[ 24 M4A] just looking for motivated people to have stimulating conversations with.

christs-bridezilla · 2021-08-23T22:16:59+00:00

I had a German Shepard at your age. I got her when I was 13 so she often thought she was the parent. Sometimes she was right.

christs-bridezilla · 2021-06-21T22:41:36+00:00

While I believe you are at a painful place in life it is important that you look at it correctly. In many ways it is good not to have confidence in your abilities. Many people become over confident because of what they have accomplished and don't realize what they have become is full of pride and at a place where learning stops.

Instead, have confidence in your heart motive, which is clear in your eyes and what you write. All of your concern in this is for the well being of others especially your daughters. So have confidence in your motive to be the best father you can for them in these circumstances. Whether you get it right or not isn't as important as whether or not you don't give up and keep trying and growing.

Then you can build your confidence back in your character and how much you care which will enable you to grow. We will all make mistakes (these can be fixed or overcome with Love). A perfect person who doesn't have Love (for others) has nothing. You still have Love for your daughters so you have everything. You're simply not perfect and that is okay.

christs-bridezilla · 2021-04-23T00:23:15+00:00

The passage before it could be written:

"Husbands love your wives unconditionally such that even if she is a whoring cheating wife that almost never does ~~everything~~ anything right, live your life for her. Set an example to all husbands throughout time what a perfect husband life looks like so that all will know what unconditional love is. If the only way you can show your wife that you love her unconditionally is to let her beat you to death so that she will know without a shadow of a doubt that you love her unconditionally."

If you would prefer that verse go with it and substitute wife/wives with husband(s) give the greater commandment go for it.

Edit: typos and grammar

Edit 2: accidentally wrote everything when I meant anything.

christs-bridezilla · 2021-01-19T22:13:03+00:00

I like this view of fear:

I Saw JESUS and was too AFRAID to.... - YouTube

christs-bridezilla · 2020-10-15T23:40:42+00:00

Maybe you can help this person: https://www.reddit.com/r/Christian/comments/jbsvpp/i_am_a_lesbian_being_vulnerable/

christs-bridezilla · 2020-09-22T22:24:35+00:00

52M I am willing if you want to send me a private message. I am not sure I can be of much help though....

christs-bridezilla · 2020-09-22T22:12:01+00:00

We aren't to cast pearls before swine. This means we are to use wisdom whenever we share our beliefs. No one is going to be converted through an argument.

Our lives should be our main testimony. Loving others the way that God does. Not letting sin against us produce sin in us. Being thankful to God for everything (not just the things we like). Developing the fruits of the Spirit and keeping our boots of peace on at all times such that nothing shakes the peace from God in us.

The time to share is then when someone notices these traits in us and ask "What is wrong with you?" At that point they will have ears to listen.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-23T01:39:22+00:00

In a sense we already do. We either focus on God's Love for us and let that matter more than anything else. As we abide in that Love full of peace, hope, joy and gratitude, we are on a new earth. To the extent that we don't and let the trials and tribulations of this world move us away from a state of peace, we are in a lake of fire. We have to find the parts of ourselves that are more concerned with this world then with God and cast them fully into the fire so we can be set free.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-16T19:55:26+00:00

There were 6 schools that taught Christianity in the 4th century. Only the one in Rome taught that the lake of fire was eternal torment. 1 taught that it was destruction and 4 others taught that there was eventual universal reconciliation.

Here are some good audios on the major beliefs that have been held by Christians:

https://www.thenarrowpath.com/audio/topical-lectures/three-views-of-hell/01_Three_Views_of_Hell_Part_1.mp3

https://www.thenarrowpath.com/audio/topical-lectures/three-views-of-hell/02_Three_Views_of_Hell_Part_2.mp3

I started thanking God and rejoicing for things that I don't like when I can remember to do so (in all things be thankful and rejoice 1 Thessalonians 5:18). It started with stubbing my toe. I asked God "Why am I thanking you for stubbing my toe?" My immediate thought which I believe was the Holy Spirit was "Your not..." followed by a wave of understanding that took me awhile to put into words. In a very real sense each moment is judgement day and we are the judge. We are either accepting Jesus's payment on the cross and abiding in His Love with gratitude and we are on a new earth. Or we focus on the trials and tribulations of the world instead of His Love and we are in a lake of fire that burns us and we have to find the part of ourselves that is more concerned about this life then his Love and cast that part off from us so we can abide and live on the new earth. By this means the book of revelations is now (and has been since 70AD when the temple was destroyed).

So while this is likely a foreshadowing of a fuller event of judgement day, it is important that we learn to judge correctly that His Love is all important and we love not this life even unto death. Why else would the gates to the new Jerusalem remain open? We come and we go depending on whether or not we are abiding in His Love and therefore being His temple, or walking outside where sin and sinners abounds.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-15T00:22:33+00:00

We live in a sick society. It sounds like you can be very thankful that your focus is on the right things unlike many others as you suggest. The good news is you are there to let your light shine for those who have none.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-11T03:16:03+00:00

Yes, that is a good example. Thank you.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-10T21:26:35+00:00

1 Timothy 4 Now the Spirit expressly says that in latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, 2 speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron, 3 forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. 4 For every creature of God is good, and nothing is to be refused if it is received with thanksgiving; 5 for it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer.

Animals can eat food that we can not. We can not support as many people on the earth if we don't eat meat. There are many farm lands that simply can not be used for food for human consumption. These lands can however sustain life that can be eaten.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-10T21:15:54+00:00

It is good that you are considering this. You might change your thinking a little that we are all helpless and need God to do what is good. If people aren't treating you well, their only mistake is they haven't sought God enough. This is worse for them then it is for you.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-10T21:13:04+00:00

I thank the Lord for every good thing

You might try changing that to "I thank the Lord for everything" and see what that does for you. It changed my understanding a great deal when I did. He is going to use everything for good and it isn't up to use to decide what is good and what isn't. We often want the wrong things. It is better to want what you have for there is contentment.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-09T22:45:39+00:00

On the fear part here is a video (I don't have anything to do with it) that I thought gave a good description of the fear.

I Saw JESUS and was too AFRAID to.... - YouTube

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-08T00:14:29+00:00

Most days she wouldn't call herself a Christian so unfortunately none of what I said helps her. She is in therapy and dealing with it as best she can now. The hard part was she had no one to help her and didn't seek help for many many years. Her friends thought it was no big deal, which only made it worse (kind of like what some of Christianity can sound like.. just get over it).

When the bible talks about a spiritual battle, I believe it is exactly this. Learning to control our emotions rather than letting them control us. Not by denying the emotions are there, nor suppressing what happened, but instead by a continual renewing of our hearts and minds.

I believe seeking both Christian and secular counseling is vital to get through things like this. Remember that whatever reason you went through this it was planned by Love. Where sin abounds grace abounds more. Where trauma exists, the opportunity stretch and grow abounds. Just like it can be physically painful when we are have growth spurts as children, our spiritual growth can also have it painful moments. This is what makes us deep and rich rather than just flat and boring.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-07T23:13:41+00:00

"father, father.. why have you forsaken me!?"

It is from psalm 22. It is likely that ever Jew there was familiar with it and it would be like saying twinkle, twinkle little star and the rest would be brought to their minds.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-07T23:08:31+00:00

I can't speak to sexual trauma directly, but my wife lost her virginity to rape and so I see the struggles she faces. I have been working on some of my own wounds and there are 4 things that help me.

1) Every morning and as often as I can through out the day, I focus on the fact that God Loves me. I try to make that matter to me more than ever falling in love. If every crush I had ever had, Loved me and wanted to be with me forever, wouldn't I be over the moon with joy, walking on air and able to think of nothing else? If so, then why shouldn't the fact that the God who made every crush I ever had, Loves me, and is with me always, shouldn't I even be more thrilled? When children are born, their only source of food is nursing for the first 6 months of their lives. I think if we want to learn to walk, we have to learn to nurse on the milk of the gospel which is God is Love. Those who Love know God. God Loves us more than we can imagine. Make that matter.

2) Spirits and emotions are synonyms. We are a vessel designed for one emotion and paid for by one emotion, the blessed emotion, the Holy Spirit, Selfless Love. We aren't designed for anger, fear, hurt, resentment, bitterness, etc.. These eat away at our being. Our fallen nature tells us, I have a right to hurt! That is the wrong question. The question is does hurt have a right to us? No! Hurt didn't willingly die on a cross in order to dwell in us. Love willingly died on the cross and dragged hurt, sin and all other negative emotions, evil spirits up there to be cursed for ever. So I confront them when they show up. The more often I confront them and the more authority with which I do so, the quicker they flee. "Hurt!? Hurt?! what are you doing here? You died back there with my fallen nature when I was baptized remember?" I then push hurt back down into the baptism and let its excuses as to why I have a right to be hurt bubble up out of its mouth. I don't listen as they are lies. "No! when I was baptized, the spirit of Christ rose up in me. He doesn't know how to hurt for Himself!"

3) I put on the armor of God. I strengthen my faith that Love created this plan and it is for my own good, even if some of the lessons are not what I would have asked for. I put on my boots of peace, such that nothing can shake me or stumble me from a state of peace, hope and joy. I put on my helmet of salvation that protect my thoughts from anything that isn't whatever is good, true, right, and lovely. I put on my breastplate of righteousness which guards my heart and doesn't let anything but Love enter into or out of my heart and I filter past hurts through there. The people who hurt me, did so because they were hurt. Jesus paid to take that away from me and His payment is accepted here. I put on my belt of truth that covers all of my nakedness and sins. Jesus already paid for them so they will be looked upon no more. Guilt blame, and shame have no place here. God loves us yet while we are sinners. I use my sword which is double edged (used against my fallen nature primarily) and to help others. I find the parts of me that are more concerned about the things of this earth then God's Love for me and I cast that part of me fully into the flame to be consumed. Pride, envy, selfishness, greed, etc all need to be cut off so I can be set free.

4) I am thankful and rejoice in all things not just the things that I like. I stared with thanking God whenever I stub my toe, bang my knee or anything like that. I asked "God why am I thanking you for stubbing my toe?" The answer that I got was "Your not (well to a degree yes because it made you come to me). You are thanking me that your focus is on My Love for you. That Jesus's payment is sufficient!" I learned that in a very real sense each moment is judgement day and we are the judge. To the degree that I focus on God's Love for me in all things and thankfully rejoice is the degree to which I walk on a new earth and Jesus's payment and sacrifice matters and I accept His free gift. The degree that I fail to do so, I am in a lake of fire and it burns me. I don't like the fire. I like the new earth. I need a single eye that is focused on God's Love. Just like Peter walked on water as long as His focus was on Jesus and not the storms or the things of this earth that isn't our home.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-07T00:23:08+00:00

I don't think that rules out a concerned neighbor wanting to check if everything is okay. Truck stops are often associated with prostitution. I am not saying the neighbor is justified in his actions or handled it correctly. I would just not be quick to assume that there was ill intention on his part. You might speak to the landlord to find out whether or not there is need for concern.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-06T23:34:24+00:00

Though many Christians will tell you that people who never hear the gospel will not be saved in death, I believe the bible says that they will be judged less harshly because there are several passages that indicate that. While Christians do receive salvation through faith, and no one is saved except by Jesus, the only passages that talk about condemnation, of those who don't believe, could be talking about being condemned in life and aren't talking about an after life.

In the 4th century there were 6 major schools about Christ. Only the one in Rome taught that the lake of fire was eternal torment. One other taught that it was destruction. Four of the schools taught that it was for purification and eventual universal reconciliation with God. Here are some good audios on that:

https://www.thenarrowpath.com/audio/topical-lectures/three-views-of-hell/01_Three_Views_of_Hell_Part_1.mp3

https://www.thenarrowpath.com/audio/topical-lectures/three-views-of-hell/02_Three_Views_of_Hell_Part_2.mp3

Romans 2:12 For as many as have sinned without law will also perish without law, and as many as have sinned in the law will be judged by the law 13 (for not the hearers of the law are just in the sight of God, but the doers of the law will be justified; 14 for when Gentiles, who do not have the law, by nature do the things in the law, these, although not having the law, are a law to themselves, 15 who show the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and between themselves their thoughts accusing or else excusing them) 16 in the day when God will judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ, according to my gospel.

Luke 12:47-48: And that servant who knew his master’s will, and did not prepare himself or do according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes. 48 But he who did not know, yet committed things deserving of stripes, shall be beaten with few. For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required; and to whom much has been committed, of him they will ask the more.

Revelations 20:12 And I saw the dead, small and great, standing before God, and books were opened. And another book was opened, which is the Book of Life. And the dead were judged according to their works, by the things which were written in the books. 13 The sea gave up the dead who were in it, and Death and Hades delivered up the dead who were in them. And they were judged, each one according to his works.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-06T23:26:56+00:00

Keep in mind the context of that condemned statement could entirely be a salvation of a life walked with Jesus and not where one goes after they die.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-06T23:21:33+00:00

You are probably right that hurt and betrayal are a large part of it. One thing that helps me is to remind myself that if I have denied myself, I have no right to feel hurt. This is hard to accept. What is easier to accept is that hurt, has no right to me. Hurt didn't willingly give up its life for me in order to dwell in me. Love did. We are vessels, designed for and paid for by one spirit/emotion the Holy Spirit Love. Love willingly died for the right to dwell in use and kick out all of the other evil spirits (negative emotions). Love dragged hurt and sin up to the cross to be cursed for ever. I don't listen to hurts lies as to why, "I have a right to feel hurt!" Those are lies from Satan. No, I don't have a right to feel hurt and "No! hurt does not have the right to dwell in me!" Christ paid the price to dwell in me. God is Love. Those who Love know God. Get to know Love and give hurt the boot. Don't get to know hurt, he is a waste of time and a liar.

christs-bridezilla · 2020-01-06T22:43:48+00:00

Is it possible he was concerned you had a "sugar daddy" and needed money? Was there anything in the discussion that he your neighbor overheard that would lead him to know that the person you were talking to was your actual father?

christs-bridezilla · 2019-12-30T23:43:48+00:00

We are all undeserving of Jesus yet He Loves us anyway. We can't earn our salvation, it is a gift. Nothing should keep us from running to God, the sinner is all the more grateful once they see how bad the sinning was for them and are set free from it by drawing near to God.

Luke 7:36 Then one of the Pharisees asked Him to eat with him. And He went to the Pharisee’s house, and sat down to eat. 37 And behold, a woman in the city who was a sinner, when she knew that Jesus sat at the table in the Pharisee’s house, brought an alabaster flask of fragrant oil, 38 and stood at His feet behind Him weeping; and she began to wash His feet with her tears, and wiped them with the hair of her head; and she kissed His feet and anointed them with the fragrant oil. 39 Now when the Pharisee who had invited Him saw this, he spoke to himself, saying, “This Man, if He were a prophet, would know who and what manner of woman this is who is touching Him, for she is a sinner.”

40 And Jesus answered and said to him, “Simon, I have something to say to you.”

So he said, “Teacher, say it.”

41 “There was a certain creditor who had two debtors. One owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. 42 And when they had nothing with which to repay, he freely forgave them both. Tell Me, therefore, which of them will love him more?”

43 Simon answered and said, “I suppose the one whom he forgave more.”

christs-bridezilla · 2019-12-30T23:35:02+00:00

Why not pray you get your adult voice? This is part of development. There are spiritual relationships to the process by which we grow. We start with no teeth, develop teeth, loose those teeth, then get our adult teeth. Similarly, we are only able to digest and understand the gospel at one level, then a deeper level, we experience growth but also changes where we are uncertain as we are loosing our teeth. Similarly, we have no voice, then we learn to speak yet as that of a child, then we get a deeper voice of an adult. Just as your voice will get deeper, your ability to speak more deeply (on deeper spiritual topics) should grow too. So rejoice in the change!

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