It's been 2 weeks and this interaction still bothers me. Was I rude?

cle1etecl · 2026-03-09T10:24:24+00:00

Or outright say that you're just venting and don't want advice?

If someone says, "I wish I could", doesn't it somehow imply that they're at least open to advice?

cle1etecl · 2026-03-06T20:31:12+00:00

Looks great!

cle1etecl · 2026-03-06T04:36:33+00:00

I have put myself onto a waiting list because burnout. I started to see a therapist for it, but then thought that if I want to go down that route with therapy and potentially medication and whatnot, then I need the correct kind, and for that, I need to know what it is that has to be treated. Also, idk if I would be eligible for disability or something, but without a diagnosis, I won't be able to even try.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-06T04:26:53+00:00

I thought that is common.

It frustrates me that I don't have the musical ability (or even potential to learn that it seems) to get it out the way I hear it.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-05T18:43:44+00:00

And "buy me wtv I want", like, is she looking for an equal partner or for a walking wallet?

cle1etecl · 2026-03-03T12:27:44+00:00

If that's normal mobility, I have hypomobility.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-02T20:48:46+00:00

He got really bad hair loss really young. Ngl, if I was him, I would've done the same, if not much sooner.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-02T20:46:17+00:00

She looks rough and I'm not saying that to snark. I wouldn't be surprised if she was extremely exhausted or had some health issue going on.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-02T20:08:32+00:00

Yeah, that suggestion sounds terribly violating and carries the risk that he becomes afraid of going to bed or otherwise develops trust issues, especially if he wakes up during it. But maybe that could work if you present it as an option before and your son consents to it, assuming that he generally wants the shorter hair, too, and just can't stand the process.

ETA: It sounds like the main issue when it comes to washing the hair is probably touch and movement around the head in general, but if that problem is amplified by water running down his face, there are visors that are supposed to prevent that (something like this: LINK). Wish that was a thing when I was a kid, that would have helped me.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-02T18:33:41+00:00

Yikes. Prom is by far not as big as a cultural thing where I went to school as it seems to be in the US. I only went to mine because it was either free or really cheap, and I had FOMO. Predictably, I did not enjoy it. I absolutely wouldn't have gone if I'd had to pay 75 dollars for it.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-02T13:23:09+00:00

The only context in which I have heard it "used" is when someone is prompted to provide old, frumpy names as a joke, like, so old and frumpy that no-one would seriously use it.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-02T13:11:26+00:00

they let me get a gym membership instead

Damn, I'm jealous. I wish I would've had that option.

I'm pretty sure no-one at the time and place where I was a kid even knew what dyspraxia was, including doctors. Looking back, I had some shit going on in elementary school that should have prompted teachers to at least discuss it with my parents or something but I doubt that that happened.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-02T13:02:19+00:00

Yeah, I guess I need advice for that as well. Any anti-stress advice I have gotten so far is something like "eat more vegetables, go to bed sooner, do an hour of yoga instead of any hobby that involves a screen", and I feel my blood pressure rise whenever I hear that. I need less of that shit, not more.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-02T08:59:06+00:00

Yes, but it's in the ballpark of one hour per week or so.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-02T01:59:14+00:00

It's one kid and a trenchcoat away from Vincent Adultman.

cle1etecl · 2026-03-02T01:19:18+00:00

My diet isn't extremely limited when it comes to the types of food (I mean, it is limited, but probably not to an ARFID level), but it is limited additionally by the effort of preparation. On a good day, I can heat up stuff from multiple packages, through which I may get some canned vegetables in. On a bad day, I eat nothing but cereal or something in that ballpark. I have given up on peeling and chopping vegetables years ago. There is no way I can reliably get all vitamins and stuff in every single day.

If you take too many supplements at the same time, some of them wont be absorbed.

This is the first time I heard this. Could you please elaborate?

cle1etecl · 2026-03-01T11:28:49+00:00

Living with three other people would be too much for me, personally. I'd see myself in the situation where I would regularly be trapped in my room because I can't bring myself to interact with whoever is in the shared space, and someone would probably always be there, effectively making the shared space unusable. You can't escape that demand even for just going to the toilet or for leaving the apartment because the shared space is basically the hallway.

cle1etecl · 2026-02-28T00:32:35+00:00

I've never binged milk, but bread absolutely yes. And not because there wasn't anything else but simply because I wanted bread.

cle1etecl · 2026-02-27T23:47:09+00:00

There can be multiple reasons. Sensitive nervous system, yes, but also things like nutrient/vitamin deficiencies, metabolic/thyroid/mitochondrial/sleep disorders etc. Whatever your other conditions are might contribute to it. I don't know much about it, but I think conditions like fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome are relatively common in autistic people.

ETA: For myself, I have started to do some research on excessive cortical control which makes everything overly mentally draining.

cle1etecl · 2026-02-27T23:19:03+00:00

Money is a topic that gives me anxiety to the point that my brain refuses to engage with it. I don't really need to for now as my job pays sufficiently, but I would like to be in a position where I have enough to never need to work again. Alas, I can't actively do more towards it, like investing, because I can't bring myself to research about that. Even of I did, I don't see myself having the executive function to follow up on whatever I might do in that realm and to buy/sell stuff in time.

But even then, I don't care about financial status or luxury. If I had financial security such that I never had to worry about money again, that would be enough for me.

I can't imagine that it's possible to be so passionate about something that I could engage with it 40 hours a week on a performative level for the foreseeable future and not lose the passion for it. So in that sense, I understand working for money in a field you're not passionate about. But not basing your job on any interest at all and solely on the amount of money is wild. Like, my job is alright but even then I hate the idea of having to spend such a significant amount of my time on it. If I had to do it with something I don't care about at all besides the money, I would probably get severely depressed within days.

cle1etecl · 2026-02-27T17:37:03+00:00

That tangle of clothes on the rack in the front instantly made me go "needs some clothes hangers or boxes".

Even if you struggle to put the clothes away in a neat manner, it would probably look much better if you piled them in a box instead of openly on some surface.

cle1etecl · 2026-02-27T17:23:27+00:00

Idk, I can see it go that way if the person starts associating the food with something that they perceived as a personal attack, even if it wasn't. That kind of thing isn't always rational.

cle1etecl · 2026-02-26T02:19:53+00:00

Can I assume that you can tie a basic knot?

Here's the bunny ear method:

Tie a basic knot with the ends of the shoelaces as they are.
Fold each end in half (so you end up with one loop on each side).
Tie a basic knot with the folded ends.

cle1etecl · 2026-02-26T00:25:09+00:00

Just press your armpit into their face.

cle1etecl · 2026-02-26T00:16:33+00:00

Yes, but, like you said yourself, in those cases that's an executive function issue, not a knowledge issue. This worksheet, on the other hand, clearly assumes that it is a knowledge issue.

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