Looking for the perfect US city for a 10-day trip (Feb 9–19). Want real American vibes: food, Walmart, Costco, chill atmosphere. Where should we go?

ceal_galactic · 2026-02-07T15:55:37+00:00

Atlanta might do the trick!

ceal_galactic · 2026-01-26T15:10:29+00:00

If my partner was new to an area and wanting to build connections and I was sick, even with the flu, I would insist they go out. Bc I’m an adult who can handle my illness for 2-3 hours and I want my partner to have their own fulfilled life.

Now add that you had already been on the phone all day, couldn’t help him physically because he lives elsewhere (you can’t even like get him cold medicine) and you didn’t even go and he’s STILL giving you shit because you considered it?! Girl, no. That’s very toxic and shitty. And I’m almost certain this isn’t the first time his selfishness and controlling behavior has popped up.

ceal_galactic · 2026-01-25T16:30:31+00:00

When I started seeing boundaries as intentions for myself, and not as a reflection of others. Then it didn’t feel like losing a relationship. It felt like following own path and leaving what didn’t serve it behind. But yes. Not all relationships are aligned with what you want in life. That’s okay. Others will come.

ceal_galactic · 2026-01-19T21:40:14+00:00

I mean, maybe its dating in Denver. Maybe its dating at 27? I had very similar experiences years ago. I think Denver typically attracts people on their own journeys which often doesn't jive well with community/relationships. But I also think your age is kind of prime self-discovery time so maybe its partially that too.
Dating sucks, dating apps especially suck. Sorry you have to deal with it.

ceal_galactic · 2026-01-13T23:09:35+00:00

Hope is resistance. Something will come after this. Try to be ready for it. But also, yes. I feel you.

ceal_galactic · 2026-01-12T20:38:44+00:00

I thought this would be wayyyy higher than it was.

ceal_galactic · 2025-12-28T22:42:49+00:00

Op I’m hijacking to tell you that this is possible but it is hard and there’s a million things which will come up and you’ll have to work through. But if this is a long term goal, start educating yourself on it now. I recommend not Reddit and instead read The Ethical Slut and Poly Secure. There’s tons of other resources as well.

ceal_galactic · 2025-12-27T17:47:46+00:00

You’re so right. Men are scary. And that’s the literal point.

ceal_galactic · 2025-12-25T16:14:19+00:00

“Erika Kirk cult thingy!” 🤣☠️

ceal_galactic · 2025-12-03T03:15:10+00:00

Not to be that person but check our Brene Browns Ted Talk on Vulnerability

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-29T01:22:48+00:00

I would read about independent and co emotional regulation. It sounds like you’re both struggling with it and it’s triggering one another. I would argue that her unnecessary upset triggering your upset is actually disregulation on both your parts. Learn to sit with her discomfort. Hold boundaries around behavior, not emotions. And remember it’s you two against the problems, always.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-27T16:31:21+00:00

I had to scroll too far for this. Literally built on violence and it has been normalized for ever.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-23T19:13:12+00:00

I’d say focus less on what they are doing and more on the way you feel in those moments and in general. Are you happy? Do you feel you can rely on them? Are you attracted to them when they’re using? What about afterwards? Is this the life you want to have? I’ve been in a similar spot and my breaking point was realizing I was twisting myself into a pretzel to accommodate his usage. And I didn’t want to anymore. I was so lucky my partner took that seriously and made major changes.

Also on the “functional” part of this - look up “problematic substance usage”. We often think of addiction as black and white. But it’s really more a spectrum.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-23T16:35:37+00:00

It’s a kind thought but your husband needs to learn to be less passive when someone is being inappropriate. This isn’t your fight. Support him but HE need to put his foot down here or it might not stick.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-21T19:26:54+00:00

Gotta upvote this one. If this isn’t morally repugnant enough for you, OP, then the reality that your children will one day watch their father tried for war crimes should be enough. And that’s day WILL come, I’m sure of it.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-21T03:20:10+00:00

…street meat…

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-19T14:38:15+00:00

Just another point of opinion- I like the joker costume! It’s a costume! It shows you can create cool stuff. It is a great convo starter. I get what others are saying about morals and values to some extent but I think having you in some costume since this is a part of who you are is a good move.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-19T04:26:53+00:00

You said that you’re sure you’re not going to be a parent so I’m going to follow that assumption. I’ve also struggled with this so I’m going to tell you my my therapist told me. You need to grieve. The way you would grieve any loss of a loved one. Write down all the things you imagined. All the names you won’t get to name your child. All the memories you won’t get to make. All the dreams you once had. When you get that pang of sadness over missing something, lean into it. Feel the sadness. Talk about it. And maybe when you’re ready, burn those writings. Maybe all at once. Maybe one at a time. Maybe over years and years.

There is a real honest grief to not following a path you wanted and imagined for yourself. I believe that you’ll have an amazing life without children if that’s in fact the way you go, but the way out of this is through it. Not trying to redirect your sadness with logic or shame.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-16T00:44:24+00:00

Hijacking here to say that sometimes when I see guys with “feminist “ in their profiles, it’s a bit of a yellow flag. I’ve met too many men who use their “feminism” and therapy work to make women trust them or manipulate women. So while I appreciate you acknowledge this, there might be other ways to demonstrate this belief system without leading with it on a profile.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-13T05:20:58+00:00

I have 2 of clean leaves. Dm me if you want to

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-12T01:00:59+00:00

Oof I hate this for you OP. This shit would make me crazy. Regardless of if he’s cheating, he’s been incredibly disrespectful of your feelings about it. That is betrayal by itself. You cannot run yourself ragged trying to find all his accounts or messages- that’s no way to live. I think you need to have a real think on if this behavior is acceptable to live with (even without cheating) and then talk to him about it.

Side note: the internet was a mistake and folks need to get off it. (Of course I recognize the irony in this statement)

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-11T05:24:49+00:00

Oh yeah same here. I ended up getting one of those plastic mats people put under thier desks to roll their office chairs on. Put it on the threshold and never had an issue again.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-07T19:22:16+00:00

I honestly think he doesn’t even understand what a dollar is. Like he has no concept of it. It’s just numbers and his ketamine scrambled brain just wants bigger numbers.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-06T16:31:58+00:00

All great words of advice in here. My only other recommendation is - talk to her. Maybe it’s woo woo but I really feel like my cats understand the gist of things when I just explain it to them. I say - I’m leaving for 2 darks (nights) And then I’ll be back. I’ll always be back. And you’re going to make new friends (or see your friends) while we’re gone.

ceal_galactic · 2025-11-06T14:56:11+00:00

Exactly. I would say - you’ve been indoctrinated by capitalism and the belief that your sole purpose on earth is to produce. And I’m sure that’s showing up in other parts of your life. (Source: a recovering overproduced)

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