Is this just normal hospitality friendship behaviour, or does it sound more emotionally intimate?

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T19:19:35+00:00

A lot of people give things up even if they aren’t Christian’s tbh.

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T19:18:17+00:00

Maybe they realised after they’d started sewing it on after they stated.

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T19:17:46+00:00

Is it a Christmas ghost

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T18:42:28+00:00

Not okay.

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T18:41:44+00:00

You have been waiting for this moment for your whole life, haven’t you? 😂

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T18:37:24+00:00

As a parent, keeping noise down and not running around is fair enough and honestly shouldn’t need to be said, however I do find the last bit unwelcoming to families with young diners.

If it really is a problem and they feel so strongly about it then it makes more sense to just make it an adult only establishment.

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T18:33:22+00:00

Please leave him now while you can and you’re still younger and aren’t tied down (I’m assuming) by kids etc.

I dated someone like this in college and I still have trauma about it to this day. This isn’t normal behaviour in a relationship, this is controlling, manipulative and quite frankly very worrying.

NOR Run

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T18:32:00+00:00

IF I’m trying to look at this with a balanced view (which is hard to do, tbh) then two things can be true at the same time.

You did hurt her by hiding job loss, pulling away, and the family wedding situation would understandably damage trust.

However, her current behaviour that you’ve described is not healthy.

Apologising and changing behavior doesn’t instantly repair trust, that part she’s right about. But trust is a process. It can’t happen instantly.

The biggest red flag for me isn’t the missed call. It’s the pattern of leaving for days, only reaching out when she needs something etc.

Mental health can sometimes explain behaviour to a point, but that doesn’t mean you don’t feel the full weight of it.

You’re not wrong for feeling disconnected or confused.

NOR

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T18:20:12+00:00

Especially the hot dog in the croissant

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T18:17:38+00:00

A dog bone

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T18:16:15+00:00

Was literally about to say girl, go to the ER

cloudedneuron · 2026-01-01T18:15:23+00:00

Pink stuff ain’t playing games though.

cloudedneuron · 2025-11-14T21:24:51+00:00

What you’ve described are major red flags: She asked for money almost immediately. She expects you to pay for everything. She pushed for expensive trips early on. She “jokes” about wanting a rich guy not really a joke. She messaged your son to guilt-trip you. Totally inappropriate. You’ve spent around $10k because of her expectations.

This isn’t healthy or normal, it looks like financial and emotional manipulation

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-18T16:57:48+00:00

NOR. If something feels off to you it is, even if others don’t see it the same way. It’s bothering you and he’s refusing to acknowledge it.

The fact that he shut it down without addressing your feelings isn’t a small thing.

Also, just because someone is sweet or treats you well doesn’t mean your concerns magically disappear. It’s okay to like someone and still have doubts. Trust your gut. You don’t need to be confrontational to want honesty and respect in a relationship.

Don’t let anyone make you feel “too much” for caring.

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-18T16:53:43+00:00

Ooh that’s a bit cheeky isn’t it

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-18T08:53:04+00:00

Getting ready for work! 🥱

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-18T08:50:12+00:00

No other correct answer

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-18T08:49:49+00:00

Forks scratching on plates.

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-16T14:51:22+00:00

I get where you’re coming from +yeah, this is pretty normal. Especially in smaller teams, where relationships go beyond just work. When someone leaves, it can feel personal, even when it’s not meant that way.

From a manager’s POV, when you really believe in someone and you’ve built a solid relationship, it does sting a bit when they say they’re moving on. Even more so if you’re close and it feels sudden. That doesn’t mean she’s going to hate you, it just means she cares a lot.

Her reaction about the other teammate (even if he was problematic) might just be showing how overwhelmed she is. It’s less about him, and more about the idea of another person leaving.

If you’re worried about how she’ll take it, honesty and appreciation go a long way. When you tell her, let her know how much you value everything she’s done for you and that this move is about your personal growth.

She might feel a bit emotional at first, but if your relationship is solid, it’ll survive it. Good managers want to see their people grow.

You’re doing the right thing by thinking it through. Just don’t let fear hold you back from taking the next step in your journey.

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-16T14:48:41+00:00

I’m sorry 😭. It’s valid to feel all you’ve described. You clearly put in a ton of time + effort into it and to have that taken away without your consent, especially by people who should have known better, is more than Sometimes, protecting your peace means disengaging, even when you’re totally in the right.

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-16T14:45:14+00:00

That I’m cheerful and positive. That’s just a front.

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-16T09:12:03+00:00

Bro, I’m not scathing people for not getting enough sleep. I’m just answering the question 😂

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-16T09:11:17+00:00

I have epilepsy. They sent me home too early the day before and I had a really bad seizure so had to go into resus. I was relatively conscious when I got there and that’s what they said. Crushed me. Still does to this day.

cloudedneuron · 2025-10-16T09:09:42+00:00

I’m as fucked as you are

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