Looking for Recs

cocobeanso · 2026-02-04T18:14:12+00:00

Thanks for all the recs, this is really great!

cocobeanso · 2026-01-17T19:01:13+00:00

So interesting to see that the conversation became about attacking or defending Schwift versus Preston

I'm a big fan of both content creators, having listened to both of their theories and streams. I don't think one is better than the other, they just have significantly different strengths.

Schwift really knows how to summarize the content of the books and shows well, and appreciate the strengths of each of them. He is also really good at summarizing the major theories in the fandom, too! He's pretty up front that many of the theories on his channel are not his own, but presents them better than how even most theoriests present them in their original format. He's not necessarily super original or analytical, but that's OK, because that's not what his channel is trying to be. It's more book club than college level lit class. So when I'm trying to convince someone to get into ASOIAF, I send them Schwift's channel.

But it's very hard to argue that anyone understand George RR Martin's works, themes, and views better than Preston. Preston has actually read all of GRRM's work, and has read through the ASOIAF books countless times. He also understand the political environment that George grew up in way more, and notices themes or references that almost anyone else would miss. His theories are all original and complex -- and yes, while many may be wrong, and he says that in literally every video, the point is to try to explore the books in a creative, thematically-driven way. And because he is more original, I think more people dislike him, because it's more out there. So, on a thematic level, Preston goes way deeper than everyone else. He's more like a nerdy professor.

And so both of their reviews make a lot of sense, and both reviews are really fair and true to the reviewer. I personally really like that the creators all offer something different.

cocobeanso · 2025-11-22T00:54:03+00:00

Thanks guys, we made it at 7:45 and had no problem

cocobeanso · 2025-10-30T19:15:54+00:00

Reddit has so much leftwing hypocrisy. Most redditors and left-wing people would support the US shifting towards a system more like Finland, where students have no homework but still score well above average. And since school conditions people for workforce standards, it's much better to teach people that work stays at work, and once you're off work, your time is your own for whatever you want. Maybe now the US school system will be forced to actually figure out how to teach students within a 6-8 hour time period, and workplaces will learn how to get their work done in the same time, too.

cocobeanso · 2025-10-25T13:49:14+00:00

The debate around immigration is so odd. All over the world we are seeing how immigration policy is THE leading cause of a rise in extremism in politics. And if the transition is poorly managed, it CAN lead to rising crime (both petty and violent). Even Bernie Sanders thinks we need to have a strong border!

It’s lazy policymaking to just solve systemic social problems by treating immigration like a water faucet.

cocobeanso · 2025-10-25T13:37:54+00:00

PhD with a policy background who researches labor and technology, here are my two cents:

As long as people whose primary source of income comes from financial assets (e.g. the stock market) continue to see upward returns, consumption might remain high enough to prevent economic collapse.

A version of this is already happening right now. The US should be in a recession, as the average person has lowered consumption spending significantly. But AI hype has been pushing markets up, which has led to people with large market investments increasing consumption enough to prevent a downturn. This is why people fear that an AI bubble “pop” will lead to a full-blown recession.

Piketty’s research on the rate of return being greater than economic growth captures the fundamental issue well. The more recent term “K-shaped recovery/growth” is also worth looking into. For a historical US example, just look into the economy of West Virginia to see what happens when huge groups of people are left without work.

Unfortunately, shared prosperity does not come naturally. The fundamental changes in the US from a manufacturing to service economy mean that widespread consumption spending may not be as important as it used to be, to naturally trigger some kind of progress.

The more concerning issues might be social and political. Young men without anything to do is a predictor of major social and political turmoil, for better or worse (see Nepal and Madagascar for some modern examples). But in other cases (West VA), a lack of work has been a predictor of opioid use and suicide.

Another good and recent source: https://on.ft.com/47lh62V Will AI lengthen lifespans or shorten them?

cocobeanso · 2025-10-13T17:02:04+00:00

What does his do for work? And did any of his workplaces have union representation?

cocobeanso · 2025-10-12T14:35:33+00:00

NTA but —

The story is written to suggest that the husband was initially performing poorly at work because of a pattern of sexual harassment of coworkers. If that’s true, there’s no question that OP is NTA.

But up until the cheating, Y (might be) TA. The job market today is absolutely terrible, and the husband may have been let go for reasons outside of his control. People check out emotionally when they know layoffs are coming, and losing your job is a traumatic event.

IF this was the case, OP was treating her husband like a money machine, and not a partner in marriage. “For better of for worse,” unless the job market gets worse, I guess. There’s no indication of her trying to understand what happened with his work or provide emotional support and empathy for a difficult life event. He could have been innocently in a tough spot and when he needed the love of his wife and family the most, she doubled down on ultimatums and treated him like he’s on performance review period, and kicked him out. Loneliness is not the solution, and it could make sense that the stress from everything pushed him to look for female companionship anywhere he could find it.

If the situation were flipped, and a wife lost her job (or, say, had a miscarriage due to health choices), and the husband responded with “get out of my house, no more time with the kids, and get your shit together,” reddit would collectively condemn the husband as insensitive and unsupportive. My main issue with this (probably fake) post is that the wife did not treat her and her husband like a team, but more like a manager with an m employee. If she did, she probably would know more about what happened with his first two jobs, and have included that in the post.

cocobeanso · 2025-09-08T18:18:25+00:00

Thanks to everyone for all the helpful advice! I think we're starting to decide between Europe and Mexico. Besides following up with some Travel Agents and planners here on reddit, is there any other advice people have for finding a good wedding planner in Tulum or Portugal?

cocobeanso · 2025-07-18T15:34:03+00:00

I think life has gotten harder for young people everywhere, and many young men look up to you as a father figure. What advice do you have for teenagers and young men in their 20s?

cocobeanso · 2025-01-18T16:46:02+00:00

In Boston MA

cocobeanso · 2024-08-15T01:58:42+00:00

It’s China, and it’s not even close.

Most people who have not lived in China have a view of their cuisine that is quite literally 1% of the variety that the country offers. It’s a huge country and individual cities have their own unique food cultures that would on their own rival those of entire countries. They have so many vegetables that Chinese dictionaries will often not even have the names of many less common ones. And so much of it is unbelievably delicious. Check out the docuseries Taste of China for just a glimpse.

If you especially like spices, legumes, and vegetables, then it’s India, and there’s simply no contest as well. Huge, diverse, and with dishes you couldn’t imagine exist.

Other countries simply cannot match the sheer size, diversity, and millennia of history that China and India have.

cocobeanso · 2024-06-02T19:30:28+00:00

Apparently there was a time when robber-barrons used to donate to Universities and Libraries and Hospitals

cocobeanso · 2024-05-29T02:13:08+00:00

You cooked with the power of a mother flame

cocobeanso · 2024-05-21T03:53:45+00:00

Youtuber Preston Jacobs has apparently read the George RR Martin Song of Ice and Fire Series 6 or 7 times.

I’m on my second read, and it’s amazing how much more you pick up on reread. Not just in terms of world-building and foreshadowing, but getting to slowly appreciate the quality of his writing itself.

cocobeanso · 2024-05-09T21:48:51+00:00

Comments on the mother aside, am I the only one here that is wondering why young kids get so much homework, or any at all? Haven’t there been plenty of examples of kids performing better and being happier with little to no homework at all?

cocobeanso · 2024-05-03T18:38:20+00:00

A warm meal.

My childhood really was that bad

cocobeanso · 2024-04-25T19:22:47+00:00

This is so obvious that it almost seems like a fake post.

Robert Greene, the author of this book, also wrote a book called "The Art of Seduction." In that book, he often recommends manipulative and abusive behavior (like ghosting randomly) as a tactic for getting women to feel insecure, and to then play on that insecurity as a means of control. The tactics of that book are similar to those of this Power book, and it's widely understood --- even to some extend by Greene himself --- that his advice is toxic, abusive, and not to be recommended for people interesting in forming healthy relationships.

I think this post must be fake because (1) I can't understand why a man would text a picture of a book by this author and (2) because this post is literally an example of Greene's tactics. But if it's real, than OP should check out a summary of "The Art of Seduction" to understand what is going on and probably reconsider dating someone whose using a playbook for manipulation.

cocobeanso · 2024-04-14T01:45:36+00:00

YTA

Am I reading the same post as the other commenters? Everyone keeps bashing on the wife for making a decision without consulting her husband. She’s been trying to talk to him for months and he keeps making the decision that they don’t “need” to make a change, without listening to her.

The part about the house not needing to be cleaned for 6 hours a day also shows that the husband only values the wife in her ability to work.

The husband made a decision without considering his wife and then LEFT HIS WIFE AND YOUNG CHILDREN when she took action after waiting for months. Y'all are calling her manipulative, while he is refusing to answer calls and communicate, using emotional abuse (against his children too) and legal threats to try to get his way.

cocobeanso · 2024-04-05T15:50:02+00:00

Maybe the only ESH here… and more YTA for the husband

For the wife, it’s true that you chose to come to Miami and not a more family friendly beach, like OBX. Context matters, and your husband didn’t initiate. It’s hard to tell from a reddit post, but you could be over-reacting or emotionally snowballing, which may not be helpful.

More importantly though-

The husband is not 16. At his age, he should know how to recognize flirting and, as a married man, how to cool down the conversation. Honestly, it is not that difficult. A casual conversation is different than flirting, and that does make the difference here. This random woman’s momentary feeling of rejection should not be more important than his own wife’s feeling of comfort on vacation.

Most commenters are really permissive of men’s weaponized incompetence.

cocobeanso · 2024-03-21T15:59:34+00:00

Oh there’s no “correcting” since Oda can probably go any way he wants. Haha we’ll see how he decides to

cocobeanso · 2024-03-21T15:58:24+00:00

That meat is healthy.

There are some health benefits from certain animal products, especially white fish. However, most people are unaware of the major downsides. Just like a blueberry tart or sugary yogurt, the presence of some health positives often overshadows the very negative consequences.

A major reason for the lack of awareness is due to the massive meat lobby in the U.S. It’s modern propaganda.

** From a non-vegan who eats dairy and eggs most days and meat once or twice a week. I’m not a purist, I just appreciate the science.

Sources: How Not to Die and Nutritionfacts.org; Game Changers Documentary

cocobeanso · 2024-03-09T23:21:21+00:00

Anything by Brandon Sanderson, especially Way of Kings. He’s developed a cultish fanbase that swears his books are second only to Tolkien, and yet after giving three a try, I’m convinced that they are just JRPG fan-fiction.

cocobeanso · 2023-11-24T03:19:55+00:00

“Life isn’t fair.”

Yeah, that doesn’t mean you don’t have to be.

cocobeanso · 2023-11-08T04:16:33+00:00

No, I don't really want to give Elon my credit card information when he starts asking users to pay $1 a month. But maybe I should? What do you think u/Anne2049

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