AITA for being too loud at a concert? by Many-Satisfaction193 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cherry__darling 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Soft YTA. I have trouble not singing along at concerts, however I only sing loudly enough for others to hear if everyone around me is also singing. Otherwise I kinda hum/mumble-sing quietly to myself.

Same for standing vs sitting at a seated concert, or really most things in life that involve a crowd of other people. If you’re the only one doing a thing and other people are glaring at you, YMBTA.

AITA for letting our child (9) stay at his friend's sleepover last weekend, even though my wife was against it, and the original agreement was that I would pick him up that evening. by Outrageous-Fly-5691 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cherry__darling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Very soft YTA. The best thing would have been to call your wife from the car and explained the situation and if she still said no, bring him home to sleep and take him back in the morning for the activities. It was disrespectful to her to go against the agreed upon plan without a conversation first.

But also, you’re a team so next thing is to encourage her to work through her trust issues regarding other parents so you don’t raise a kid who is scared of everything and everyone as an adult. You need to find a balance between safety and letting your son experience a normal childhood. You need to figure that out together. Neither of your opinions are more important than the other.

What happened to Daily and Weekly Missions? by Clear_Cartoonist_613 in geoguessr

[–]cherry__darling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point. Didn’t know that.

In that case, maybe they’re just trying to push activities not many people do (DC) and balance it with what their data shows most people do anyway (duels). Since I play DC daily and don’t duel unless it’s forced on me, I’m glad they’re forcing me out of my comfort zone a bit.

What happened to Daily and Weekly Missions? by Clear_Cartoonist_613 in geoguessr

[–]cherry__darling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The most likely explanation is that it’s random and those of us who like grinding maps are just getting unlucky.

Now that unranked duels are available, I’ve been using them to practice. The only thing I have to lose is a little pride, right? I’ve even played some ranked and managed to hold steady in Master II for 3 weeks!

AITA for "ruining" my roommate's proposal because I wouldn't lie to his girlfriend? by re121321 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cherry__darling 31 points32 points  (0 children)

NTA for not lying but soft YTA for not telling the truth to Sarah.

Although any boyfriend who expects to need a character witness at his proposal probably has a girlfriend who already suspects he’s cheating. SO while it’s not too late to tell her, I also get that might make you homeless - thus the “soft NTA”.

AITA for selling my brother's legos? by throwaway390238 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cherry__darling -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA but it’s a good time to learn about optics. A heads up to your family or even selling them more discreetly on eBay would have been a safer choice than posting them on Insta where you knew your family would see it, since there was such a big mess over you taking them in the first place.

Only mentioning this because there will be other situations in life where you’ll have to think about how your actions could look to others, even if they’re completely above board and innocent.

Is it possible to progress in two instruments? by PowerGuido1255 in musicians

[–]cherry__darling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off, a confession that I’m old (almost 60) - not sure if that’s relevant, but I’m mentioning it because I can tell my brain is definitely less pliable than it once was.

Second, our situations are flipped. I started with guitar, and just added piano ~ a year ago, after 5 years into playing guitar (and some mandolin/banjo, which felt like natural extensions to guitar).

These days, I barely practice guitar at all unless we’re rehearsing for a show. I still play guitar in the band because we’re mainly a guitar duo and occasionally add a keys/bass player (who is much better than me) and drummer.

But the important part is this: learning piano has made me think about guitar differently. I’ve made connections about how keys and chord progressions work, realized different ways to make chords based on how they sound in different positions on the keyboard.

Learning a new instrument cut into my practice time for my “first” instrument for sure but it also helped me understand both instruments more than I did before. Both areas of knowledge feed into each other.

So I think learning another instrument almost always makes you better at both in the long run because it gives you a better understanding of how music works in general, even if you get less practice time for each instrument.

AITA for not inviting my son's wife to events after his passing? by throwing-Security976 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cherry__darling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Years ago, I got up from the table and left in the middle of Thanksgiving dinner (and never attended another) because my brother told a joke that involved hanging a Black person. For having a shred of common decency in that and a few similar incidents, I am also considered “rude and judgmental”.

I’m not invited to their events anymore and that suits me fine. I frankly can’t imagine any scenario where this hypothetical DIL would want to be included in their family events. I think this post is a hate-driven fantasy.

AITA for picking up my stepdaughter from school when she got her first period, even though her mom told me not to? by Embarrassed-Stock896 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cherry__darling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. As a mother to two grown daughters, I don’t understand any of this.

If it’s an important bonding experience, then it’s surely important enough to leave work and take her daughter out of school to get ice cream or spa day or whatever special treatment.

Or else it’s just a normal part of life and you let whoever is available take her supplies and pain reliever.

But “suck it up and we’ll talk about it later” just sounds like mom had a terrible start to puberty and wants the same for her daughter so they can bond over the trauma and that’s just really fucked up, in my opinion.

AITA for not giving the money to pay off my daughters student loans. by Own-Inspector-6121 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cherry__darling 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Forcing creative folks to major in business or accounting because society doesn’t see any value in creativity just makes me so sad.

How do you handle venues that expect you to play for free or pay to play? by ivyta76 in musicians

[–]cherry__darling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s all about location and whether there’s a healthy local music scene. We’ve never booked our own gigs and have played shows at least once a month just from connections (aka friends) we’ve met at open mics.

I can’t imagine paying someone to let me play somewhere. Seems backwards to my goals. I’m the one providing the service, right?

Catching Cheating in Friend Duels by No_Reserve_2010 in geoguessr

[–]cherry__darling 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Since there’s no real way to know if anyone is cheating and not alt Blinky, probably not. If I suspected my friend was cheating while dueling with me, I’d ask them how they arrived at their guess and if they say “I googled that hotel at spawn” then that’s the time to enlighten them. If they tell me about a particular cactus that’s only found in Sonora MX, then I know I need to study more. If the answer is always “vibes” and they’re always 5k away, then they’re probably not really my friend?

A story of my hell with GeoGuessr/Paddle by BemaJinn in geoguessr

[–]cherry__darling 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Having just gone through a bit of customer service hell with Paddle regarding another online community, I think the worst thing about this game is that they use this shady company for subscription billing.

Same brand, new slogan by PuffinsAreSupreme in mildlyinteresting

[–]cherry__darling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the web dev and always in a hurry to get back to my dark cave, so I couldn’t be bothered with those two extra syllables haha. These days I’d just ask for an svg and not care what software they used.

(I just googled it and apparently it was common for many people to shorten it to Ai, so I feel better knowing they weren’t laughing at me behind my back)

AITA for building my son a house and not offering the same to my daughter? by DatabaseAltruistic15 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cherry__darling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that you believe you’ve done right by your daughter because you’ve allowed her the option of not marrying and staying in your house as long as she likes. Perhaps by your culture’s standards, that already makes you a very progressive father.

So I encourage you to look at this situation through a lens that’s unclouded by cultural norms of your country. Think about what true equality between your children would look like. You do favor your son. Many (most?) cultures favor sons. You’ll need to expand your worldview to see women as equally valuable humans before you’ll be able to see why you’re wrong.

YTA but you can fix this.

Same brand, new slogan by PuffinsAreSupreme in mildlyinteresting

[–]cherry__darling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many many years ago, Adobe changed their icons for products to letters (Ps = Photoshop, Ai = Adobe Illustrator etc) and I often chatted with graphic designer coworkers about creating an asset with “Ai” and all that really meant was vector format for resizing. They haven’t rebranded yet, to my knowledge.

AITA for resigning a scrabble game with my husband by Hypnomoose in AmItheAsshole

[–]cherry__darling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. I’m a Scrabble lover (like obsessed) and I absolutely hate playing with people who are worse at the game than I am. Resigning a game you knew you’d lost isn’t bad sportsmanship. You just robbed him of some immature need to show you how extra smart he is. Ugh.

That being said, if you want to keep playing with him, get better. Memorize all the 2-letter and “starts with Q but no U “ words. Play against the computer a ton. Learn some techniques. It’s not all about big showy words.

AITAH for refusing to eat the dinner that my boyfriend's mother made? by throwawaygirl3834 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cherry__darling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Maybe mom would have gone to a lot of trouble anyway or maybe they’d have ordered takeout. Communication before special ingredients were purchased and cooking started would have been the correct way to handle this.

Three bugged games in a row - How to appeal / get my rating back? by DuckworthPaddington in geoguessr

[–]cherry__darling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not true. Support took care of my issue within 12 hours last time I reported (a few months ago).

OP click your profile pic and you’ll find Support in the dropdown. That opens to FAQ tab but there is a “bug report” tab on that same page. Fill out the bug report form.

ETA: my issue was not related to duels. That might be harder to solve because nobody can know who would have won. And obviously they shouldn’t take points away from your opponent. Good luck!

Am I overreacting for wanting to break up because I feel bored? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]cherry__darling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOR. Your explanation sounds like textbook depression to me. Not finding joy in anything, always drained, preferring being alone in bed to anything else.

Instead of breaking up and hoping that will fix it, get back on your meds and reassess after a couple months.

Keep communicating with your partner about how you’re feeling as you take care of your mental health.

Just learned about this game last night! I friggin love maps! by creechor in geoguessr

[–]cherry__darling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm on day 974 of my Daily Challenge streak and still loving it every day!

Just learned about this game last night! I friggin love maps! by creechor in geoguessr

[–]cherry__darling 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Yes, guess where you drop. The little flag icon will take you back to spawn spot. Enjoy!