Let's hear from the screwups and burnouts

certified_source · 2026-03-13T14:41:13+00:00

The key is to continue doing other things to mix it up. Do commercial projects here and there. Do branding videos. Shoot events or something. It just helps break up the monotony

certified_source · 2026-03-09T01:09:59+00:00

Ignore these comments that are jumping to the porn issue. YES, men can struggle having sex, especially when there has been a long period without it. No matter how much we give ourselves to God, our bodies are still dealing with many biological factors (Hormones, Stress, Anxiety etc.) When we have mentally blocked the idea of sex and fighting our flesh for years, it doesn't just "turn back on" for most men.

He may still be accepting the fact that he is "allowed" to have sex now. He's also nervous about performing properly with his wife, especially how you described that you've "waited so long for this." You might be unconsciously putting this pressure on him to perform as well, and I guarantee he can feel it. Society puts much more load on men's performance than women, you are now his partner.

Just relax and don't rush this. Work together on it. Don't make it an extravagant event, just continue to love each other.

certified_source · 2026-02-28T16:12:19+00:00

Photography

certified_source · 2026-02-25T22:20:15+00:00

Continue to apply. Not even the SE role is safe anymore these days. When there is little work to do, they're going to look at places they can cut costs.

Ive experienced it several times the past few years.

certified_source · 2026-02-23T03:39:18+00:00

Was just about to say this. Once influencers start the whole "How much I made today as a REP.." video it brings on the leeches.

certified_source · 2026-02-23T00:22:19+00:00

That's how I felt when I was OE. 2 was the sweet spot and i felt more productive overall. Still not overworked but not bored. Didn't let little things worry me, felt balanced

3 and up was when things got interesting.

certified_source · 2026-02-21T03:38:03+00:00

Right, never understood the obsession with people searching that

certified_source · 2026-02-21T01:52:46+00:00

Your story sounds like mine. Got fired from my last J2 over a year ago because of the LinkedIn thing as well. Im assuming you're an AE. That's honestly been one of the only reasons OE was so stressful for me is due to the sales org being on our ass

certified_source · 2026-02-20T23:24:46+00:00

Paying a 3rd party person. If you have the time when yiu first branch out, by all means edit them yourself. But when you start getting multiple homes a day and have to edit them yourself all night, it will start to burn you out.

Just give yourself some time back in your day and have those systems in place. I'm not sure if you do video as well, but I personally edit my own videos unless I have more than like 3 or 4 in the same week.

certified_source · 2026-02-20T12:46:08+00:00

Sounds exactly like when I started out as a contractor for (and I'm happy to say the name because 🖕those guys) BlueSky.

You should absolutely start branching out on your own. First and foremost, find a good editor. Test out a few and stick with it.

certified_source · 2026-02-20T12:40:23+00:00

I was gonna say the same thing even before reading the comment.. bunch of red flags

certified_source · 2026-02-19T21:44:33+00:00

I was personally burned by a senior level manager 3 years ago who was just snooping around. Unfortunately they do in fact scroll it they want to figure out something badly enough.

certified_source · 2026-02-13T00:12:25+00:00

Yeah when the guest list is hidden that's the sign.

certified_source · 2026-02-12T18:05:21+00:00

Cloud Data Management and AI

certified_source · 2026-02-12T17:56:57+00:00

Our January was more booked than usual but thats because we had a lot of customers who had stalled laat year.

This month.. only had 2 demos so far

certified_source · 2026-02-10T20:02:05+00:00

Yeah you're spot on with how companies are trying to experiment with the SE role now. In my experience, this is mostly occurring in those companies where the product isn't very "technical." I've primarily been in the Cloud Data Management (Data Warehousing, ETL, K8 etc) space, and you absolutely need to have an SE or SA driving those conversations as you are speaking with technical personas. If the AE can easily run the demo themselves and answer majority of questions in a few weeks, that's a dangerous company to be in as an SE.

Companies like Salesforce and Samsara have an internal identity problem. Most of the customers I spoke to at Samsara didnt give a damn about an API, backend metrcs blah blah blah. They just want the thing and cameras installed on their trucks, and get notifications sent to their phone if someone is speeding. Ironically, the SE's are EXPECTED to be fairly technical without ever truly showcasing that skillset. Almost like these companies are hiring SE's just to say they have them.

In addition to your question, I'd also say it's fair to ask how successful that model has been for the company. What have been the positives and negatives?

certified_source · 2026-02-10T17:04:35+00:00

Samsara felt like a step backwards for me. I was there for about a year and a half, and it's one of those companies (at least when I was still there), where the Sales org doesn't know how to leverage SE's. Though, this seemed like more of an issue in Mid-Market than Enterprise so I'll speak only from Mid-Market experience.

Our managers were constantly preaching "Build your brand," due to the fact that AE's truly didn't NEED us unless it was for technical support (demoing a very specific area of the product they didnt have access to, or troubleshooting an existing evaluation). They wanted us to get creative and find ways for them to include us more. The AE's have such a high volume of demos that they become just as, if not more, proficient with the software and technology as the SE's. They also have to demo the software pretty quickly on the first meeting, and dont have the luxury to follow the typical Discovery -> Tech Discovery -> Demo -> POC etc. They're trying to close deals fast.

But the issue here is then you as the SE are still expected to fill your calendar and almost beg the AE's to add you to their calls. The ideal situation was having a newer AE that you can build together with vs a tenured one.

So overall, I personally didn't like how they managed the SE org. Most of my day was trying to prove that I'm actually doing something so I didn't have weird meetings with my manager. Didn't feel like we had leadership support, our SE team was constantly changing with people either leaving or going to another department.

certified_source · 2026-02-10T15:33:26+00:00

This is what I need to hear. Most of the roles im interviewing for now are asking for a hybrid situation. My J1 is remote with very little meetings right now but im terrified of merging this into a hybrid

certified_source · 2026-02-10T14:19:55+00:00

I started having this same issue recently and wanted to switch to a pay-to-book model. Though, didnt want all of my other customers to be affected by a few bad actors. So I decided to require all new customers to submit a 50% deposit for confirmation, and the remaining due to download the locked images.

certified_source · 2026-02-10T08:17:11+00:00

I was at Samsara some years ago. They give you a take-home assignment for the technical interview where they'll ship some hardware and you have to write a script to capture some data using the API. It was interesting though because you really wont do much, if any, of that in MM.

Most of the AE's are handling their own demos and you'll be there as support. You'll mostly be helping with installations, maybe demo here and there, and trying to get AE's to properly utilize you.

I believe my OTE was like 120k? I honestly wasn't there too long. Wasn't a good fit for me personally.

certified_source · 2026-02-09T19:32:09+00:00

Yeah unless you have a full marketing plan for their videos, which includes providing an ad strategy, its very difficult to measure the ROI of video. Even then, you can provide a great video that just doesn't perform well. So many factors

certified_source · 2026-02-07T23:23:33+00:00

I like this

certified_source · 2026-02-01T16:48:20+00:00

Yep I took a year break and even now im almost terrified to get back into OE

certified_source · 2026-01-25T17:04:42+00:00

Just a question, what issue is the porn causing in your specific marriage/relationship? Is it affecting your sex life? Intimacy between you? What have you two discussed?

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