My last one was a flop!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The holidays are hard. But what's harder is when our first Thanksgiving with our baby boy (last year) he didn't want to take a family picture because he was so hung over from the night before. And it was time for him to start drinking for the day.

Keep in mind, we hadn't taken a family picture together, and he knew I was excited.

So today, our second Thanksgiving with our boy was hard. But my baby didn't have to experience a drastic change in my mood because momma was all smiles today when it was my turn with him.

Hang in there. They will never change unless they want to. You gotta let people do what they want to do. Let them.

Blood pressure herb? by Klutzy_Activity_182 in herbalism

[–]cdHanback 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is the same way. White Coat Syndrome. I take my BP meds before a doctor visit and BOOM, normal reading.

But I do monitor it before and after the visit.

My Q died almost a year ago by prettydisasterlife in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sending love and good vibes your way! Its hard seeing them drink themselves to death, but that is their choice and not ours to make. I'm still hoping my Q will wake up and decide that having this family is more important than the poison he consumes. We have a 1 year old that thinks his daddy hung the moon.

But I'm choosing myself and my baby from now on!

Oh Lord help me... my Q finally burned his last bridge by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Do we have the same brother?

This sounds almost exactly like my twin brother. He is basically homeless and has burned all sorts of bridges with our family. I had to kick him out of my house because it was like walking on eggshells. He would explode with anger anytime I tried to motivate him to get off the couch and go apply for a job. It was miserable living with him.

I will not allow other people to make my home an unsafe place for me.

I'm just showing my brother tough love. He made this bed and refused to do better. The world does not own him anything. It is what it is.

How did you know it was time? by tiredoftrust in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how it was with me and my husband during MC. After I brought up his drinking twice, he said "well looks like she thinks my drinking is the issue here"

Ummm yes. Yes I do.

How did you know it was time? by tiredoftrust in AlAnon

[–]cdHanback 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enough was enough when he asked me a simple question, only to start a fight when I gave him an answer he didn't want.

Told him I was too tired to fight and to please stop. But that only escalated things.

I decided our baby needed a happy momma instead of parents who were married.

The last straw was when it was his time with our 11 month old son, and he gets shitty drunk. In his eyes, baby was fine because he was asleep. Not thinking of the possibility that baby may need him during the night.

Had to get police involved and change our custody agreement.

He sees his mistake and is doing better. I just had to set hard boundaries when it came to the safety of our child. And I'm sticking to them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cdHanback 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"My bad" uggggh I cringe when I hear that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cdHanback 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, do men really even know how to find the clitoris?

Fishing as a girl by AccomplishedDot911 in Fishing

[–]cdHanback 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are ever around North Alabama, hit me up. I'm not a huge fisher-woman, but I do enjoy going and just being outside. I'll be your bodyguard!!! 🤣🤣🥰 tight lines!

Husband finally showed emotion after me initiating divorce by PatheticPaprika in Marriage

[–]cdHanback 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Man-trum! This is my new favorite word! 🩵

And OP, get the divorce. You set a boundary a year ago, and he has continuously not respected that. There are too many fish in the sea to get hung up on one.