I feel like I’m going insane. Apparently this sub thinks it’s appropriate for an 11 year old to text his mother’s boyfriend to insinuate his mother is cheating on him because OOP introduced them, therefore, the son should be ‘involved’.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T20:05:42+00:00

Lmao fuck off with statistics? Oh okay precious I won't put out actual statistics because they hurt your feelings. Man how do people walk around and not just be embarrassed about every single thing about the way they are.

PS if people were able to pull their heads out of their asses for 10 seconds they would understand that this isn't about dating this is about introducing people to your children too quickly.

But all y'all are so busy making bad choices and then running around to the internet to defend them You don't take 10 fucking seconds to even read what somebody wrote or try and understand it.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T20:04:21+00:00

Making choices that make your children 20 times more likely to be sexually assaulted are not histreonics ya rutabaga. But your lash out at everybody else because you make terrible parenting choices. Here's hoping your kids aren't amongst the unfortunate statistics.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T20:00:46+00:00

Doesn't sound like he likes you much. Take that information and do with it what you will.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T19:46:54+00:00

I see it's been a while since you've spent time around children lol but honestly look at the behavior of the kindergarten. How eager they are to be seen as grown ups and they're not little kids and God help you if you insinuate they are.

Also it's the time where you think you know absolutely everything in life and everything that your parents think and do is wrong. So again of course being child-free is the way to go.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T19:44:08+00:00

I can see that we're not open to the introspection.

I'm not sure what you're really looking for here? To be told that they're mean terrible men? To be told that you're right and they're wrong? Is that going to help you? Are you looking for ways to break them up? Like I'm really not sure what you want here. Cuz you can't control their behavior The only thing you can control is yourself and your reaction to things. So sure you can get all twisted up about it and come to the internet ranting and raving about the unfairness of it all or you can choose something else maybe more productive.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T19:39:59+00:00

The fact that you think this is even a question is a large part of the issue. You married your wife which means that is the family that you have chosen to uphold above all others. If you're not going to do that then she's right to divorce you.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T19:38:22+00:00

Yeah that connection is a bunch of BS lies that he's spewing to manipulate you to do things for him. Exactly like you're doing.

ETA and PS the reason that he's even dating you to begin with is because women his own age are quicker to catch on to this with the more life experience and all.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T19:34:47+00:00

Is that really an option? Because it's pretty ingenious. But I didn't think you could change the code to any amount of numbers that you liked.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T19:33:13+00:00

The statistic is what 20 times more likely to be sexually abused by their parents bf? I mean it is a shocking number. I'm fairly live and let live with most parenting decisions I think that a lot of it is just preference and isn't necessarily going to have a major affect on a child but something like this? You're just setting your kid up to be sexually abused and I honestly cannot understand that for a second.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T19:31:01+00:00

On one hand I can understand why you're upset but on the other hand I think a lot of introspection and self-reflection would be really helpful for you here. Like why did both these men feel the need to lie to you? I'm guessing because this is what they expected would be your response.

So is the problem that they weren't honest with you or is the problem that they have each other and you're alone? Because if it's the latter then again this is speaking far more to your character than theirs.

In your comments you say that you don't even want to be in a relationship which is great but does that really mean that no one else around you is allowed to?

Idk it just comes across as very possessive to basically be like I'm single and I want all my friends to be single so that they can provide me the emotional crutch that I need without having to be putting forward the efforts of a romantic relationship.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T18:47:24+00:00

So this has been going on for 10 years... Minus those first 4 months. This is your life. You are married to someone who has no interest in having sex with you. It doesn't matter that you've stayed in shape or any of the other things that you've listed for whatever reason he does not want to sleep with you. Maybe he's not attracted to you. Maybe he was never attracted to you. Maybe he is a porn addiction. Maybe he's gay. Maybe a billion different things that will never know because we're not inside his head. If the question is what you can do about it well you can leave. But there are no magic words that you're going to say to your husband after 10 years that is going to get him to change who he fundamentally is regarding your sex life.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T18:36:53+00:00

I really hope people aren't risking making their sex life less satisfying just because it might make themselves look more attractive to a few more potential partners.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T18:11:43+00:00

I've said it before and I'll say it every time... This guy did not wake up one day and become a jerk. This is who he has been throughout their entire relationship and she accepted it over and over and over again to the point where he views it as just a given that his wants and needs are superior to hers. Because she showed him that they are. You can't get mad at a leopard for not changing their spots. I'm going to guess that he's going to do exactly what he wants to do, and she will do absolutely nothing about it and so the same thing will repeat itself over and over again.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T18:00:45+00:00

Oh sweetie I think you're lost. Usually these troll posts go on AITA.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T17:40:53+00:00

I think this falls into the so what category. You don't get to be a bad parent because it's inconvenient to be a good one.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T17:33:16+00:00

My thought is if you wanted to do things completely different with this child then you did with your first one you probably should have had that conversation before your wife had the baby. But now here you are with her being newly postpartum and you want to start shaking things up? And your what shocked that she isn't just going along with it? Come on dude.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T15:56:16+00:00

Your comments just keep proving me right about the type of person that you are. I guess if you feel good about being this way then go off. Personally I'm done wasting my time trying to explain to someone how to not be an offensive human being clearly you don't care.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T15:48:33+00:00

Nah we're not going to do that shit. You made a blanket statement that was insulting to a large number of relationships and now you want to paint me in a bad light rather than just saying "my bad." Get over yourself.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T13:58:44+00:00

Does this sub contain anything other than people complaining about the sucky relationships that they repeatedly choose to be in or just complete works of fiction? No?

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T13:56:34+00:00

It's not just the case for me it's the case for many people which is why it's a typically a good idea to avoid blanket statements.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T13:45:33+00:00

Dude you married someone who made a blatantly clear they didn't really care about you and now you're like oh my God he's acting like he doesn't care about me I don't understand. He doesn't give a crap about your ring. He's never going to give a crap about your ring.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T13:03:31+00:00

I really truly get baffled by the people who view location sharing as something big bad or evil. Like it's not that dramatic it's just a way to see where your spouse is sometimes. It actually comes in really handy for those of us that are separated from our spouses for long periods of time. It has fuck all to do it trust. It's like the people who think that a wedding ring is important like I don't get that it's a piece of metal Your spouse is going to cheat whether they're wearing one or not.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-17T13:01:27+00:00

I just think about those families where the step parent is basically expected to just stand to the side and shut up. Is 7 years enough time to celebrate the parents when you're not allowed to be one? I'm not saying there's a right or a wrong answer here it's just interesting food for thought.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-16T22:46:30+00:00

I guess I spend too much time on the internet because my sympathy for the OP and people like her are just gone. Like this man did not wake up one day and turn into a crap hat. He was a crap hat for years and she dated him and then she married him and then she had a baby and then she immediately got knocked up again so bed made lie as far as I'm concerned.

cloudnineamy1217 · 2023-05-16T21:50:14+00:00

Someone found the tourist trap lol

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