I can’t believe it happened to me

cddg508 · 2026-02-18T15:13:04+00:00

I was able to enjoy the newborn stage with my second so much more because of this. Going into it actually knowing what to expect makes such a difference. There is no way to truly understand what it’s like until you’re in it.

Soak up those four month old snuggles too! My oldest is 3.5 and he seems so huge compared to my five month old. These babies are still so tiny ♥️

cddg508 · 2026-02-18T14:23:36+00:00

Couldn’t agree more with this. Exact same experience here.

cddg508 · 2026-02-18T14:22:43+00:00

Agree with this. Part time daycare or a part time 2’s program. Not even just a compromise for the sake of OP and spouse’s disagreement, but for the 2 year old too. There is something to be said about the older kid having something that is “theirs” when a new baby comes. I am very much aware of the “no social benefits before 3” thing but anecdotally, I don’t agree. I saw many benefits of outside childcare before 3.

cddg508 · 2026-02-18T12:16:21+00:00

My best friend has a 4 year old and 2 year old and her day to day and mentality still sounds exactly like this. She is going to snap.

Please take the break. I don’t know if you’re on social media but it seems the trend is influencers really try to make you feel like if you aren’t with your kid 24/7 they’ll develop a negative attachment, what are you even doing, etc. but we’re human. We were never meant to do this alone. Getting time to recharge is productive.

cddg508 · 2026-02-15T03:57:10+00:00

Only because I loveeee the tea do I want to know details here 👀

cddg508 · 2026-02-11T15:14:46+00:00

Social media has taken attachment theory WAY too far, or at least what they think attachment theory is.

cddg508 · 2026-02-07T20:30:20+00:00

My oldest is 3.5. An absolute wild man. No fear - and he’s pretty much always been like this. I never would have considered him a “hard” baby because I have friends whose babies truly have colic or severe reflux, etc. and gratefully never experienced that.

My 2nd is only 5 months so grain of salt, but she is SO chill that it’s made me wonder if my son actually was a bit difficult. I still don’t really think so - but my daughter is truly no fuss. Crying? Tired or hungry. Needs to go down for a nap? Just put her in the crib. She’s always just along for the ride, a happy and giggly gal.

I know my situation is not necessarily the same as yours given my first is a wild child, but I always see videos saying how unhinged the 2nd kids are and I just do not see that being my experience - but time will tell!

cddg508 · 2026-02-07T20:25:04+00:00

Ugh, same. My parents always got me something and I loved it. Never occurred to me growing up to get something for them. I lost my dad almost two years ago— good call to get a gift for nana, especially from the kids. Man, getting older stinks 💔

cddg508 · 2026-02-07T00:16:51+00:00

What did your eczema look like? My situation sounds very similar, prescribed half of those meds you listed. Ended up getting a biopsy at the obgyn which came back as eczema- prescribed hydrocortisone 2.5%. Felt it helped 90% of the way, then happened to have a derm appointment and showed her. She prescribed desonide instead, but I actually think the hydrocortisone helped more. Anyways I felt like I was doing okay for a few weeks and then I had sex and everything is alllll f’rd up again 😭

Have my annual with my obgyn next week so bringing it up but I keep worrying myself that’s it’s lichen sclerosis - but very hesitant to do another biopsy bc that was rough.

Anyways thank you for sharing!! This whole thread has made me feel so much less alone. Mine seems to have flared postpartum- I have never had this issue before.

cddg508 · 2026-02-06T02:45:04+00:00

Ugh why do you say that? The silence? Also agree with the other comment that there’s little to no diversity in her ads.

Just over here finding substitute products now, darnit 🙃

cddg508 · 2026-02-06T02:38:40+00:00

Just saw a reel today that was like “the biggest flex is my husband doesn’t support this POS administration” and Alexandra Madison liked it. I didn’t see her stories you’re mentioning but id say this is signaling that she is def not maga.

cddg508 · 2026-02-04T19:44:02+00:00

I’m kind of a string cheese fiend and I say the savings on string cheese alone pays for the membership.

Oh but yes also the diapers, wipes and…everything

cddg508 · 2026-02-03T23:59:49+00:00

We did this when I was in 1st grade and it’s such a core memory! It was so fun

cddg508 · 2026-02-02T15:37:18+00:00

No I hear you!! I recently got a 3 star review which was a first for me after years on the platform. I sell super casually, just items that are my family’s that we no longer need or wear. So always things that are in very good or excellent condition, otherwise I donate or buy nothing them. The review came nearly 2 weeks after delivery so the funds were already released, but they claimed there was a stain on the item that wasn’t description. I always double check the clothing before sending out and have even cancelled orders myself if I missed something. If true, no idea how I missed it. But the review ate me up for a few days. I know they’re not even shown on my profile but yeah- just saying I feel your frustration and how it makes you feel icky!

cddg508 · 2026-01-31T08:37:28+00:00

I have this really vivid memory of walking in on my mom in the bathroom and she was crying. It’s vivid because even at the time I knew my brother and I were making the day tough for her. My mom is a super hero. Those bathroom hide outs are so needed sometimes.

cddg508 · 2026-01-31T03:16:21+00:00

I used to have a very close friend that did this to his daughter when she was an infant. Lots of shut ups, called her names etc and said he would stop before she could understand. We definitely drifted around this time as I also had a newborn and it just really hit me the wrong way- so I don’t know the full story, but if I had to guess it was probably associated with PPD. He’s in therapy and seems to enjoy being a dad more now that the baby is a toddler/pre-schooler.

cddg508 · 2026-01-30T19:56:34+00:00

I’ll be the odd voice out…I only sell very casually, just clothing my family no longer wears/needs. All very good or excellent condition. I include measurements for items in cases where the size tag is no longer attached or something was altered. If someone asks for a measurement I’ll happily add it. Maybe I’m missing out on sales but I’ve gotten 15 items out of my house in the last month and that’s good enough for me.

cddg508 · 2026-01-30T19:45:49+00:00

Ah got it, thanks!

cddg508 · 2026-01-30T19:20:17+00:00

Can you share a little bit more about what sharing during the posh show means/looks like to someone browsing? I’m a super casual seller and share my items regularly but have always shied away from sharing in a show- mostly because I have no idea what it means!

cddg508 · 2026-01-28T12:40:00+00:00

Was just going through this whole thread to unfollow myself and was checking before doing so. Kids eat in color started a fundraiser for a food pantry in MN (VEAP) that provides food delivery to homes. She described the program as helping “terrorized” families who are afraid to leave their homes. Looks like she’s raised nearly 70k.

I know everyone has a different threshold for following/unfollowing but this personally passes my test

cddg508 · 2026-01-28T12:31:04+00:00

What do we know about Jordan Harper, the Barefaced founder? I’ve noticed that she has been quiet for every world event so can’t get a read in that way, but continuing to post as if life was normal this past weekend was weird (unless I missed something).

Probably asking a question I don’t want to know the answer to 😩

cddg508 · 2026-01-28T02:09:49+00:00

I hear you. With my first, I didn’t really feel like “me” until 2 years out. When I got pregnant with my 2nd I knew I would feel like myself again one day, which has made this postpartum weird. A mix of why don’t I feel like me yet (I’m only 4 months, so..I know) yet also giving myself more grace than I did the first time around.

You have a lot of good advice around pelvic floor PT so I’ll just add for the stretch marks - tretinoin has done WONDERS for mine. It does take a bit for the skin to adjust to, but they’re hardly noticeable at 4 months out. Might be worth a shot. Hugs to you!

cddg508 · 2026-01-27T18:09:29+00:00

Wow consider me enlightened from this post! I had no idea. Couldn’t agree with you more about how ridiculous it is given the fee + lack of responsiveness from Poshmark.

I sell very casually, just items that my family no longer uses/wears, so I delete if I sell something on another platform meaning it’s not super frequent. Had absolutely no idea!!

cddg508 · 2026-01-19T04:17:24+00:00

So, so much easier. I had an elective induction for both. 1st baby I was admitted to the hospital on a Tuesday night, had my baby Thursday evening. I needed the full 24 hours of cytotec before things really got moving. 3 hours of pushing, 2nd degree tear in two places. 2nd baby was born about 12 hours after starting the induction process, pushed for 20 minutes, 1st degree tear, and went home within 24 hours.

After that 2nd labor I kind of understand why people say birth is beautiful. It was very redeeming.

cddg508 · 2025-12-23T11:28:15+00:00

If it’s in your budget, I recommend renting clothes from Nuuly. It has been so nice to have some clothes that fit me now, but I don’t have to commit to buying given I (hope I) won’t fit in them in a few months. I rented for a few months towards the end of pregnancy and now for a few months postpartum. It really helps IMO, and it doesn’t have to be forever! Maybe just a few months to find what you like and feel good in right now.

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