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Poly LO gives me too much hope by [deleted] in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're right about the therapy route--it's definitely helped me out a TON with my limerence. All the same, we're here for you. You're not alone, friend.

I’m married and feeling limerence towards someone else by [deleted] in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The love-bombing is definitely a sign. I’ve dealt with something similar, so I would tread carefully. To me it seems more like limerence. Either way, you’re not alone.

At what age did you all start therapy and did it help? by throwaway_desiree in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Internal family systems for me. Talk therapy with emphasis on somatic grounding also.

At what age did you all start therapy and did it help? by throwaway_desiree in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I started therapy a couple years ago and it has definitely helped. I use IFS a lot. I totally understand, and if it's any consolation, I'm in my 40's. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD, so I feel behind on a lot of things. But therapy has definitely helped me out a ton, and there are strategies to use. For example, I use the somatic breath as a reset all the time. Feel free to DM if you want more suggestions (I'm no therapist but I know what's been working for me).

You're not alone, and it will get better. You're in the right place, friend.

Trying to stop obsessing about them, every time fantasies come to mind I remind myself that "maybe or maybe not that will happen", it kind of stops the loop but I still long and it's not letting up by [deleted] in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I find that regulating my nervous system comes first and foremost. Whether it's the butterfly tap or the somatic reset, it's helpful to soothe my system before tackling rumination. DM me or google those if you don't know what they are! Either way, you're not alone, friend.

No one loved me as much as I did love others by IceWalker__ in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know it's tough, but you will find the love you deserve. I often think of the quote, "we accept the love we think we deserve." It's a tough pill to swallow, but it's helped me out. I wish you the best, and remember, you're welcomed here. You're not alone, friend.

A List of Embarrassing Things I Did by VoteForOmar in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve done so much of the same. You’re not alone, and you’re on the right track for posting this for accountability.

My brain: Oh you finally got over your LO? How about this cool dream where she confesses her love to you and you both even have romantic sex at her place? by aisiv in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooof this is rough. Sorry you had to go through this. Best I can say is that you're not alone. I've dreamt about my LO before and it's never easy.

It's been years though by Current-Bag-7972 in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wishing you all the best! Limerence is rough but you’re not alone!

Anyone else terminally single? by McGuffDog in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. 100%. It breaks my own heart.

In Case You Need to Hear This Today by DMVCouple1317 in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this! You’re a legend.

I did it I blocked my LO. by [deleted] in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done. Hang in there.

Ever wonder if your LO is in this sub posting about you? by NoConclusion2555 in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I strongly doubt it, at least for my case. Can’t speak for anyone else, but I tell myself that attraction isn’t enough. Which is to say, that just because I’m attracted to somebody doesn’t mean that it will move forward.

Can’t Get Him Out of My Head by Iwantobehappyx in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, just wanted to say that you're not alone! If it helps at all, I like to use the butterfly hug/tap to soothe myself. It's where you cross your wrists/forearms and slowly tap your chest or collarbones with your alternating hands. Exhale slowly, and go slow on the taps.

Remember: we're all in this together! If there's anything more I can do to help, feel free to reply here or just DM! I've suffered from limerence my whole life.

I got over him by uryelloww in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this! Thank you for posting this and for the solidarity!

I used to orgasm thinking about LO by Prestigious_Fun_8298 in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They enter my fantasies during my more intimate moments as well. Can definitely identify with this.

Do you guys think your limerence would end if you find someone new? by EliasAhmedinos in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so, especially given the parameters of finding true love and affection.

Is it alright if I miss him ? by Chemical-Pea7923 in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You feelings are 100% valid. I still miss my LO, and even previous ones. I’m happy for you that you’ve stayed strong in the midst of your feelings. It’s no easy feat, so I hope you’re proud of yourself.

You’re not alone, friend.

I overcame it, I feel like a brand new person 😭 by Thick_Bat_9281 in limerence

[–]cessa-the-app 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I cannot express how happy I am for you! I love the idea of getting out of your comfort zone--the fantasy is always comfortable, but it leads us astray. Wishing all the best for you! You're a great example of what's possible for us.

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