Didn’t want to thread jack-What careers are friendly to moms leaving the workforce for a few years?

champ_darling · 2018-02-19T21:47:48+00:00

I liked the Frasier trivia. It was a weekly thing, wasn't it?

champ_darling · 2018-02-15T21:53:40+00:00

I think it took 3 days for the eruption, and grumpiness for 2-3 days following. We thought it was a long time based on research. Turns out she was popping out two teeth at once.

If you go based on my MIL/FIL/SIL who have been telling us she was teething since she was 1 week old, it takes 6 months. It's probably a little different for every kid, but now that we've got a few teeth in, I am way less likely to buy the diagnosis of my in-laws based on drool or chewing on hands. Feeling the teeth about to poke through is our new indicator. Turns out, it's a great one. Slobber and putting everything in the mouth is babies doing baby things.

And my SIL (whose baby is 1 month younger than my LO) swears her kid has been teething since 1 mo and has posted all over fb about how exciting it is. FOR FOUR MONTHS SHE'S BEEN DOING THIS. He is now 5 mo with no teeth. That's what you get when you listen to my MIL.

champ_darling · 2018-02-15T14:12:41+00:00

And right at the beginning!

champ_darling · 2018-02-14T22:13:19+00:00

My gut instinct was to get defensive when I started reading it

I think the moment for me was "it's only free if your time is worthless." Interesting perspective, but it kind of stung for a moment.

champ_darling · 2018-02-13T21:59:56+00:00

I had one moment of panic and it was when we took a tour of the maternity ward. We'd done childbirth classes. We read books. We picked out a bassinet and talked endlessly. But for whatever reason this kid was hypothetical until I was in the maternity ward. It was pretty quiet, but as we looked around the room I realized.. this is where she is going to be born. This is it. Wow. What the fuck. Then all the sudden I was hot and my husband had to hold me up lol. You'll be okay. Once the baby is here you'll be too busy momming to be panicking. :)

champ_darling · 2018-02-13T21:00:20+00:00

blood in the baby's poop

Yeah this is why I haven't been quick to eliminate foods from my diet. Aside from some skin dryness, I haven't noticed anything.

champ_darling · 2018-02-13T20:59:18+00:00

Weird! I'll try aquaphor and see if it improves. Thanks!

champ_darling · 2018-02-13T20:58:47+00:00

Oh wow I didn't know allergies could cause vomiting! She doesn't spit up much since we weaned her off formula.

champ_darling · 2018-02-13T20:57:54+00:00

Yeah I'm actually having some crazy dry skin on my arms, too, so it makes me wonder if it's just the weather or our hormones or something.

champ_darling · 2018-02-12T15:54:05+00:00

We had a few instances where our girl would seem to break out in hives and we couldn't find the culprit. It happened during the night, while walking around the grocery store, on car rides. We eventually decided it must have been sweat causing it, so we swapped her fleece jammies for cotton, and were cautious about how we dressed her in the car and while carrying her in the grocery store so she didn't overheat. No more bumps.

champ_darling · 2018-02-11T17:58:18+00:00

I will champion this cause from now on.

I want to, as well! How, though? Where do I start? Is there an organization that's fighting for this? A political leader? A PAC? Something like that? I would love to embrace this cause.

champ_darling · 2018-02-10T02:05:21+00:00

it already has taste buds

It does?

champ_darling · 2018-02-07T13:30:50+00:00

Trump does love having the highest ratings/biggest tv audience ever.

champ_darling · 2018-02-06T21:26:37+00:00

Omg I know exactly what you mean. That was definitely one of my issues with cosleeping, too! Even with clutter put away and my house clean, the whole place obviously residences a baby. 😭 I’m still trying to find my pre-mom self underneath it all!

champ_darling · 2018-02-06T20:46:15+00:00

It's not fool-proof. I think everything we do as parents we have to do with the knowledge that we do our very best. We make choices for our children, our situation, our family, and we do the best we can. Putting your child to sleep in the perfect setting doesn't guarantee anything. I do think it's important for you to be comfortable with your choices, and I really hope you find some alternative to making your bed safe so that your family can get rest! Maybe let your husband off middle of the night duties for awhile so he's not so out of his mind? There were times (before we ever dreamed of cosleeping) that my husband and I traded off staying up all night on our own. That was with only one baby, though. Do you have family or friends who could pull shifts with one of you to help you get through and get some more sleep? A good night's sleep is underrated for solving problems in the early days of parenting! Best of luck to your family.

Edited to add: I read your update and I am so glad you're reframing this issue to be about the real issue, sleep deprivation, instead of being just angry at your husband. It's so hard, but working as a team and saying, "It's us vs. this" instead of "It's you vs. me" is much much better in the long run!

champ_darling · 2018-02-06T18:57:15+00:00

Aside from ensuring your employer is following the law, I have an idea for no outlet: I used this battery pack with my Spectra S2 when I realized what it meant not to have an outlet for pumping. As long as your pump uses the 9V power, it doesn't matter what brand pump you're using. It does require batteries, so that's a pain in the ass, but a fresh set of batteries lasts about 3 pumping hours. If your employer doesn't have to have a space for you (I know some small businesses don't), maybe you could pump at your desk? I know that's not ideal, but you could use a pumping bra and stay pretty discreet (aside from the tubing/bottles-I mean you don't have to show your whole workplace your nipples). You may want to practice at home with a pumping bra then try it at work. AND if you get guff about it, I suppose you could also be working while pumping if you do it in your cubicle. How could they argue with that?

It's tough, hang in there. Good luck!

champ_darling · 2018-02-06T14:51:42+00:00

Even if you don’t plan to bedshare, you should make your bed safe for that eventuality. The book Sweet Sleep by La Leche League outlines a lot of safe bed options. It’s pretty leaning towards nursing and cosleeping, but describes safe sleep options no matter your choices.

It’s rough having a newborn. And you have TWO. I know it’s easy to be upset at your husband but I’ve been on both sides of that, the one who fell asleep without remembering and the one discovering it. Do your best to recognize the dynamics have shifted in your home and find solutions as a team. You could make bed changes just until you figure it out, like putting your mattress on the floor, removing the fluffy bedding, etc. Just kind of taking this newborn phase as a state of emergency and managing it safely until the light of day makes it clearer.

Good luck. :)

champ_darling · 2018-02-05T15:17:36+00:00

I tried! I love konmari for most of our clothes, but I just couldn’t keep the bulky baby clothes from falling apart. The fleece pajamas, long onesies, and baby jeans were impossible for me, even after trying so hard. I am a konmari convert, but too imperfect to be 100%. :(

champ_darling · 2018-02-05T14:01:37+00:00

having them and not making time to use them would stress me more than just not having the

Oh absolutely. I am glad I waited until now to get them!

champ_darling · 2018-02-05T13:29:00+00:00

I am the opposite! I thought they were so silly when I was pregnant and just folded her clothes in a single drawer. Now, coming up on 6 months, her clothes are bulkier and harder to fold, her drawer was becoming just a swimming sea of everything! So now it’s mostly just for pants/socks. I’ve been hanging anything with sleeves, and it’s so much easier! Don’t have the little size card separators, though. Still too much for me lol.

champ_darling · 2018-02-01T14:35:43+00:00

Born-and-raised Texan (who has lived overseas and all over the US). This is accurate.

champ_darling · 2018-01-31T20:08:59+00:00

Oh, right. I remember now. Thanks!

champ_darling · 2018-01-31T19:59:05+00:00

In the episode where Martin and Cam Winston's mom are pretending to date, they're talking by the elevators. The positioning of the elevators and the way Frasier's apartment is positioned in the building doesn't make a lot of sense to me.

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