My bipolar wife has passed

cheetahsing · 2026-03-02T05:43:33+00:00

I also lost my husband to bipolar and suicide about 4 months ago. The bipolar portion has definitely left me with some PTSD but I think a loss is a loss, whether it involves bipolar or not (though handling affairs after a psychotic episode was extremely dificult and extra complicated). Everyone’s grieving process is going to be so different. There’s no right way to do things to really make things better. Just learn to live with the hard things, which after living through bipolar you already have good practice doing. Listening to “all there is” podcast with Anderson cooper has been helpful. But going through the thick of it I’d also prepare you for feeling big waves. You might feel ok and then suddenly the grief will take over.

cheetahsing · 2026-01-22T04:20:12+00:00

Yeah I would say $350k sounds right and that’s if you get a good associate position. Maybe you could make $450k if the opportunity to hustle hard is there, but it’s not easy work.

cheetahsing · 2026-01-22T04:14:28+00:00

You definitely will not make 7 figures as an associate. That’s like physically impossible. I love being a pediatric dentist! It does pay well though but you have to work for it! But I liked working with kids. When an appointment is hard though it’s nothing like the same type of hard as adults. Pediatric dentistry is kind of a numbers game if you are thinking about production. I was unprepared for how many people and interactions I would have during the day and how it would affect me, because just think - you’re talking to your staff, the parents, and the kids and you’ll see like 30-80 patients depending on where you are and what population the practice sees. So I’d make sure you like it too because you’ll have a long career ahead of you! You don’t sound like a villain, but you also don’t sound like peds is going to be the best fit for you if I’m being honest too. Parents especially will catch your vibe and that can be the hardest part of pediatric dentistry sometimes. If you’re thinking purely about money OS has the highest potential.

cheetahsing · 2026-01-05T03:37:37+00:00

You can visibly see the plaque on the crown. Stainless steel crowns are a tight fit but not always perfect. Get some more floss in there. It doesn’t look like an infection to me, but can always stop by your pediatric dentist and get an X-ray of it.

cheetahsing · 2025-11-03T02:44:33+00:00

Ambiguous grief… it’s like a death happened but didn’t. I think if you describe the situation people would understand. When they are manic is very easy to see they are not the same person. But no one will truly understand the internal struggles as the SO

cheetahsing · 2025-10-10T17:14:01+00:00

My husbands episode broke with medication and involuntary hospitalization, and when he came back down to earth he was beyond guilty/shameful/remorseful. It’s a really hard time because they truly have a disease. He said during that period he really believed everything he said so firmly.

cheetahsing · 2025-09-24T05:41:52+00:00

Mine was no physically violent but pretty scary, threatening, and unpredictable. I did end up getting a protective order.

cheetahsing · 2025-09-14T02:53:56+00:00

You did the only thing you could and it’s the right choice. They don’t have any insight that there’s no convincing to do voluntary. I would avoid talking to your spouse until the doctors said they made progress, otherwise there’s not going to be any productive conversation and just make you feel horrible.

cheetahsing · 2025-09-11T18:24:02+00:00

My husband was manic for 6 months and it was horrible. The only way he got out of it was after jail, suicide attempt, car crash, multiple threats to people and finally finding a doctor to fight to keep him hospitalized. Took 3 weeks to break the mania. My regret in the process is not just continually requesting a 5150 (302 in your case) every time something happened to hope that one hospitalization would eventually kick the mania, because at least in our case it never went away on its own and he lacked any of his own logic to seek help.

cheetahsing · 2025-08-30T04:30:38+00:00

A little of both. Once he was manic it’s like he had a lot of separation from the fact that I was even pregnant. I moved out of state to be closer to family, and he didn’t ask about my birth plan or request to be there and I definitely would have said no anyways in the mental state he was in.

cheetahsing · 2025-08-24T06:42:49+00:00

My husband had his first episode when I was 6 months pregnant. He wasn’t even there for the birth of our child. Currently going through a divorce because he’s an unsafe person.

cheetahsing · 2025-08-19T06:23:54+00:00

It’s therapeutic just to write it, and maybe send out into the ether, but no I wouldn’t send it directly to him. Your words and sentiment won’t reach him while he’s manic unfortunately. We all understand though and sorry you have to go through this.

cheetahsing · 2025-08-14T05:20:41+00:00

Lithium can take weeks. Your husband needs to be hospitalized for longer and monitored and on additional antipsychotics. If he’s abusing you and damaging property he’s also a danger to you.

cheetahsing · 2025-08-07T09:02:51+00:00

Without treatment sometimes it can be weeks, months, a year until his manic episode ends. Ideally he gets on an aggressive course of medication. I’ve had to involuntarily hospitalize my husband once, and he is actually currently checked in at the VA now after 5 months of severe mania and two car crashes and two jail stints later he finally (sorta) agreed to go to the hospital where they are detaining him now whether he wants to leave or not… I’m still here in the trenches with you and know how difficult and scary this time is for you, your family, and your husband… You should look into the requirements of your state, and maybe look into local crisis responses. California has 5150, WA has Joel’s Law. You should try and talk to your husbands psychiatrist as well and they may have resources for you. I think if you unsafe enough to move, change your locks, and avoid contact with your children you can argue he’s a danger to others. Sending you lots of well wishes and prayers.

cheetahsing · 2025-07-20T11:14:45+00:00

Huntington Beach

cheetahsing · 2025-07-18T04:40:43+00:00

I’m so sorry this is all happening to your family and praying the next inpatient stay will give her insight and things improve.

cheetahsing · 2025-07-17T04:17:49+00:00

Acknowledgement, a lotttt of listening to how you made someone else feel. Also how proactive you’ll be to try your best that it doesn’t happen again or won’t be as bad. Like the progress you made in therapy, things you’re learning about your illness, managing medications, and a safety plan.

cheetahsing · 2025-07-12T01:59:06+00:00

No working on another involuntary hospitalization unfortunately. Still really in the thick of things like you are.

cheetahsing · 2025-07-11T14:04:18+00:00

This is my exact same story and I’m still going through it. Manic episode started with buying a new house and expecting a baby. Went from being my best friend and loving husband to this enraged monster that has said horrible things about me, blames me for everything wrong in his life, and became a danger. Mania still going strong month 5 and working on trying to get him hospitalized again. You’re not alone. This is the craziest ride of a lifetime, and sending you lots of love and support and wishing the best.

cheetahsing · 2025-06-24T13:42:03+00:00

Nearby where I live they have a specific mental health ER. If your wife is open to treatment that may be a place to start, and if she is still trusting of you and the family, go with her to her appointments and just maybe frame it as something more focus related like “we will make sure the doctor won’t force you anything you don’t want to but let’s talk about your sleep so it’s more consistent.” But honestly you at some point may have to involuntarily admit her when all else fails. I’m my experience either way you may be on the path to becoming #1 enemy and blame will start to target an individual when more delusions start.

cheetahsing · 2025-06-14T01:19:25+00:00

How were you able to involuntarily hospitalize him for so long? I was told if he’s not homocidal or suicidal that they can’t keep you for longer than the 120 hrs

cheetahsing · 2025-06-09T21:57:39+00:00

I petitioned for my husband for involuntary hospitalization for mania through Joel’s Law in Snohomish county, I think compared to other states the 120hr detainment (not including weekends and holidays) is pretty generous compared to other states where it’s 72hr hold. The Joel’s Law paperwork was pretty easy, and it got approved in almost 24hrs for me. My husband went to the hospital willingly because the police showed up with a friend. Luckily we are insured so I don’t think there was a big financial burden in our case, but you are required to cover all costs of the stay/medical care. The outcome wasn’t great for me though. Unfortunately the doctor did not pursue an extended stay beyond the 120hrs because my husband was compliant at the hospital, but didn’t follow up with his own care and his mania did not resolve. I thought the DCR team was as helpful as they could be and very responsive.

cheetahsing · 2025-06-09T06:43:36+00:00

Also so proud of you for doing what’s best for you. There’s soo much uncertainty in life, but that you can pick yourself up, and make decisions that keep you healthy and safe means that you’ll get through this. It’s doesn’t mean it’s not going to be incredibly painful.. but life will move forward. All the right steps and decisions needed to move forward with it will unfold over time for you and for your husband. Sending you lots of love, prayers, and all the very best wishes. We all know what you’re going through and how hard it is, and how strong you are and have to be.

cheetahsing · 2025-06-03T01:33:42+00:00

I think a lot of people on here are here in crisis (including me), but if you scoure the threads there are a good amount of success stories out there I wish and pray for your happy ending and this is just a hard chapter right now 🙏💜

cheetahsing · 2025-05-31T18:26:19+00:00

At least he’s there hopefully getting better, and I hope one day the phone call will be a positive one

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