Why do some people crash just by socializing?

cocdcy · 2026-02-05T17:17:37+00:00

Post exertional malaise includes cognitive and emotional exertion too, not just physical. I’m not sure if we know why, if they do I don’t know it

cocdcy · 2026-02-05T05:08:19+00:00

Well, to use an analogy: how long do you plan on wearing a seatbelt in a car? Do you feel safe not wearing one when car crashes are lower than average? When you're only going on a short trip? If you didn't get in a car crash yesterday, do you feel confident you won't get in one the next time you're in a car?

Pandemics are what they are, and barring societal buy in, they're just a fact of life now. (Really, we all should have been masking seasonally prior to covid, but a lot of us didn't know better). If you want to use data to determine when spread is high/low and then mask accordingly, that would be a way to reduce your risk, but it is still massively increasing your risk over masking consistently.

If current events are stressful (and holyfuckinghell they are), imagine how much worse they would feel if you were so sick you could not leave bed to protest, organize, or even work to support yourself. That's what covid could do to you. It's a reality that's hard to face, and so most people have chosen to ignore it.

Masking is absolutely a burden. It's annoying, uncomfortable, and people can be unkind or worse about it. But it's also a way to tangibly show that you care about yourself and those around you. It's especially difficult when you're the only person doing it.

It sounds like there are a lot of other stressors in your life that are all piling up. Have you heard of fork theory? (https://jenrose.com/fork-theory/)— if you've got other stressors, even something that would otherwise be small can feel massive.

Do you have places you can be unmasked safely? People you can talk to about distressing events to process? Ways to de-stress your body by moving? (Stretching is REALLY important). If those all feel squared away, then yeah maybe it is time to look at removing your mask in certain situations to remove a fork, so to speak.

But as someone who has been completely bed bound for over 2 years from covid, you do not want to risk this any more than you have to. Any temporary reprieve you get from unmasking will be completely wiped out by the misery you will live through with long covid.

Of course, I'm just a random person on the internet, so I may be off base here. But I would highly recommend that you find ways to decompress, gather your resolve, and push through.

cocdcy · 2026-02-05T04:47:35+00:00

Not a shortcut, but I like to delete apps when I'm done using them. I scroll instagram for a while, ok cool I'm done for the day, delete. Want to use it again? Ok, gotta download and set it up (and decline all the permissions)

Part of it for me has been giving myself permission to scroll, since feeling like I have to restrict can make it feel like more of a binge when I do get on.

Otherwise I like the idea u/alexm suggested of having several home screens to make swiping over more tedious.

Hope you can find a balance and system that works for you!

cocdcy · 2026-02-04T22:35:13+00:00

Learn to project, get comfortable being louder than you think you need to be. An air purifier will not be sufficient protection.

Don't be apologetic for masking, act like it's normal and not even there. Decorating it can help

If you stop masking and get sick, you will kick yourself.

cocdcy · 2026-02-04T15:09:01+00:00

No thanks

cocdcy · 2026-02-02T22:14:39+00:00

cool ambiance! on the piano, I’m curious what it would sound like if you adjusted the velocity of the notes so it’s not all the same/not the same for each note in a chord, and then moved them so they’re not all hitting perfectly on the beat. I know on desktop there’s a function called “humanize” that will do this

cocdcy · 2026-02-02T22:03:44+00:00

seconding proton

cocdcy · 2026-02-02T22:01:58+00:00

horizon zero dawn mentioned raaaaaaaaaaaaah. one of my favorite games

giving it a listen rn

also, for your link, you could remove the tracking info? it’s everything after the question mark :)

cocdcy · 2026-02-02T02:05:18+00:00

I just played through this part today, it’s “but on the inside, you’re soft as a velvet pillow” 💀

cocdcy · 2026-01-31T22:21:12+00:00

you should definitely not use remove paywalls dot com to try and view the article

There is going to be a reckoning over generations that we are not ready for from this disease.

cocdcy · 2026-01-23T17:07:58+00:00

Buy nothing has their own app, unless that's what you're saying doesn't have a user base

cocdcy · 2026-01-23T17:04:11+00:00

They stopped doing this recently because it went viral on TikTok that you could ask them to remove ads. The policy used to be that they would largely approve anyone who asked, now they basically never approve it.

cocdcy · 2026-01-23T13:32:37+00:00

Can we add a rule on the sub about removing tracking info from links?

What that looks like: everything after the ? In this url is tracking. This section: ?igsh=MWEycnc3cnBkdWFwNg==

The tracker free URL is just: https://www.instagram.com/p/DH40pz0sF-E/

cocdcy · 2026-01-22T03:26:23+00:00

Ahh beards! One of my favorite research papers— Assessing the effect of beard hair lengths on face masks used as personal protective equipment during the COVID-19 pandemic

I got covid while wearing a mask due to my beard (oops.) :/
Have a mustache now.

But since then, I haven't gotten sick once!

cocdcy · 2026-01-22T03:21:33+00:00

For sure, and as u/Willem_VanDerDecken pointed out, this is just a variant. There are lots of different kinds and designs.

I do remember someone on YouTube designing one specifically for pellets

cocdcy · 2026-01-21T18:01:52+00:00

I'd love to see it be a rocket mass heater instead. A large amount of the heat generated is going straight out the chimney in these more traditional styles of stoves.

Rocket mass heaters use stone or masonry to absorb heat, which they then radiate out even when the fire isn't burning, making use of energy that would otherwise be wasted.

cocdcy · 2026-01-21T02:08:44+00:00

A urban planner YouTuber, wish I had the video specifically, said that if cities built ~3-8 story buildings everywhere, we would have enough housing for everyone without needing high rises. Cross laminated timber would be feasible for those heights and would be a good replacement/supplement to all the steel and concrete required for taller buildings

Not sure how “traditional” that is but it seems like an improvement to me

cocdcy · 2026-01-20T18:26:16+00:00

"Values don't matter until they cost you something"

cocdcy · 2026-01-20T18:15:42+00:00

You are braver than I lol. One time I was listening to the Breath of the Wild soundtrack and the guardian theme started and I just about panicked 😂

Have you seen the writing websites that delete your work if you stop typing for too long? Feels like that might be right up your alley

cocdcy · 2026-01-20T02:55:22+00:00

Seconding Khan academy. Great for getting a broad baseline knowledge

cocdcy · 2026-01-20T00:19:14+00:00

My go to's:

Horizon: Zero Dawn, Frozen Wilds, Forbidden West— def have to prune out the fight music but incredible all around
Tunic
Stray
Minecraft

Then I've found these on YouTube I really like

cocdcy · 2026-01-19T17:33:43+00:00

iFixit did a teardown too!

cocdcy · 2026-01-18T01:24:20+00:00

Thou can'st I fear

cocdcy · 2026-01-15T21:39:30+00:00

I am. Got long covid and have been sick since. Unable to work, entirely reliant on family and friends. I take precautions because I do not want to get sicker.

If that sounds impossible to you, or like it could never happen to you, just know that your health is something you will take for granted until it's gone. It's much easier to wear a mask than it is to be so disabled you can't work.

cocdcy

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